Coach Jay presents his 5C framework for overcoming tiredness and stress: Clarity, Calibration, Confidence, Competence, Consistency, in that order. He argues that lack of results comes from half-baked ideas and teaches how to train your brain's reticular activation system and replace negative self-stories with empowering ones.
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What is up, man? Quick little live. I got a session in about an hour, so I'm gonna hop off in about 45 minutes just to give me about 15 minutes to transition, get Zoom set up, you know, all of that good stuff. Hopefully everybody having a phenomenal morning, man. What's going on, Coach Shay? How you doing? Welcome to the live, man. Y'all already know we jumping in at the fact that you could be doing now anything you desire. The fact that your only limit in life is your own imagination. If you can think it, You could do it. You can't think it, you got a problem. And I see so many people out here trying to execute things that they haven't yet thought about. Yeah, you're trying to execute a half-baked idea and wondering why you anxious. Out here trying to execute a half-baked idea and you wondering why you procrastinating. It's not a confidence problem, it's not a discipline problem, it's a clarity problem. You can't get what you want until you know what you want. The motivation don't show up until you know what you want. The confidence don't show up until you know what you want. Confidence is literally your belief in your ability to achieve a specific outcome. How do you have confidence without a specific outcome? Confidence requires a specific outcome. Stop taking action without a specific outcome in mind. Okay? Stop spending your money without a specific outcome in mind. Stop spending your time. Stop spending your energy without a specific outcome in mind. Outcome in mind. You can't get what you want until you know what you want. Understand that. And also understand that your only limit in life is your own imagination. I don't, I don't care who in the White House. I don't care what the weather is. I don't care what the economy is. I don't care how much groceries cost. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. If you can think it, you could do it. If you can imagine yourself successful in this, in this economy, you could be successful in this economy. If you can't imagine yourself successful in this economy, you can't be successful in this economy. If you can imagine yourself successful with Trump in the White House, you could be successful with Trump in the White House. If you can't imagine yourself successful with Trump in the White House, you can't be successful with Trump in the White House. I need you to understand it is not the circumstances that's stopping you. It's your thinking around the circumstances that's stopping you. Your body and your endocrine system, your nervous system doesn't respond to reality. It responds to the story that you tell it about reality. And I suggest you start picking that story on purpose. Stop telling stories that paralyze you. Stop telling yourself stories that depress you. Stop telling yourself stories that knock the wind out of you. Tell yourself a story to get you out of bed excited. Tell yourself a story to cause your shoulders to go back, your chest to go out, and your chin to go up. Tell yourself a story to get you excited about sharing your story. Tell yourself a story that's not only gonna motivate you but motivate others. Tell yourself a story that other people want to play a part in. Some people's stories so sad, you don't want no parts of that, man. Ain't nobody investing in my business. Ain't nobody spending their money on that sad-ass story. Nobody don't support me. Don't nobody want to support that sad-ass story. Figure out what you want. Stop spending so much time on what you don't want, what's going on, and understand that your only limit in life is your own imagination. Let's put that in the first person. I want everybody in here. Say it in the chat. My only limit is my own imagination. Say it out loud and type it in the chat. My only limit is my own imagination. If I can think it, I can do it. If I can hold it in my head, I can hold it in my hands. Now, if I can't hold it in my head, guess what? I can't hold it in my hands. Everything is a thought before it's a thing. Not one thing was a thing before it was a thought. There you go, Phil. Let's let's pin that to the top. There you go, Stephanie. See, I I see who paying attention now. Y'all be trying to treat this like a podcast. It's not no podcast. This is a live stream. I love streaming because I like being in the room with you guys. I like to be able to feel the energy in the room with you guys. YouTube, I ain't gonna lie. TikTok over here beating y'all. TikTok over here got the comments moving. TikTok over here interacting. YouTube, y'all got the same amount of people. Y'all over here listening. Let's turn it up. Come on, let's go. And yo, I'm the same name on both platforms. I Coach Bosses everywhere. I Coach Bosses on all the platforms. Follow us everywhere. As you can see, some, some things can go missing. What's going on, Luke? How you doing? What's up, Key? Welcome to the room. What's up, Oscar? So people who just joined us, what we're talking about is the fact, not the idea, not the concept. We're talking about the fact that you could be, do, and have anything you desire. But you got to actually take time to desire. You got to understand that upset because it's not here yet is not desire. Hating on other people who got it, that's not desire. Throwing a fit because you think you could feel, that's not desire. Desire is seeing yourself moving towards what you want. Desire is being able to get in your imagination and see yourself having that thing. You new here? Welcome, June. Make sure you hit that subscribe button. Keep tapping in with us. Because this way you get your daily reminder that you could be, do, and have anything you desire. Nothing can stop you except for you. One person got to believe in you. That one person isn't your mama. That one person isn't your dad. That one person isn't your spouse. The only person that got to believe in you for you to be successful is you. When you believe in you, oh, if you could just sit in that belief, everybody else gonna fall in line. Everybody else is gonna fall in line. Nothing can stop you except you. A recession can't stop you. Depression can't stop you. Anxiety can't stop you. A death in your family can't stop you. A divorce can't stop you. Now you can look at that stuff and decide to quit, but make no mistake, that thing didn't stop you. What's going on, Debbie? What's up? What's up? What's up? Y'all, y'all, y'all, y'all keeping up with me? Is this making sense? Nothing can stop you. Now you can decide to quit, but make no mistake, it didn't stop you. You decided to quit. You are limitless. If you could think it, you could do it. And I'm also tell you, if you think about it long enough and hard enough, you'll do it on accident. If you start holding a picture of your success in your mind, okay, let's look at it this way. When you think about something that you don't like and you add in the details about what you don't like, how you can't stand your boss or how he talked too much and he overmanaged you and yada yada yada yada yada. When you think about those types of things, do you have to try to get upset or do you accidentally get upset? Do you have to try to feel overwhelmed, or do you accidentally feel overwhelmed? Do you have to try to procrastinate, or do procrastination just follow that type of thinking? I always say— you subscribed, appreciate the subscription— I always say if it work in that direction, it'll work in that direction. If you can use your imagination to get depressed, or you can use your imagination to procrastinate, you can use your imagination to get anxious, you can use that same imagination to get motivated, you can use that same imagination to get inspired, you use that same imagination to kick yourself into a creative zone. But it's going to require you to start thinking on purpose. If you start thinking on purpose, you can mess around and be successful on accident. If you start thinking about what you want and stop spending so much time thinking about what you don't want, you'll start moving towards what you want on accident. We teach something that we call the 5C method: clarity, calibration, confidence, competence, consistency. When you start running those 5Cs on purpose, Man, you'd be surprised what, um, 3 months can look like. You could turn your whole life around in a matter of months by getting clear about what you want. Forget about what you don't want. Getting clear about what you want. After you get clear about what you want, calibrating to what you want. Jay, what's calibration? Putting your attention on it. Welcome to the family, Z. Putting your attention on it. Think about it. When you calibrate to a funny movie, you don't got to try to laugh. Just calibrate to the movie. What's up, thoughts become things? Oh, that's that's what you said. Thoughts absolutely become things. When you calibrate to a funny movie, you don't got to try to laugh. That's what happens when you calibrate to a funny movie. When you calibrate to a sad movie, you don't got to try to get sad. That's what happens when you calibrate to a sad movie. When you take the time to get clear about what you want and you get calibrated to what you want, you don't got to try to get confident. You don't got to try to get inspired. You don't got to try to get motivated. When you get calibrated to what you want, good ideas find you. When you get calibrated to what you want, motivation finds you, inspiration finds you. When you get calibrated to what you want, people want to do business with you, people want to date you, people want to be around you, people want to spend money with you. Thanks for subscribing, June. But when you calibrated to what you don't want, people don't want to date you, people don't— people don't even want to really talk to you. They might be nice and do it anyway, but don't nobody want to be around nobody who's calibrated to what they don't want, who's full of bad heavy energy. How your day going, man? Let me tell you about— all right, I gotta, I got an appointment, gotta go. God bless you. I got, I got to get up out of here. Do yourself and everybody who has to deal with you a favor. Ask yourself the magic question. Coach Jay, what's the magic question? The magic question is, what would I rather have? Asking that question every day will change your life. When you see something you don't like, instead of getting hypnotized by what you don't like, Instead of leaning into what you don't like and getting descriptive about what you don't like, start asking yourself, what would I rather have? I don't like my job, man. My boss is so annoying. What would I rather have? I don't like when my wife nagging. She always just. What would I rather have? I don't like that it's not enough money in my bank account. It's always more money than money. Instead of going on that tangent, what would I rather have? I first started realizing this work. I used to be in the military. I hated. Being in the military, couldn't grow my beard, couldn't wear what I wanted to wear, couldn't live where I wanted to live. Even when I was streaming back then, I had to be very careful about what I said because if I said the wrong thing, I could get in trouble. I didn't like it. Now I got a choice. I can keep talking about the fact that I don't like it. I can find other people who don't like it, and we can get on the phone and we can talk about it. Or I can say, "What would I rather have?" I want freedom. I want choice. I want to get paid to do things that I love. I don't want to work. I want to get paid to do things that I would do for absolutely free. I want to go back to school. I want to be a clinical hypnotherapist. I want to hypnotize people into their success. I want to teach people about hypnosis, and I want to teach them that hypnosis is not just you're getting sleepy, quack like a duck. I want to teach them you can use hypnosis to be successful. You can use hypnosis to rewire your mind. I want to remind people who they are. I want to remind people they could be, do, and have anything that they that they desire, and I want that to be my full-time job. When I started thinking about that, it felt impossible at first, but as I kept thinking about it, I started picking up different books. As I kept thinking about it, I started listening to different podcasts. As I kept thinking about it, I started meeting other people who was thinking about the same thing or similar things. As I kept thinking about it, I started finding programs that I could go to to do that that the military would pay for. As I kept thinking about it, I started finding customers. As I kept thinking about it, I started finding clients. As I kept thinking about it, the name came up, the logo came up, the branding came— everything started to pick up momentum as I kept thinking about it. Do yourself a favor, don't go to bed tonight without knowing what you want. Figure out what you want and start thinking about it. That's step 1. Well, I guess that's step 1 and 2. Figure out what you want is step 1. You can't get what you want until you know what you want. Imagine what happened if you got in an Uber and you said, "Don't take me to the mall. I hate the mall. It's too expensive. I'm not paying all that money for no one pair of shoes." Now those teenagers up there just, "Man, don't take me to the mall. You go to the mall? That's stupid. I don't know why you go to the mall wasting your money at the mall. Nah, I stopped going to the mall back in 2015, man. Now I ain't been to the mall. I hate the mall." Why are you sitting in the back of the Uber going on a rant about where you don't want to go when the whole point of the Uber is to take Take you where you want to go. That's crazy, isn't it? That's insane, isn't it? If you wouldn't do it on Uber, why are you doing it in life? You know how many people walk through? I can't stand my job. My bosses, she think because she got her little master's degree, she all this. She ain't this smart. Her bad bills. I can't stand her. Yada yada yada yada yada yada. Girl, the other day she called me on my off day and I went up there being nice and then she asked me, can I work? No, I can't work late. I can't stand this job. What do you want? Because that conversation gonna keep you at that job. That conversation gonna keep you under the influence of what you don't want. And even if you go to another job interview, if you go to a job interview under the influence of what you don't like, your energy gonna be off. The other company not gonna want you. They gonna leave you over there miserable where you at. Don't nobody wanna hire nobody miserable, angry, and upset at the work. If you just got out of a divorce and you still under the influence of what you didn't like about the marriage and you call yourself dating, You're not getting no second date. You are— you gotta get under the influence of what you want and then go for what you want. You got to start thinking about what you want before you start trying to get what you want. You can't get what you want until you know what you want. Most people's biggest problem is they don't know what they want. They know what they don't want, but knowing what you don't want is not the same thing as knowing what you want. Knowing that you don't want to be poor is not the same thing as having a burning desire for riches, having a burning desire to have a thriving business, having a burning desire to have freedom and being able to work from wherever you want to work at. One of my things that I want, I want to be able to work from anywhere in the world as long as I have my iPad. I, I don't want to be bound to no office. I want to be able to go anywhere I want as long as I got my iPad. But knowing that I don't want to be poor is not the same thing as saying, hey, I want to coach people all over the world. I want to work with professional athletes. I want to work with politicians. I want to teach people how to control their mind. I'm telling you, once you get clear about what you want and you know what you want, you already halfway there. You already halfway there. The market is not oversaturated. You don't know what you want. You don't got enough detail about what you want to separate yourself from the people who do. Even in so-called oversaturated markets, 20% of the people getting 80% of the clients. If you just become part of the 20% that actually know what you want, If you just become part of the 20% that actually is actually willing to put your own spin on it, you don't think there's other people who do what I do? You don't think there's other hypnotists out here? You don't think there's other life coaches out here? Most of them ain't got the clarity that I got, so they can't have my customers. And don't get it twisted, I can't have their customers. But my sheep know my voice. It's people who resonate with my message. It's people who resonate with the way I present my message. It's people who resonate with my marketing. Do yourself a favor. Get clear about what you want, not what you think is possible. And guess what? What happened yesterday ain't got nothing to do with today. I don't care what happened yesterday. What do you want? I don't care what your life looked up looked like up to this point. What do you want? Step one is not where you figure out how to make it happen. I told y'all we teach a five-step process. Step one is figure out what you want. Not go, well, that's not possible. That's not how am I gonna do? You don't figure out the how on step one. Step one is all about what do I want? Any questions? Any comments? Y'all tracking with me? Yo, if you're over here on TikTok, hit that subscribe button. No, hit the follow button. If you're over here on YouTube, hit the subscribe button. And then if you use the other platforms that you're not on, go over there, same name, hit those buttons, man. You could be, do, and have anything you desire. If you could think it, you could do it. If you can't think it, you can't do it. So my question to you is, what do you want? Answer that. What do you want? And once you figure out what you want, your, your next step is to start thinking about it. Start letting your imagination go there, because where the mind goes, the body follows. It's a reason that they tell race car drivers, don't look at the wall, because they understand that if you look at that wall, you're gonna hit that wall. Take your focus off of what you don't want. Stop getting on TikTok watching videos about what you don't want. Stop getting on the phone talking about what you don't want. Stop huddling up with people at work talking about what you don't want. Find you a group of friends who are willing to have that conversation about what you want. Find you a group of friends who gonna talk you into it instead of talking you out of it. Now let me tell you something, before you find that group of friends, you're gonna have to spend a period of time rewiring your mind. Because if you're not— if your mind isn't operating that way, the people who talk like that ain't even gonna let you in the circle. But as you start to think different, you're gonna start to make— you're gonna start to make new friends on accident, man. Bro, when I was like 19, 20, 21, I had a group of it was like four or five of us. You ain't gonna see it was a group of guys. You ain't gonna see one of us without the other, man. You weren't gonna see one of us without the other. We these was my bros, man. We went everywhere together. We did everything together. But as I started reading new books, as I started thinking different, I ain't have to try to fall away from the group. I ain't have to send no text message. Hey, bro, I'm We just grew apart, and it ain't no beef. Still love those guys. Anything that they need, if I got it, they can have it. It ain't like I hate them. We just grew apart. We just interested in different stuff. We just vibrating at different frequencies. Start thinking different. Stop spending so much energy on controlling what you're doing. You don't use willpower to control your habits. You use willpower to control your mind. But if you just take control of your mind, your habits gonna follow your mind. You don't use willpower to make yourself do things. You use willpower to control your thinking. You use willpower to say, "I'm not gonna think about that. I'm gonna think about this." And when you start locking your focus onto the right stuff, you gonna accidentally do the right things. Think about it. When you upset, you don't got to try to do upset. When you mentally go to upset, when you energetically go to upset, your voice change, your body language change, your behavior change. You— things fly out of your mouth when you upset that would never fly out of your mouth when you're not upset. Then when you're done being upset and you feel different, you go, oh man, I did not have to say that. Now I gotta go apologize. But when you felt upset, when you was thinking upset, that felt like the natural thing to do. Imagine what happened if we just get you Feeling successful. Forget what the bank accounts say. Forget what the scales say. Forget what everything out there say. If we can get you feeling successful, you'll start thinking and acting successful on accident. But you can't wait on the results to change how you feel. You got to use how you feel to change your results. Results don't change how you feel. How you feel changes your results. Stop waiting on— you can't wait on the bank account to change before you start feeling rich. You got to feel rich while the bank account where it's at. But when you start feeling rich, guess what? You're gonna start thinking rich, and you're gonna come up with some rich ideas. And one of these rich ideas gonna be so good that you actually gonna go for it. Now, when you got this rich idea that you feeling good about and you actually go for it, guess what's gonna happen to the bank account? The bank account gonna catch up to the rich idea. But if you're looking at the bank account and you're seeing a number that you don't like and you calibrate to the bank account, so you feel poor because the bank account is low. Now you're thinking poor ideas. The rich idea never comes because rich ideas come to people who feel rich. Rich ideas don't come to people who feel poor. You can't get here from there. You can't get too wealthy from, from I feel poor, I feel stuck, I feel stupid. You can't get too healthy from I feel sick, something's always wrong with me. You got to put that down so you can allow what you want. Is this stuff making sense? What's up, Joan? And I enjoy talking about this stuff. You could be, do, and have anything you desire. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. What's up, April? If you could think it, you could do it. And I say this stuff over and over again because it's something called the law of repetition. I said one time, you might believe it. I say it 2 times, you might believe it. Oh, after you hear me say it a few hundred times, it's gonna be penetrated so deeply in your subconscious, you're gonna find yourself doing it on accident. You're gonna find yourself about to go, about to give up, you're gonna say, wait a minute, if I can think it, I can do it. Let me fix my thinking. I'm over here trying to change what I'm doing. Let me fix my thinking. Every problem is a thinking problem. Every problem is a thinking problem. I know you thought it was a confidence problem. I know you thought it was a discipline problem. I know you thought it was a consistency problem. It's a thinking problem. You got to think different. You can't get what you want until you know what you want. You got to start thinking in terms of what you want. You got to stop wasting your time thinking about what you don't want. I want you to just go ahead and say, I'm done thinking about what I don't want. I'm done studying what I don't want. I'm done analyzing what I don't want. I'm putting my attention into what I want. I'm putting my energy into what I want. I'm done getting in my imagination and imagining things that I don't want. I'm using my imagination to see myself as the way I want to be. I'm using my imagination to see myself as the man I want to be. I'm using my imagination to see myself as the father I want to be. I'm using my imagination to see myself as the entrepreneur I want to be. I'm not using my imagination to imagine my business not working. Why the Why the hell would I imagine my business not working? Why the hell would I imagine my life not going the way that I want it to go? Why would I imagine my relationship not working? Why would I imagine my partner cheating on me? Why would I imagine things that I don't want when I when I already know that thoughts create things? Make it make sense. Somebody's message was retracted. Oh, that was you, June. They retracted your message. I don't know what you said, but they ain't like it. What's up, Millie? Are you seeing what I'm saying? My imagination is my workshop. I'm gonna use my workshop to think about things that build my confidence. My imagination is my workshop. I'm gonna use my workshop to think about things that motivate me. I'm gonna use my imagination to think about things that automatically throw my shoulders back, push my chest out, and throw my chin up. Think about it. When you think about stuff you don't like, you don't got to try to get sad. You get sad on accident. You don't got to try to get anxious. You get anxious on accident. You don't got to try to get depressed. You get depressed on accident. When you start thinking about what you want, watch how you go— watch how you become confident on accident. Watch how you start coming up with some really good ideas on accident. Watch how solutions start finding you. Repetition is the mother of skill. Absolutely, Joe. If you can think it, you can do it. Can't think it, can't do it. But if you can think it If you could put your attention on it, you could do it. So TikTok, man, I need y'all to do me a favor. I need y'all to tap the screen. I need y'all to get active in this, in these comments. I need y'all to help me move this thing up the For You page. People need to hear this message because people barking up the wrong tree. It's January— what's today? The 22nd. And I guarantee you, 85% of people have already dropped their New Year resolution. I'm challenging you right here, right now to start thinking different. Start thinking different and watch how you accidentally change your life. Start thinking different and watch how you accidentally get some money in your bank account. Start thinking different and watch how you accidentally find you a partner. Start thinking different. This message definitely needs to be heard, man. Every problem is a thinking problem. When you learn how to control your thinking, when you learn how to start thinking on purpose, You'll be surprised what you achieve on accident, man. Your only limit is you. If you can think it, you can do it. And the good news is you can think anything you want to think. You can think anything you want to think. At first, you're going to have to use some willpower because at first you don't got the neural structure to support it because you haven't been thinking it. Your mind, your brain is a pattern learning machine. So if your brain has learned the pattern of negative thinking, It's gonna take you a little bit of work. It's gonna take you some willpower to start thinking about what you want, but I promise you it's worth the effort. I promise you you won't regret it. I promise you won't say, man, I wasted my time thinking about what I want. I promise you you won't. Everything that you want is on the other side of thinking different. Everything that you desire is on the other side of thinking different. What's going on, Living on Purpose? If you could think it, you You could do it. Bible say you have not because you ask not, but I'm here to tell you, you don't ask with your mouth. You ask with your attention. You ask with your consciousness. You ask with what you focus on. Start focusing on what you want. Start thinking about what you want. Good ideas give birth to good ideas. They give birth to other good ideas. What's going on, D? They give birth to other good ideas, but same time, bad ideas give birth to other bad ideas. Give birth to other bad ideas that give birth to other bad ideas. Do yourself a favor and start thinking on purpose. If you don't got you a golden ticket, what's going on? If you don't got you a golden ticket, get you a golden ticket, man. The golden ticket gives you access to our communities. The golden ticket gives you access to our Friday Zoom meetings that we do every Friday, 6 PM Central Standard Time. We get in the Zoom room and we do live group coaching. The golden ticket gets you access to our classroom where you can take our courses on clarity, you can take our courses on calibration, you get access to our hypnosis audios, and you can start reprogramming your mind. You get all of that for $25 a week. If you want to get your golden ticket, go to icoachbosses.com, click the golden ticket, get signed up. Today is what, Wednesday? Yeah, you could be at our next Friday meet. Go ahead and get signed up now. And if you think this good, this the foundation, because only thing we didn't talk about today is the power of clarity. It's 4 steps behind clarity. You got calibration, confidence, competence, and consistency. You execute these 5 C's in this specific order. You got to run them in this order. Each C feeds into the next C, so you can't just run them in some random order. You got to get clear about what you want. You got to get calibrated to it, keep calibrating till you become confident in it. Once you become confident in This is where a lot of people mess theyself up. D say highly recommend the audios for sure. This is where a lot of people mess up. They try to take action before they get clarity calibrated and confident. They at the gym just say I want to lose weight. What size shirt you want to wear? What size pants you want to wear? What size dress you want to wear? What number do you want to see when you step on the scale? Get clarity. Get calibrated. Keep calibrating until you become confident. If you at the gym but you don't believe you could do it, you might as well go home. If you at a gym but you still believe, I'm big-boned, everybody in my family big-boned, it's not— you might as well go home. Get clear, get calibrated, get confident, then go to the gym. Watch how the weight start falling off. Watch how your subconscious mind enhance your metabolism. Watch how your subconscious mind start curbing your appetite. When you doing without clarity, calibration, and confidence, you hustling backwards. You got to get clear about what you want. You got to learn how to think in terms of what you want. You got to build the neural structure to support what you want. When you out here trying to do stuff that you haven't built the neural structure to support, you wasting your time. You wasting your time. You getting distracted by stuff that don't matter. Get clear, get calibrated, get confident. And when you get clear, calibrated, and confident, man, the leverage you have— when you got that type of leverage, you don't care who in the White House You don't care what the economy is. You don't care if the rest of the world is having a recession because you so clear, calibrated, and confident to where you headed. None of that can distract you. But when you unclear, uncalibrated, and unconfident, you'll shut your business down just because you don't like who in the White House. You give up on your business because you don't think the right person in the White House. When you unclear, uncalibrated, and unconfident, you'll give up on your business because your best friend don't think it's a good idea. When you unclear, uncalibrated, and unconfident, you'll shut down your whole operation because didn't enough people show up to your TikTok livestream. Get the hell out of here, man. When you unclear, uncalibrated, and unconfident, the audios, they do go hard. When you unclear, uncalibrated, and unconfident, you'll let a troll on TikTok distract you from what you came up here to talk about. You'll be talking about your message, somebody say something in the comments you don't like, you'll stop talking about your, your stuff and start arguing with a troll, man. Do yourself a favor, get clear, get calibrated, get confident. When you clear, calibrated, and confident, your mindset change. You either with me or against me. And if you with me— if you against me, you better get off front of this car because it's not stopping. And that's when you start picking up momentum, and that's when people want to do business with you. That's when people want to invest in you. That's when people want to date you and want to spend money with you and want to be around you. Clarity, calibration, and confidence— that's the super— that's, that's the foundation. If you don't got that You hustling backwards, unbothered. And it's not even like a— because some people got like this effort unbothered, and they gonna give you an hour-long lecture about how they unbothered, man. It's— you gonna— anything that's not getting you where you want to be, you gonna look through it like a window. Anything that's not getting you close to the words, one of— it's like it's not there. I ain't even gonna stop to give you no explanation. You gonna— you gonna figure it out on your own, or you're not. Now I don't care either Like it's like just this. I'm so latched onto this that anything that's that's a distraction from this, I can't entertain it. As my girl would say, I can't worry about it. I I I I I neurologically can't worry about it. My brain is so programmed over here. My brain is so tuned into my abundance. My brain is so tuned into my health. My brain is so in alignment with this. Thing that I'm after, anything that doesn't align it, we got this part of the brain called the reticular activation system. I'm so locked onto my goal that my reticular activation system not allowing in anything that doesn't align with my goal. Like, let's say I'm in Walmart and I get separated from my daughter, and I go, okay, my daughter is wearing— my daughter's a little brown girl wearing a yellow sundress, hair in a big puff ball, and she got on some little jelly bean sandals. When I start looking for my daughter, I'm looking for Little brown girl, yellow sundress, big puffball, jelly bean sandals. When I started scanning, it could be a guy that's like 10 feet tall. Any other time I would have saw that guy and went, man, he tall. But when I'm looking for a little brown girl, yellow sundress, puffball, jelly bean sandals, 10-foot-tall guy just became invisible. It could be a woman in the store that's really attractive. Any other time I might would have saw her and went, damn, she look good. But when I'm looking for a little brown girl, yellow sundress, jelly bean sandals, big puffball, really attractive woman just became invisible. This works with those. When I'm looking for thriving business, when I'm looking for getting my business to $25,000 a month, when I'm looking for bringing on 10 clients this month to purchase my high-ticket offer, negative comment just became invisible. Bad news on CNN just became invisible. My mama, Jay, I don't think you should do that, just became invisible. If it's not somebody trying to invest in my high-ticket program, this is not somebody trying to come into my next seminar. If it's not something that's feeding where I'm headed, Particular Activation System say no. Not important enough. Nope, not important. Oh, what'd he say? He looking for a coach? Yeah. Okay. Yeah, let him in. Yo, you— your critical faculty is gonna be sorting through things. Important, not important. Important, not important. Important, not important. But you tell it what's important by what you focus on. You tell it what's not important by what you ignore. Stop ignoring your success. Stop ignoring what you want. Stop putting all your attention on what you don't want, because what you're doing is you were telling your reticular activation system Hey, when somebody say negative things about me, make it the center of my focus. When they give bad news on the news, make it the center of my focus. Even if I'm asleep, if you hear it in the background, wake me up so I can watch it and panic. You telling your subconscious mind, this is important to me. Get my attention when this type of stuff happen. But when you start focusing on what you want, you telling your subconscious mind, this is my top priority. If it's not this, don't distract me with it. Only distract me with stuff that got to do with this. If it's not this, it's background noise. If it's not success, it's background noise. If it's not putting money in my pocket, background noise. If it's not making me a better father, it's background noise. If it's not making me a better man, it's background noise. But you don't do that with your words. Words don't teach, they point, okay? You gotta understand, you could be saying all the right stuff, you could be affirming until you blue in the face. What energy are you doing? What are you focused on as you do the affirmation? You can say I am a millionaire all day long, but if you focused on lack of money as you say I am a millionaire, You're not getting no closer to the millions. You're actually running into something that we call the law of reverse action, and you swimming against the tide, and you gonna tire out and you gonna drown. Is this making sense? You can be, do, and have anything you desire. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. Nothing can stop you except for you. And why would you stop you? Why would I bet against me? Why would I use my imagination to paralyze myself? Why would I use my imagination to slow me down? Why would I use my imagination to destroy my confidence? I'm gonna use my imagination to build my confidence. I'm gonna use my imagination to build my wealth. I'm gonna use my imagination to build my health. If you want to start getting in the gym, I suggest you start getting in your imagination and seeing you in the gym. Seeing you in the gym having fun. Seeing you in the gym listening to music that you enjoy. Seeing you in the gym moving your body. What's gonna happen is you're gonna create what we call a positive. Neural tension. You're gonna create this positive tension that your neurology gonna go, wait, this is happening in here, but it's not happening out there. And it's gonna start pushing out the motivation to get you to the gym. What's going on, Nikki? Yo, if y'all not following the Manifestation Consultant, you missing out. If you like my content and the stuff we talking about in here, you're gonna love her content as well. What's up? What's up? What's up? If you can think it, you can do it. If you can't think it, you can't do it. But let me tell you something, if you can't think it, that just let me know you lazy with your thinking. Because it's not that you can't think, it's that you're not willing to stop thinking about what you don't want long enough to think about what you want. And honestly, I don't— you don't deserve it if you're not willing to think about it, because it don't cost you nothing to think. I can understand if you can't go purchase that car right now, but it's free to get in your imagination and drive that car. I can understand if you can't go purchase that house right now, but it's free to get on Zillow and look at pictures of that house. It's free to imagine yourself cooking in that kitchen. It's free to imagine yourself having sex in that master bedroom. That's free. That don't cost nothing but time. And if you ain't got 5 minutes to imagine, you ain't really got a life anyway. I know it sounds harsh, but this is the kind of thing it's going to take to turn your life around. Feeling sorry for you not going to turn your life around. Having a pity party with you not going to turn your life around. You got to take control of your thinking. It ain't no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Understand, if you can't afford to book a session with me to get hypnotized, but it's free to sit in your— at the couch at your house and think about what you want. That's free. That don't cost a damn thing. What it's going to cost you is the time you would have spent thinking about what you don't want. That's all it's gonna cost you. What it's gonna cost you is a little bit of your TV time. What it's gonna cost you is a little bit of your strolling time on TikTok. But if you're not willing to exchange strolling on TikTok for the life you want, what are we talking about? You can't give 5 minutes? Now you gotta understand the shift that 5 minutes can make you energetically, using your mind on purpose. If the life that you quote unquote want not worth 5 minutes, don't get in my inbox. Hey Jay, I want to really do— want to do a session, I can't afford— man, get the golden ticket, move around, come on. Because a pity story ain't going to get you what you want. Controlling your focus is going to get you what you want. Thinking about what you want is going to get you what you want. And that's why the first C is clarity, because you got to figure out what you really Won't, because if you don't really want it, you're not gonna do it. Reprogramming your mind is work. Reprogramming your mind take repetition. Reprogramming your mind take energy. And if it's not something you really want, you're not gonna use the energy. You're not gonna do the repetition. You're gonna do it once. You might do it twice, but you're not gonna do it daily, time and time again, if it's not something you really, really want. So that's one of my biggest questions. What do you really, really want? Like for me, I want freedom. I want choice. I want to wake up when I want to wake up. I want to go to bed when I want to go to bed. I want to wear what I want to wear. I want to do what I want to do. I want to live where I want to live. For me, it ain't about Rolexes and like I like money, but you know why I like money? Because it gives me the ability to tell people no. I don't got to kiss people, man. My bills paid. Leave me alone. Don't talk to me. I don't want to deal with you. But if you think it's money you want, and money might be what you want. But if you think it's money you want and what you really want is freedom, you ain't gonna show up to do the work. Figure out what you really want. If you got the golden ticket, there's a 35-module course in the classroom with the golden ticket that takes you through something that we call the clarity course. It's 35 modules. It's gonna help you get that clarity because most people's clarity be what I call level 1, and level 1 is usually what you don't want. Knowing what you don't want is not gonna get you what you you want. Knowing that I didn't want to be in the military was not going to allow me to be the entrepreneur that I am today. I had to get— that was my level 1 clarity. I don't want to be in the military no more. That was level 1. Level 2 of that was I want freedom, I want choice. Level 3 of that was I want to be my own boss, I want to work for me. Level 4 was I want to be a clinically trained hypnotist. You see how every level it's getting deeper? First level, what I don't want. Second level, what would I rather have, but It's vague. Third level, what I, what I'd rather have. This is, it's more dialed in, and it's getting more dialed in every level for sure. And that's the— all your effort got to go into changing your mindset, because where the mind goes, the body follows. You ain't got to put no effort into trying to go to the gym. You ain't got to put no effort into trying to read more books. You ain't got to put no effort into meeting new people. If you change your mind, you're gonna find yourself accidentally going to the gym. If you change your mind, you're gonna find yourself accidentally saying, I bet I can get in 10,000 steps today. If you start changing your mind, you're gonna find yourself accidentally drinking more water. If you change your mind, you're gonna accidentally change your habits. But what people want to do is keep the same mind and try to force the, the new habit. That's the Bible talking about when it say the old wine in the new bottle. You can't put old wine in new bottles. So you try to put new habits on an old mindset, it's not gonna work. It's not. It's gonna frustrate you. It's gonna piss you off. It's gonna make you feel like you're not good enough and not smart enough, when the problem is you, you plenty smart enough. You've got to reprogram your mind. You got to restructure your brain. You got to restructure your thinking. You could do it, but before you could do it, you got to think it. You could do it. Where attention goes, energy flows, June. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. If you can think it, you could do it. And if you think about it long enough and hard enough, you'll do it on accident. I just started thinking about entrepreneurship, man. I just started thinking about being my own. I kept Thinking about it. At first, it just was a thought. I'll be at work in the military thinking about being my own boss. I'll be in bed getting ready to go to bed knowing that I had to go to work in the morning thinking about being my own boss as I lay in the bed. I just kept thinking about it. But as I kept thinking about it, I started reading new books, man. I started listening to new podcasts. I started signing up for different groups and learning from people. I started finding mentors. Then the really cool things start happening. Mentors start finding me. Jay, I see something in you, man. I want, I want to coach you. I want to mentor you. I got a mentor group that I do for young men. I want— I think you'll be perfect for it. Like, you got to understand, the things that you seeking are seeking you right back. If you a business owner and you got a solution— what's going on, Granny? If you a business owner and you got a solution You got to understand, there's people out there with a problem who want your solution. You looking at it as, oh man, I got to go out here and find clients and convince people to do— if you got a solution and I got a problem, I'm looking for you just as hard as you looking for me. What you are seeking is seeking you. You got to get out of your own way. But if I'm the one with the problem and I meet you and you supposed to be the one with the solution, but when I meet you and I start talking to you, you second-guessing yourself and doubting yourself, I'm still looking for my solution. I just don't believe it's you no more because you done talked me out of it. Like, nah, it can't be you. You don't, you don't believe what you say. I still got the problem. I'm still looking for somebody with solution. The things that you seeking are seeking you. You got to get out of your own way. You got to get in alignment with what you want. You got to stop spending your time thinking about what you don't want. You got to understand faith work in both directions. Did you know you can have faith in what you don't want? Like people talk about faith as if it only works in One direction. You can have faith in what you don't want. You can put your faith in your failure. I don't suggest it, but you can. Sometimes people come, man, I don't got confidence. Oh, you got confidence in something right now. You confident in the fact that you don't got— you always confident in something. Your faith always pointed at something. What are you pointing your faith at? What are you focusing on? What are you saying? Where does your mind go when you do not control What's that internal dialogue when you let your mind run wild? What what what are the thoughts that you think on accident? That's what you got to change. When you catch yourself thinking negative, when you catch yourself going down the rabbit hole of what you don't want, you got to learn how to come up out of there. Reroute, go the other way. Okay, I'm not gonna think about that. I'm gonna think about this. I'm not gonna put my attention on that. I'm gonna put my attention on. This. And you're gonna be surprised how God start to flow through you as you start controlling your focus. We're gonna get ready to land. Any questions before we get out of here, man? Any questions, any comments, any feedback, anything about anything? I got a session in about 15 minutes, so I got to do a little bit of session prep before I get out of here. If you don't got you a golden ticket, go to icoachbosses.com and invest in yourself. Okay, golden ticket. It's $25 a week. You get to come to the Zoom group coaching where if you think we teaching on here, you ain't saw teaching yet. We just scratched the surface on here. If you want to get deep into these principles and talk about how to implement them in your life, you need to get you a golden ticket. Icoachbosses.com. If you want access to the classroom, access to the audios, and access to the community to talk to the other people who on this journey with you, you need to get in the golden ticket. When I first got into entrepreneurship, one of my biggest problems was I didn't have a community of entrepreneurs to talk to. If you need a community of entrepreneurs to talk to, come on. We also got Dreams in Action. But I'm gonna jump off here. I got to do some session prep. I love y'all. It ain't a thing y'all could do about it. It's a non-negotiable, no strings attached type of love. You ain't even got to do nothing for it. It's just gonna flow. All right, so I'm gonna get off of here. Do I got a YouTube channel? You on my YouTube channel, June? At least I think you are. Let me make sure I went live where I thought I was going live. iCoachBoss is It's the YouTube channel. Everything is I Coach Bosses. TikTok is I Coach Bosses. YouTube is I Coach Bosses. Instagram, I don't really post on there, but it's I Coach Bosses over there. And then the website that'll take you to my Linktree is icoachbosses.com. All right, so I gotta jump off. Love y'all. Ain't nothing y'all could do about it. I will— I might be on later just depending on how my day flow. I will see y'all later.
