The speaker argues that calling someone selfish is usually a manipulation tactic, not a genuine moral critique. He says accusations of selfishness are attempts to force you to put others' desires first, and warns against letting vague moral shaming control your choices.
I know they told you that that was selfish. Forget that. When people say selfish, what they usually mean is, I want you to do my selfish bidding over your own selfish bidding. I want you to prioritize what I want over what you want. And if you don't do that, you selfish. Oh, it's fine. I'll be selfish. Like, make it make sense. You trying to hypnotize me? I'm a hypnotist. I know hypnosis when I see hypnosis. You selfish. You want what you want more than you want what I want. Of course I want what I want more than I want— like, what are you even saying? Who don't want what they want more than they want what the other— I'm not saying that. Get out my face with that nonsense. Like, come on, keep it a buck. Like, that's ridiculous. Don't fall for that shit. That's stupid.
