Coach Jay, a hypnotherapist, argues that lasting change requires reshaping your identity, not just fixing your mindset. Your subconscious can't process "don't do this," so give it positive commands instead. Every achievement must first exist as a vivid internal narrative, or external results won't follow.
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Welcome to the live. Welcome, welcome, welcome. Let's get situated here. I don't go live on YouTube an incredibly lot, so let me see what I can do in here. Okay, those are polls. Let's just mute. Okay, okay. Oh, okay, I can do little clips. Cool. What's up? What's up? What's up, man? As y'all come in, say something so I know that you're here, so I know who I'm talking to. I'm Coach Jay. I'm a high-performance hypnotist. I hypnotize the hell out of athletes, entrepreneurs, executives, founders, day traders, poker players, people who work in sales, you name it. Help them overcome things like imposter syndrome. If I can talk. Help them overcome things like imposter syndrome, second-guessing themselves, procrastination, performance enhancement stuff, man. I'm a big believer that every problem is a thinking problem. Every problem is a thinking problem. If you could think it, you could do it. If you can't think it, you can't do it. Oh, that's not a new message. All right, I'm here. I'm multitasking. Got emails and text messages coming in. All right, but man, as y'all come in, man, let me know where you coming in from. Let's talk about— let's talk about the fact that you can be, do, and have anything you desire. Anything you desire. Nothing can stop you except for you. Your only limit in life is your own imagination. If you can think it, you can do it. If you can't think it, You might want to go sit down because, um, you're gonna have a hard time doing it. You got to be able to do it in your head before you could hold it in your hands. If you can't hold it in your head, you're not gonna hold it in your hands. Everything starts out as an idea. Everything was in somebody's head before it was out there in the world. YouTube was a concept in somebody's mind before it was something out there in the world. The phone that I'm using to broadcast this, the ring light, all of this It was an idea. It was a concept before it was something you could taste, touch, feel, hear, and see. So everything has to go through that process. Before you can have a successful business out there, you got to have a successful business in your mind. Before you can have a thriving marriage out there, you got to have a thriving marriage in your mind. And oftentimes people want to see it out there before they create it in here. But you can't see it out there until somebody You or somebody who creates it in their mind. It has to exist in the mind first. So start creating in your mind. And what I love about creating in the mind is you can create in the mind anywhere. You can go lay across your bed and create in your mind. I can lean this chair back right now and create in my mind. I can go sit out on the balcony and create in my mind. Go lay out by the pool and create in my mind. I could be on a city bus, a train. It don't matter if I'm first class or back in a coach, back in the back of the plane. I can work on my mind. Why aren't you working on your mind? Why aren't you thinking on purpose? Why aren't you creating on purpose? Do you not understand that your thoughts really become things? I tell my clients all the time— so for those of you who don't know me, I'm Coach Jay. I'm a clinically trained hypnotherapist, hypnotize athletes, entrepreneurs, executives, founders, day traders, Poker players, you name it. But one of the things I'm always making crystal clear to them is I don't got to change your behavior. I got to change your mind. If I change your mind, your behavior will take care of itself. I don't got to make you be more confident. I got to change what you focus on. I got to change what you expect to happen when you walk in the rooms. I got to change the narrative of what's going on in here. When we get the right narrative going in here, you accidentally put your shoulders back, put your chest out, put your chin up. Shake hands, maintain eye contact. It's a result of what you procr— you, you're procrastinating because of what's going on in here. It's not something out there making you procrastinate. It's what's going on in here that's causing you to procrastinate. You're second-guessing yourself in here, not out there. Before you reach out and pick up a cigarette out here, you gotta decide to reach out and pick up, pick up a cigarette. And if we stop it in here, out there has no choice but Stop. Out there is old news. The stuff that's going on out there, it's old news. It's already happened in here. You don't change what's going on out there, you change what's going on in here. Think about it. If you get mad in here, if you get angry in here, you accidentally stomp your feet, slam the door, raise your voice, curse people out. You don't gotta try to behave angry when you feel angry. In fact, you have to use willpower to not behave angry when you feel angry. What you think will happen if we get you feeling confident? What you think will happen if we get you feeling like the type of person that can walk into any room, shoulders back, chest out, chin up, as if God himself sent you into that room? What you think your body language gonna be if that's your internal dialogue? How you think you gonna shake hands if your internal dialogue is, God put me in this room, God sent me here? I'm gonna shake hands like I'm the king of the world. I'm about my father's business. You'll accidentally develop this swagger. You'll accidentally walk in this confidence. But what people try to do is they try to stack a confident body language on top of an internal dialogue that's not having it. They try to read books and do power poses. And you, you shouldn't be consciously controlling your posture. You shouldn't be consciously shaking hands. You shouldn't be consciously walking. I don't know if y'all saw Talented Nights, the part at the beginning when Ricky Bobby's taking pictures and he's like, where do I put my hands? Where do I put— your hands were fine before you tried to take conscious control of them. You don't got to change anything out there. What you got to change is your identity. What's going on, Art? You got to change your identity. If you change the way you think and feel, you'll accidentally change your body language. Your bank account, the look in your eyes. You'll accidentally price your services different. You'll accidentally negotiate your salary different. You accidentally stop hanging out with certain people and start hanging out with other people if you change what's going on in here. What did I think of Bad Bunny last night? I don't. I didn't think about it. I didn't really pay no attention. It was on. I was probably grabbing a beer or something. Did you enjoy it though, Oliver? Now what's going on, man? As y'all come in, tap the screen, interact with me, let me know that you're here. I don't go live a whole lot on YouTube, but I was here, I had some time, so I was like, you know what, let's jump on. If this your first time rocking with me, I'm based out of Dallas. I'm a hypnotherapist, work with high performers, athletes, entrepreneurs, executives, day traders. Poker players, all types of people, man. But what I do is I teach them how to work this. When you learn how to work this, ain't nothing you can't do, ain't nothing you can't have. When you get in the habit of thinking and feeling on purpose, oh man, oh man, you gotta, you gotta remember who you are. You're made in the image of a limitless creator. If you can think it, you can do it. If you can feel it, you'll do it on accident. If you can think it, you can do it. But the flip side of that is if you can't think it, you can't do it. And far too often I meet people who are trying to do things out there that they can't do in here. You got to be able to do it in here first. If you just get it done in here, you'll accidentally start to do it out there. If you just start using this on purpose, you just start focusing on purpose, expecting on purpose, creating your narrative on purpose. I know a lot of people that do similar things to what I do. And some of them are struggling. But when I talk to my colleagues that are struggling, their internal dialogue is people don't invest in self-development anymore, man. They'll spend money on the Super Bowl and going out and vacations and concert tickets. People don't invest in self-development anymore. And because of that internal dialogue, because of that belief, because of that story that they're telling themselves, their calendars are empty. Bank accounts are low. You got to change that story. You don't got to change reality. You got to change your story. This is a vast place and it's constantly expanding. Whatever you're looking for is out there. If you go out there looking for lack, it's out there. There's no shortage of it. But at the same time, if you go out there looking for abundance, it's out there. There's no shortage. It's the best of times. It's the worst of times. What direction are you going to? Focus. What direction are you going to focus? If you just start focusing on purpose, like everybody talks about manifesting, do me a favor. When you get a chance, look up the word manifest. Look up the word manifest. It doesn't mean to hope for. It doesn't mean to wish for. The word manifest actually means to make obvious to the eye of the mind. That's what manifest means—to make obvious to the eye of the mind. So if you're making it obvious that the market is oversat. saturated and there's not enough people to go around and AI is ruining the world and this is the worst the economy has been in 20 years. If that's what you're making obvious to your mind, congratulations, that's what you're manifesting. So if you like, you know, what you get, keep manifesting it. But if you don't like it, you got to make something else obvious to your mind. You got to make it obvious to your mind that you are a creator. You got to make it obvious to your mind that you can turn your thoughts into things. You got to make it obvious to your mind that nothing can stop you. Nothing can stop you. Anxiety, PTSD, ADD, ADHD, getting divorced, getting laid off— nothing can stop you. Now, it's all sorts of things that you can focus on and give your attention to and quit, but that thing didn't stop you. That's just what had your attention when you decided to quit. What's going on, Catherine? How you doing? Welcome to the live. Anandana, I think I said your name correctly. How you doing? Welcome to the live. How y'all doing, man? I'm Coach Jay. I'm the high performance hypnotist. I work with athletes, entrepreneurs, executives, founders, day traders, hypnotize people all over the world, and I teach them how to think, man. How to think. How to think on purpose. Because you think you're rather you doing it on purpose or not. But how to think on purpose. How to put a goal in front of you. A goal that actually excites your subconscious mind. There's a lot of power in an attractive goal. Most people that I meet, if they even have goals— most of the people I meet don't have goals, but out of the few that do, their goals are rarely attractive. Their goals are always based in what they need to do and what they got to do, but they leave out the part that makes the goal attractive. Goals got to be like— think about it. If there is a person in your life that you attracted to, you don't got to try to get aroused. Just put your attention on that person and your body is going to respond. To this person that you're attracted to. Same thing with a goal. Get you a goal that you are attracted to. Get you a goal that excites you. Get you a goal that yanks you out of bed in the morning. You don't got to try to be motivated. Focus on that goal. You don't got to try to be inspired. Focus on that goal that arouses you. The good ideas will find you. The energy will find you. I'm not saying you're not gonna have a lot of work to do, but why not focus on something that's gonna get you in the mood that you need to be in and do the work to the best of your ability. You got to get under the influence of what you want. A lot of times when I first start coaching people, I realize they're under the influence of what they don't want. And when I say under the influence, their decisions are being made based on what they don't want. But you don't want to be deciding based on what you don't want, because what you're doing in, in a situation like that is you're running from what you don't want, but Just because you running from what you don't want don't necessarily mean that you running toward what you want. You got to start taking a break and say, okay, I don't like that, I really don't like that. What would I rather have? And whatever the answer to that is, you start focusing on that. Then you make your decisions not based on how I get away from this thing that I don't like. Make your decisions based on how do I get closer to this thing that I do like. And it changes things, man. You got to come off defense. You got to put some points on the board. What do I want? You got to answer that question. You can't just be out there in life going, going, going, going, grinding. I mean, a lot of people hustling, grinding, putting in the time. I say, okay, well, what do you want? Ah, Jay, you know I'm just trying— No, I don't know. What do you want? Because you've been grinding for a decade and you don't have it yet. But the reason you don't have it is because you never took time to define it. I just don't want to be in the— I don't want nobody telling me what to do. You gotta understand, man, not wanting to be poor is not the same thing as having a burning desire to be wealthy. Not wanting to be sick is not the same thing as wanting to have an A1 immune system, having every cell in your body working exactly the way that God designed it to. Not wanting to get divorced is not the same thing as wanting to have a thriving marriage that's Filled with love. You got to stop making your decisions based off what you don't want to happen, because where attention goes, energy flows. So you putting all the focus on what you don't want. You got to understand, one of the things about the subconscious mind is that the subconscious mind does not negate information. Subconscious mind doesn't delete anything. If I say, hey guys, do not think about a pink elephant. First thing you're gonna do is think about a pink elephant. First thing you're gonna do is think about a pink elephant. If I go upstairs and I say, hey baby, don't get mad, she gonna say, Jay, why am I not getting mad? What happened? What did you do? I'm gonna say, baby, I said don't get mad. She gonna say, I'm not mad, but what happened? What did you— she doesn't know how to not get mad. I say, hey guys, don't look at that blue globe back there. Do not look at that blue globe. What does your attention instantly go to? The thing that I'm telling you not to look at. You got to stop telling yourself what not to do. You got to stop telling yourself, don't screw this up. Don't be late. No, not what not to do. What to do. Tell your body what to do. If you about to go on the stage and give a presentation, if you about to go live on the internet, don't get in there and tell yourself, all right, don't screw this up. Come on. No, you can tell yourself, hey, shoulders back, chest out, chin up. We got a message that we want people all over the world to hear. Let's go give it to them. Confidently. Tell yourself what to do. I promise you it makes a world of difference. Promise you it makes a world of difference. Promise you that. You guys that I got in here, where y'all tapping in from, man? Talk to me. Let me know who we got. I don't want you to miss it. I'm gonna do a little multitasking and send out some of these messages while we're in here. Thank y'all for the, um, let's see. We got 3 thumbs up. If you guys haven't hit the subscribe button, please do. And if you haven't checked out our YouTube channel, man, we got over 700 videos of pure value. Videos, hypnosis videos you can fall asleep to, lectures like the talk that I'm giving right now, entertainment videos of me going like downtown hypnotizing people, blowing them to the ground, sticking their eyelids shut. All types of stuff on the YouTube channel, man. So definitely knock yourself out, literally knock yourself out.
