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When you hit someone with multiple arguments, they just dig in harder. Instead, make one clear point, then ask an open question like "What are your thoughts on that?" Silence lets them think instead of defend.
When you hit someone with multiple arguments, they just dig in harder. Instead, make one clear point, then ask an open question like "What are your thoughts on that?" Silence lets them think instead of defend.
Let's say that you're into politics and somebody posts something that you don't like, one of your friends, and you start like attacking them and commenting like, you're wrong because of this, this, and this. Does that person just stop, put their hands up like, you're completely right. I've never thought about it that way. I'm switching to be a Democrat or I'm switching to be a Republican. No, they just defend even more. They just dig in their heels and now their point that they tried to prove, they just hold onto it even tighter. So what can you do instead? Make the point once. Clearly, confidently, then stop. Don't try to give all these examples behind it. Let it exist in that space between you and that other person. And then turn it into a question. What are your thoughts on that? Or how does that compare to what you're currently experiencing though? It gets them thinking. They're arriving at their own conclusion. And a conclusion someone arrives at on their own is 50 gazillion times more powerful than the one you try to talk them into.
