This Is Why High Status People Dismiss You Instantly

I'm going to break down exactly what's happening when you talk to somebody that has higher status than you. And most importantly, I'm going to show you how to shift that dynamic in your favor so they take you seriously. Odds are you're not the wealthiest person in the world. At some point, you're going to be around others who are wealthier than you, that have higher status than you. So if you don't know how to interact with those people and do it the right way, they want to get rid of you. Most people completely fall apart the moment they're in a room with somebody that's more successful and they don't even realize they're doing it. I've trained over a million salespeople and business owners in every industry. And the people who consistently get taken seriously by high-status individuals are not necessarily the most talented. They just understand how to frame their status better in that conversation. Number 1, it's called the status collapse. You want to pay attention here because the moment your brain detects a social status gap in a conversation, it automatically shifts into I'm not good enough to be around this person mode. You see, the brain is wired to keep you safe. It's wired to keep you to survive. It was never built to thrive. So anytime the brain feels like you're around someone who has higher status, who has more money, who has more success, it goes into survival mode where it feels unsafe to be there, like you're not worthy. And it does that without your permission. It does that, and you notice your shoulders start to droop down. Your voice goes up at the end of sentences. You sound high-pitched. Your eyes start to wander, look at the ground when you talk to them. Sometimes you laugh at everything they say. You agree with everything. A high-status individual, a wealthy individual, They come across that every day. They've seen that pattern hundreds of times from other people. Their brain recognizes it instantly. And the moment they do, it's over. They check out. And you've seen that before, haven't you? So what are the specific behaviors that kill your status instantly? Overexplaining your credentials. It's kind of like the guy that comes up to you and talks to you about all the boats and houses and Lambos they have in the first 2 minutes. You don't even know them. Do you really believe them? No, because they're overexplaining it. It's like they're trying to prove to you that they have all that, which most of the time means they don't. What about name dropping to appear connected? Have you ever seen somebody do that to you? That just instantly, they're a stranger, they start name dropping. Oh, that's my best friend. That's my best friend. Having a salad with my good friend Bradley and Cooper, and we were talking about cartwheels. Wow. And you feel like they're full of crap. Filling silence with nervous energy. Have you ever been at a dinner table and somebody talks about how great they are? Like somebody that you you just met and they talk about all the great things to do and they just go on and on and on. Do you really believe them after that? Rarely. Because it comes across like they're trying to prove themselves, like they're nervous about it. Okay? Here's the thing. These don't read as confident. They read as someone who needs to be accepted. That's a completely different thing. And once you see these patterns yourself, then you know how to stop them. But you have to be able to see them first and be able to recognize them. Number 2, what the high-status person is actually screening for and your real objective. Here's what high-status people are actually paying attention to. One thing above everything else: what does this person want from me? And the second they sense you want something from them, their guard instantly goes up. And almost everything most people say in these conversations accidentally triggers that filter. Now, what do magnetic people in these rooms do? They do the exact opposite. When they walk into the room, they act like they don't need anything from anyone in that room, like they already have anything. They have options. That triggers curiosity in the wealthy person's mind. That triggers them to start thinking, who's that person? I haven't seen them. They're different. They're not coming up to me. They act like they don't need me. This is what I teach with what I call NEPQ, neuro-emotional persuasion question. High intent, but low attachment. When you walk into a situation, you act like you don't necessarily need them. You're not the one that has the problem. The other people do, the other person does, but you're the one that can solve that. And that is simply attractive. It's magnetic. You're not there to try to convince them. You're creating the conditions and you're learning how to ask the right questions where they convince themselves. And I'll tell you this, one genuinely great question signals far more intelligence and respect than 5 minutes about talking about yourself every single time. And this connects directly to what your real goal should be in these conversations, which almost everybody gets wrong. The goal is not to impress them. You'll actually do the opposite if you try. The goal is to make them feel understood at a level they almost never have experienced before. Because at the top, everyone is either trying to get something from that person or telling them what they want to hear. You are different. You're breaking that pattern. That is what's called a pattern interrupt. Someone who does neither stands out instantly. That's what we call— write this down— situational status. Write that down. That's important to you. Has nothing to do with how much money you have and everything to do with how that individual perceives perceives you in that situation with whatever you're talking about, that you have high status, that you have value. They perceive the value higher just because of the questions you ask them and how you interact where you don't need them, where they feel like you're not there, like you don't need them. They actually might need you. Let's go to number 3, tonality. It's the secret lever nobody talks about. Now, let me give you something most people have completely overlooked. How you say the words, that's your tone, and it's how the other person interprets your intention behind everything you say and ask. So that same exact question asked in two different tones produces a completely different outcome in the brain of the other person you're talking about. Now, slightly concerned tone, a tone that shows empathy when asking about a challenge they face, causes that person to go deeper, like emotionally deeper. For example, they might tell you a challenge or some type of issue that's going on, and you could lean in and say, How long has that been going on for? You see that shift in the tone? That's a concerned tone, a tone that shows empathy. It causes them to feel safe, like they can trust you, like you care about them, right? And watch how they open up to you. Now, let me give you another example. How about a confused tone? Now, I'm not talking about, like, you know, I'm 108 years old and I'm, like, confused, like, I don't know what I'm doing. But when somebody says something and you don't quite understand it, you want them to open up and elaborate on it, you can lean in and be like, oh, how did you mean by that? Like I'm confused, like I don't understand. Like, oh, how did you mean when you said X? That's a confused tone. Now, subconsciously, what that does in the brain is it triggers them in their mind to say, oh, he didn't understand what I meant by that. I need to elaborate that more. And that's when they start to open up more. So, for example, and I want you to try this at home today, go to a loved one, and anytime they give you any type of emotional world, like I feel stressed, I feel frustrated, I have some anxiety, I feel pressure at work, I've got some tension with the kids. Just lean in, put your hand on your chest and say, tension or stress or frustrated. And you do that with that concerned tone and watch how they instantly emotionally open up and notice how close they start to feel to you. It builds massive trust. Try it today. I promise you it'll work. Lean in, hand on the chest. Hold on, how did you mean? Or stress and just repeat back that one emotion word. You see, when we train people with any PQ, tonality is one of the first things that we work on with you because it doesn't matter how good your questions are if the tone makes it feel like you're interrogating them or you're just reading from a script like a robot. Your tone is how it's going to determine whether they accept what you're saying or they don't. Now, number 4, how do you open? And how do you hold your ground? You see, that first 10, 15, 30 seconds of every conversation you're going to be in, this is where it's won or lost. I always say any interaction can be won or lost at hello. So when you open up with your background, who you are, what you've done, where you went to college, who you've worked with, it immediately signals what to somebody with higher status? That you have an agenda. Their brain reads it as they're wanting something from me, so they're trying to make themselves look Good. And now you're working uphill. Now their guard is completely up, and you've seen that before, haven't you? So what actually works is entering their world, their frame first. So lead with real observation, or maybe a well-researched question about something that's going on in their life. Maybe something you read about them online. Show you did your homework. Make them feel interesting, not feel like you're trying to sell them yourself. So instead of saying, I've been an industry expert this year, and I work with this, and I know this, Try something like this. You know, I was reading something online that you posted a couple of days ago when you were talking about X, Y, and Z. It was really brilliant. What was behind you actually making that statement? I'm just curious. That one little question right there, that's obviously going to be different context for a different situation. But that little question there tells them more about you than 5 or 6 minutes of you self-promoting yourself, because nobody cares about you. They only care about who. Themselves. That's just human behavior 101, right? Now, let's also take a look at the middle of the conversation. The other person pushes back, maybe on something you say, doesn't agree with you, maybe goes quiet, shifts their energy. Most people do what? They immediately go into appeasement mode. They backpedal. They start to overexplain to try to prove their point. They try to recover something that wasn't even lost. The principle I live by here is this. Write this down. High intent, low attachment. That's called high intent, low attachment. You're going to be genuinely invested in the conversation, but completely unattached to the outcome. You don't need them. You've got options. You're not attached. And when people feel like you're not attached to what they're saying or what they're doing, they feel automatically you've got higher status than maybe what they thought before, because they feel like you've got other options. You see, successful people feel when someone needs a conversation to go a certain way. You've even felt that yourself when you've talked with people maybe below you in the social status rankings, right? That neediness is something that triggers resistance every time they see it, they feel it, and then it's over. Remember, the brain recognizes patterns, and they've seen that pattern hundreds of times before, right? So the most respected people in any room, they can hold a position under pressure, not be defensive, not be aggressive. They're just neutral. They're more relaxed, they're more calm, they're collective. They can disagree without becoming disagreeable. That's what's called intellectual confidence. And it's extremely rare. And it's something you want to master. I know you do. Number 5, what actually can change for you? When you stop trying to impress high status people or wealthier people than you are, and you start trying to genuinely understand their world, you're going to notice the whole dynamic is going to shift in your life. These people are surrounded by people who want things from them every single day. Hey, I want to pick your brain. I want to know this. Every interaction has a transaction underneath it, and they've seen that. So when someone shows up with no agenda and they're genuinely curious, not fake curious, but genuinely curious, that makes them feel understood. That person becomes memorable in their mind, not because of what they said about themselves, because of how they made the other person feel. Are you getting this? Okay, so the real opportunities for you in your life, the introductions that you want, the partnerships that you desire, the access doesn't come from the pitch in that moment, doesn't come from you trying to prove how good you are. It comes from the conversation a few weeks later where they start to remember the conversation they had with that individual who they didn't even know who they were when they walked into that room. When they think about, you know, I've been thinking about what they said, and that spurs that memory because you stood out, you interrupted. The pattern that they had in their mind. You see what I'm talking about? Remember, you are who you associate yourself with. You are who you learn from. Your destiny will be decided on who you learn skills from. So one conversation handled the right way, with the right tone, with the right person, it can change the trajectory of your entire life, your business, your career, your personal life in ways that years of grinding never will. All right, so remember, here's what we covered. Now you know how most people collapse in these conversations before they start. You also know a little bit about high-status people and how they're reading your patterns. You also know how to show up so that you're memorable for the right reasons. You see, none of this requires you to pretend to be someone you're not. It just requires you understanding the game well enough to play it differently than everyone else out there does. So what's your next step? Hit the subscribe button. We're going to get you more videos every week. 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