Jess, a relationship coach, explains why conflicts escalate: each person operates from their own beliefs and history, and neither is wrong. Creating space for both perspectives breaks the habit of judging who is good or bad. Comment "quiz" to find your relational loop.
This one piece of information will transform your relationships. When you are in conflict with another person, you're having your experience and they're having their experience. Neither one is good, bad, right, wrong. You're literally experiencing things through the lens of your belief system, your past history, your traumas, and they're doing the same thing. So can we create space for your experience and their experience? And in that practice of creating spaciousness for both people's experiences and realizing that it's not personal, your relationships will be transformed. If you're stuck in deciding who's good, who's bad, who's right, who's wrong, whose side you're on, then you're going to be in a loop. So if you want to know what loop you're stuck in, if you're having this experience, comment quiz and I'll send you a quiz that'll tell you right away.
