6 Words To Not Let Bad Clients Affect You

You know something that never really worked for me when saying no to the money is the abundance mentality. Mentality, it didn't really work for me because, well, it's, it's, it's hard to say no to money. It's hard to, um, like, just mark it as when a client or a lead says no or just ghosts and says nothing. Well, it's pretty hard not, um, to have that affect you. It's just how it is. Now, for some people, the abundance mentality works. Like, for them it's good, as in there's enough clients, there's enough money, therefore this shouldn't really affect me. And that really, really does it. Like, it, it does a trick. Never really did for me. Like, I don't, I don't get affected by that anymore, but it wasn't because of the abundance mentality. That wasn't what really made me, in a way, cope with it. It was something else. And I think that it's important that everybody kind of has these, like, self things and statements that allow you to not get affected by things. It's 100% placebo, but if it works, then maybe it's not that placebo. So for them, maybe that abundance mentality is their placebo and is the way they handle it. But if it's hard for you to say no to the money, if it's still emotionally hard when somebody a lead says no, when people ghost, which is kind of how it goes in business always. Something that really worked for me that might work for you if you're not into the whole abundance mentality, mentality, is telling myself, I'm way too busy for this. I'm way too busy for this. And I noticed in myself that when I started believing that, well, when I said it, I actually believed it. Like the problem with abundance mentality reality was, uh, like, I didn't, I didn't whole believe that there's infinite money, and I don't, I don't believe in that. Uh, it just didn't do the trick. So there was a part of me when I said no to money, refunded somebody, people would ghost, that I would kind of say it but not really believe it. And so the effect would linger, it would still affect me, and I still wouldn't like it. But when I shifted that and I reframed it as, I'm way too busy for this, like, I don't have I have things to do. Well, that is, for me, it feels way more true than the other one. And so that allowed me to move on, to be on offense, to do better things. And so maybe that reframe can help if you don't really like or don't believe, which I don't, in the whole abundance mentality thing. Well, don't use it, man. This keeps tilting the more I talk, but, uh, don't use it. Find something else that works for you. And beliefs don't need to be true to be useful. Like, that's important. Beliefs don't need to be true to be useful. So whatever belief you've got— I met somebody who just, he did really well with women. He did really, really well. And he wasn't exactly Brad Pitt, if you know what I'm talking about, if you catch my drift here. But the guy would just believe and be like, everybody wants me. Everybody wants me to be their boyfriend. And the guy would just like talk himself into things, and I'd be like, dude, how are you rizzing like this? How do you have so much game? And then, well, he had a bunch of tricks, right? But that's where it started from. He just had that belief that it wasn't true, but it was useful. And so it's important that you find kind of these things that you can tell yourself so that, well, you'll be able to use them, you'll be able to keep using them so that You know, entrepreneurship can take a big toll in your soul. It can really be hard, um, and I believe that we're all coping anyway. So find a cope that works for you. Like, I think cope has a bad connotation, as in like you're avoiding reality. I like to see it as I'm inventing mine. So I have all these things that I tell myself that allow me to cope through it, and I'm doing fine. So maybe this one is helpful to you before I keep tilting Catch you later.