Asking "What should I do?" creates anxiety by implying one correct answer. Reframe it as "What would I do?" to think more flexibly, reduce pressure, and make better decisions, the way you'd advise a friend.
So I used to be really stressed because I would always ask the question, which I think is really toxic. What should I do? Should implies that what you're doing is wrong and that what the answer is to that is right. And it's never that way. Nothing is 100% positive or 100% negative. So asking myself specifically in business, what should I do? Or asking a mentor, what should I do? Put a lot of anxiety and stress on me because it kind of didn't make me understand nuance. And my personality type tends to not deal very well with nuance. And sometimes I fall into that trap and I'm like, right, that thing exists. But now I ask the question when I'm encountered with a problem that I realize, like, have you ever given advice to someone? And the question was kind of tricky, but you give advice and you're like, that was fire, bro. Clip that shit. Tweet that shit. Same thing happens to yourself. So instead of asking, what should I do? I ask myself now, what would I do? Because when you frame it like that, you solve problems better and anxiety goes way down.
