Ray Jorgensen 9 Dots Series- V3

I love those big sticky notes. Those are the great. That's Betsy, who just said she loves those big sticky notes. So welcome back to JLC online and an opportunity for us to complete, or at least complete the first three sessions on little tea trits. So we began by talking about nine dots and how people, when they start saying, I can do this and I can't do that, they're really putting themselves inside of those nine dots. So essentially putting ourselves inside of a box that says, I can sing, I can sing, I can hit a driver, I can't hit a driver, I can make this putt, I can't hit this shot, I can't hit out of the sand, I can hit out of the sand, all of that. It sounds almost like a self fulfilling prophecy in our conversation. And all too often when we start to talk about things, we don't always say them out loud, we say them to ourselves. And when we do, the conscious mind is interacting with the subconscious mind and it creates kind of a causal loop. I can hit a driver. I can hit a driver. I can make that shot. I can't make that shot. And as I say that time and time again, I build up here that little T truth. And once I create that little T truth, my creative subconscious, which is, if you remember right here, it has one job and one job only, make that little T truth come true. Now, there's always a little variation. We can hit a good shot one day and not the next and we eventually talk ourselves into what is normal. So if this is kind of a picture of our brain and we say, well, I can do this, I can't do that, that becomes truly our nine dots. Now I want to tell you a story about a kid I watched once when I was a high school principal. It was a baseball game. I think we were playing a team from Fort Myers and it was the bottom of the seventh inning and we were coming up to bat and the first kid got on base and I think we were losing by two runs or three runs. Then the second kid got on base and then the next two kids, one hit a fly ball and one hit a ground ball for a fielder's choice. So we had two outs and we were going to lose unless something happened. Now there was a kid in the on deck circle, the one that's going to come up to bat next. And you could just tell he wanted no part of this. The kid behind him was a young man who went on to play college ball. And he was pulling on the side of the screen going Come on, get on base. Because he wanted to be up when the game was over. I actually talked to that kid that was in the on deck circle, and he said, I didn't want to be up. I just wanted to stay where I was because I really. I struggle to hit in pressure positions. I struggle to hit in pressure positions. Creative subconscious will make that come true. He defined his nine dots. So the young man did get on base. He was hit by a pitch. So now we have bases loaded. And the kid that wanted to be up, you can just see him quivering, especially when he got in the on deck circle. I talked to him afterwards, and I said, tell me, why were you so, so, so intent on getting to bat? And he said, oh, I know I can hit the ball. I know I can help. I want to be up. I want to be the one that has the pressure. So his little t truth was, I can hit that pitch. I can hit the ball. I can drive runs in. I can help win the game. I'm anxious and nervous about hitting. I want to be up. I can hit. So both of those young people had little t truths about themselves. And it kind of represented. This represents my subconscious mind, my little t truth. And the other kid, when I talked to both of them afterwards, he said, well, how do I fix that? The other student, the one who hit the ball and wanted to be up so badly, he said, well, you need to just remind yourself that if it's going to happen, you're the one that's going to make the change. You're the one that's going to hit the ball. You have to change your little t truth. Don't fall back to the one that was there. Well, how do I do that? Well, again, further conversation. The three of us talk for almost two hours. How do I talk to myself before I get to bat? Either I say I can't hit that pitch, or I begin to say, I can hit this pitch, and I start to expand my nine dots. If I can expand my nine dots, I can go to a whole different place in terms of my ability to hit a pitch. So what we want to be able to do is to talk to ourselves differently and say things like, I can. I love to get up to bat whenever there's pressure. I love to have a problem to solve. I really want to be part of the bigger picture, want to be part of the win. I want to contribute. I want to. I want to. I want to not, oh, I have to get up to bat. I have to. I have to get on base. In order to win. No, I want to. I will. I am. I'm capable. All of those pictures expand our little t truth into something much greater. So listen to your own language and.