Jodie Louise argues jealousy is not shameful but a signal of love that reveals what matters to you. Suppressing it creates distance in relationships, while expressing it vulnerably—from ownership rather than control—deepens intimacy and transforms how partners connect.
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Jealousy. Jealousy is powerful. How many times have you heard someone say jealousy is powerful? That jealousy is exciting? That when you see your partner or someone that you want to be with, with another person, that it's actually a good thing if you feel jealous? It's not a bad thing to feel jealous, but there's been so much societal conditioning that being jealous is wrong, it's bad, and it's something to be ashamed of. What if I told you that being jealous is powerful if you know how to direct the energy? That being jealous is actually just showing you how much you love someone. How much you want to be with someone, how much that if they weren't in your life, you would be sad. So jealousy really is just showing you what is important to you in your life. How amazing is that? It's beautiful. The problem is jealousy creates problems in our lives because the jealousy that comes to us, we, we use it to try and control others. We allow it to hurt us. We believe that it's wrong to be jealous, so we stop being jealous and we actually swallow down our feelings. And by not being authentic in how we feel with our jealousy, we're actually creating separation. Jealousy isn't something that needs to be healed. It's just something that needs to be transformed. To transform the way that you look at jealousy, to see that jealousy Is a gift, a gift for you to know what matters to you, who matters to you in your life. So when you shame yourself from being jealous, what you're actually doing is you're separating yourself from the person that you want to be with more. How many times when someone's told you that they feel jealous, someone that you really love, it makes you feel good when They share it from a place of ownership, not control. When they say, oh, I saw you speaking to another woman today, I saw you speaking to another man today, and I felt jealous. I didn't like it. I started to feel fear that what if you like them more than me? When you can share from this place, it's beautiful, it's powerful. But when you say, you can't speak to her, You can't speak to him. It doesn't make me feel good. This is where jealousy is creating problems. But what ends up happening is, in relationships, when one partner expresses their jealousy in an unvulnerable way, in a projecting way, in a blaming the other way, what happens is this creates problems in the relationship. So it either tears the relationship apart Or what happens is the partner that feels jealous starts to swallow down how they feel. They stop expressing how they feel because they believe that it's wrong. So the reframe and actually seeing jealousy as beautiful, it's showing you that you just really want to be with this other person, is beautiful. It's amazing if you can reshift it. Jealousy creates separation when it's suppressed. But when it's expressed with so much love, it creates closeness. It brings you closer together. So the sooner you start to see your jealousy as a gift, your whole life is going to become so much easier. Sending you blessings on your journey of embracing your jealousy, loving your jealousy, and loving all parts of you. There's nothing broken. There's nothing wrong. Nothing needs to be fixed. All that needs to happen is to transform the feelings you feel into a more conscious way of being, a more loving way of being, compassionate way of being to yourself. And this will bring you closer to everything you want in life. Sending you waves of love from my heart to yours. If you need support with jealousy and overcoming this, please send me a message and we can talk about how we can help. Thank you, Jodie. Work together. Thank you so much, love. Muchos besos in Mexico right now.
