John Kenny explains the infinity loop of pain, a repeating pattern people fall into with relationships and career choices that leads to self-sabotage. Coaching can help break the cycle.
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Hello, I'm John Kenny and welcome to this video today. This is called the infinity loop of pain, and I'm going to just describe this briefly to you on the board. Imagine this is your starting point in your life. Imagine this is where you are now or where you've been in the past. And things that you put your mind to doing, relationships that you enter, at the beginning they all seem really good and you go with them. So they're all really nice to start with, and then you may get to a point where you start to think about these relationships or these career choices slightly differently, and they might start to feel uncomfortable. But what you do is you carry on because you want to see how it goes, but it may not feel quite right to you. So you keep going until you reach a certain point where you can't cope with this anymore, you can't do this anymore, where it doesn't feel right anymore and you need to step away from it. Now this could be because of in your past You've got used to certain situations where things haven't gone your way, that you don't believe that you deserve to have things in your life that you want. So you tend to shut down or take a step backwards, and you go further and further back in this until you get right back to the beginning again. You reach that point that you're used to, that point that you're comfortable with, And then you can embark on something else. So maybe you want to start another relationship, you want to try a new career. So then this all starts all over again, and you keep going round and round and round, always coming back to the same painful point where nothing really goes your way, nothing ever turns out the way you want it to. And you're never going to live the life that you want until you figure out what's really going on in your infinity loop. What does it feel like when you get to this point? Why do you need to self-sabotage or give up on things when things seem to be going— that they could actually go your way for a change? I hope you've taken something from this today. If you'd like to know a little bit more, or how coaching may be able to help you in your life, then please do visit our website www.johnkennycoaching.com. You can get in contact there with the contact box on the page, or you can give us a call and we can arrange a complimentary consultation to see how coaching can help you in your life.
Thanks for watching today, and I'll speak to you again soon.
