This content was created by John Kenny - The Relationship Guy. This content was uploaded by John Kenny - The Relationship Guy. This is a YouTube video titled "Signs of Emotional Abuse part Two" (uploaded 2023-11-21) featuring John Kenny - The Relationship Guy delivering a spoken monologue/advice segment about signs of emotional abuse. The excerpt covers points on minimizing toxic behavior, developing resentment and misplaced anger (e.g., people-pleasing), and becoming defensive due to low self-worth and repeated emotional abuse.
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Number 3 is that you minimize toxic moments. Many people have been emotionally abused in the past, developed the habit of minimizing bad behavior by excusing it or looking the other way. You could be thinking to yourself that it could always be worse, as you have probably experienced worse before, or you could be denying that it is actually that bad. That they don't really mean it, as you've tried to rationalize your past experiences to yourself. But bad behavior is just bad. It isn't something that you need to laugh off or explain away, even if you feel the need to do so. It can be hard to stop as you are used to it, but this is not normal, and you can learn to stop accepting it. As so. So number 4 is you can get angry or frustrated easily because you're doing a certain thing— people pleasing, for example— as a reaction to the toxic situation that you're in and not because you want to. Resentment can catch up with you. You will eventually ask, if you don't say out loud, subconsciously, what about me, and this can lead to frustrations and anger. You are also unlikely to aim this at the true source of your issues, and you might find that different small or unrelated things will trigger you instead. You may find that you'll take it out on others that are closer to you because you feel like you can, but not on the person that actually leads you to feeling this way. Number 5 is you often feel defensive. People who have experienced emotional abuse, especially those who have experienced continued exposure to abuse, tend to have low self-worth and self-esteem. It's not uncommon for someone to become defensive when they receive any feedback that they can see as attacking. In a toxic relationship, you probably find that you couldn't sustain doing the right thing, either because it didn't fit with the needs of the other person or That it just didn't matter what you did, it was never going to be enough. You can do 99 good things and then number 100 is the only thing that gets picked up on as not being right.
