People describe what brought them to coaching: confusion about the future, fear of moving forward, low confidence after divorce, and realizing they kept repeating the same relationship patterns. John Kenny talks with five people about why they needed help.
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Can you remember what it was like, how you felt before you came and were looking for someone to coach you?
Yeah, I think I was very sort of at odds with myself, very kind of confused as where my future was going and really how to sort of proceed with my future. There was quite a big fear of taking the step. that I wanted to take, but a lot of fear was holding me back.
Yeah, I was feeling very down, very lost, lacking confidence, you know, always on the verge of tears, very sort of— yeah, I think lost is probably the best word. It's— I just needed help. I needed someone to turn to, someone I could talk to and basically sort out the problems that I was experiencing and find a way of dealing with them, really. So yeah, it's probably lost is probably the best word, I think. What was causing that? Do you remember what it was like at the time? My divorce was playing on my mind a lot, still, even after how many— I think it had been, oh God, must have been about 10 years, or maybe 9 years after I got divorced, and it was still lingering. I was still hanging on, not letting go, and so it was mostly that. I just needed something to sort of make me see the light, as it were.
Yeah, I think we started unpacking the fact that my ex-husband's personality was similar with my dad's personality.
Mm-hmm.
And with you, I've become aware that actually I have chosen to conform in all my relationships since a young kid.
