Your Sense of Self

I want to try and get the message out there as much as possible that if you're struggling with things in your adult life, it's probably got a lot to do with the things that you've been struggling with most of your life. And a lot of those things, or most of those things, will come from your childhood unless you've experienced some kind of trauma later on in life. Most of the kind of the negative behaviours, and as well as the positive behaviours, come from the things that we experience in childhood. And one of the things that we do as children is we learn to adapt, we learn to fit into our environment, we learn to do what works within our family and then when we go to school and where we fit into that kind of equation. And it's called Forget-Me-Not because there are parts of our child's self that we discard or we suppress because they don't fit. And then Sometimes when we get older, those parts of ourselves we don't accept, or we don't feel comfortable with, we don't let them be seen because they didn't work when we were kids, they didn't get what we needed when we were kids. So for instance, I'll use alcohol as an example. People that drink will probably realize that they are different when they drink. Generally, that is because it bypasses the conscious part of your brain, your conscious blocks. And although the things that we're suppressing are subconsciously suppressed now, they are still sitting in our subconscious. So once we bypass our conscious blocks, that part of our child self is allowed to come out. So with me, that would be, uh, I'd be a little bit more gregarious. So I would, you know, dance without caring that anybody was watching, kind of thing, because I wasn't self-conscious. Because when I was a kid, I was told to behave. I was told to stop messing about. I was told to stop being stupid. Um, and that kind of suppressed that freedom within me as a child to just go play and to be seen and, and just let myself go.