Katharyn HavensFounder, Kairos Rise · Educational Innovator

What to Do When Kids Aren't Feelin' It

Name: What to Do When Kids Aren't Feelin' It
Uploaded: 2025-10-22T18:51:37+00:00
Duration: 2 min 11 s
Channel: Katharyn Havens
Description: In this solo monologue, Katharyn Havens reflects on a challenging week with her children and shares practical parenting approaches for days when kids are…

22 Oct 2025 · 2 min

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In this solo monologue, Katharyn Havens reflects on a challenging week with her children and shares practical parenting approaches for days when kids are disengaged. She emphasizes the importance of having simple "anchors"—a few core routines or goals—to keep the day moving without pressure. When the kids lose interest, she pivots to outdoor activities like walks, tree climbing, and imaginative games to reset energy. Beyond day‑to‑day logistics, Havens stresses teaching children enduring "always" values—kindness, creativity, being a good person, and self‑grace—rather than focusing solely on academic knowledge. She frames these values as the true measure of a successful day, offering a compassionate, low‑pressure mindset for parents navigating unpredictable moments.

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Hey y'all, are you celebrating National Wrinkly T-Shirt Day? I am. I'm kidding, I just made that up. It's not a thing. Y'all, for real, this week was kind of difficult. You know, some weeks are just like that. It's like I had all these plans and then things went off the rails, and I just thought, thank God I just have my anchors. Because I don't want to fight with anybody. Like, I don't want to be pushing these kids, you need to do this, you need to do— like, like, no, no. I'm not begging. I'm not asking even more than like twice. I just have my anchors and then we go with the flow. If they're not feeling it, if they're literally melting out of their chairs which is what happened this week, I just said, "All right, we're taking this outside. We're going on a walk." And I just took my paper and we went outside. We had a long walk. We climbed trees. We had imagination games. And so I'm just here to commiserate that some days don't go as planned and some weeks just don't even go right. But if you have a simple system and a couple of things that you want to get done in a day, and you remember that there's a lot of knowledge that is just for the sake of knowledge, and the things that really matter and the things that fit in the Always category are how to be a cool person, how to be creative, how to have kindness and how to give yourself grace. So if I can teach them that, if you can teach your kids one thing that fits in the always category, I mean, it's a successful day. They've learned something more important than they probably would have learned in a traditional school. So that's my two cents for today. See ya.