Kathy Caprino explores where inauthenticity starts. She asks you to trace back: how old is this feeling, whose approval did you need as a kid, and who did you have to be to get loved. Fear of rejection from childhood often drives the person you pretend to be now.
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Three tips I found that are essential in becoming more authentic. Number two. You know, I think part of why the coaching work I do and the writing touches a lot of people is that it just doesn't skim at the surface. Like, it's not just about how you interview and how do you choose a good job. It's deeper because all of this is deeper. So I want you to go deep and ask yourself, how old is the feeling that I can't be authentic? That Tony Robbins asked this question in his documentary I am not your guru, which is an incredible. It's really great. Who did you crave love most from in your family? Your parents? And who did you have to be to get it? I realized in answering that question that who I had to be is who I still am trying to be to get validation, to get love to be accepted. And a lot of not being authentic is from your fear that you won't be accepted, that you won't be loved, that you'll be rejected. And that comes from childhood. How does that inform where you feel inauthentic today?