Epiosde 425: 25 Transformative Years

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I'm Larry Weddell.

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Of Million Dollar Mastermind. I'm talking with Stephen Ferrone, English drummer, member of Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers for 25 years. Well known drummer, plays, has played with just about everybody in the industry over the years and now hosts, among other things, his own radio show, Radio Voice. Yeah, you got a great radio voice, by the way, on Tom Petty Radio, the new Guy show. And how does Talk about the 25 transformative years? You know, because the thing is in life we don't know what's in front of us. But you know, you can, you can chase after it, you can go for it, or you can shrink, but I have the, you know, looking at you from a distance and talking with Alan about you, it appears that, you know, you've always been, first of all, you got a phenomenal attitude. People enjoy being around you, not just playing with you, but you stayed on the attack, much like Clapton has. You know, you're playing, you know, you're a drummer, you know, you, you know, he's a guitar player. He likes, like he says he likes to play with the top, with top people and mainly he's got to do that, he's got to have a reason to do that. So he tours, you know, that's what I do. And so you, you know, you record, you tour and you continue to operate at the highest level. How has that, what have you learned about life and enjoying life and continuing to accomplish rewarding things? Steve, I mean, do you ever reach the point where you feel like I've made it? I mean, I played all the top venues in the world. You know, I know all these famous artists and you know, I'm friends with them. I got them a speed dial and, you know, there's no worlds left unless you want to be an actor or a comedian.

Steve, you know, I, you know, I really love doing, I really love making music. I really enjoy that. And, and the Heartbreakers. The Heartbreakers for me was something that was really special because they would, it was such, it, it was, is such an authentic man. You know, I, I don't know, I've been in bands that socialized a lot more than the Heartbreakers did. We don't, we don't socialize that much. Although we can always go drop in. In somebody's house. Nobody's sort of, you know, I think Ben. Ben and I hang out more than anybody else. Sometimes I hang out with Ron Blair, too. I go and see him quite a bit.

That's been my tench, the keyboard player. And then Ron Blair is the bassist. The original bassist, yep.

But I think that this band was. Was really. We. When we would get together, we would make music, and it was a love of making music that we had that really bound that band together. Sometimes we wouldn't see each other forever. We'd come back and walk into that room and we sit down and we start to play. And it wouldn't take long to shake off the cobwebs. And Tom would turn around and say, yeah, sounds just like them. Sound just like them. And there it was. You know, it was a musical and familial experience. I mean, it was just wonderful. But I have great relationships with other musicians. Nathan East, Greg Fillinganes and their families are like my family. I mean, there's just been so many.

What do you do, what do you do when you, you know, there's ebb and flow when you're in charge. You know, you're playing as a solo artist with other bands and everything. There's ebb and flow of how busy you are or are you on tour? When things slow down, what do you do to get going again?

You.

You know, to make contacts, let people know that, you know, find out what's going on. How does that work?

You know, I used to. Well, there was a time when I would just sit in my house and drink. I drink 151 rum and wonder what I'd done to offend people. Nowadays, what I do is that I usually go and involve myself with other recovering alcoholics and I try to help the guys that are.

That.

That need to be helped.

And that's rewarding.

Yeah. And, and, and you know what it's like. It's like stuff just shows up. Yeah. I mean, look, when, when, when, when Tom. When Tom died, it was totally unexpected. The last time I saw him was after we went. We went to his hotel after the Hollywood bowl and he. He was talking about not working as hard, but doing some stuff. He wanted to do the. The Wildflowers tour and he was going, he had plans, and I'd never seen him like that after a tour. Usually Tom was like, that's it. I never want to do this again. I'm never going to go out on the road again. I'm Fed up with him. And he would go home and he'd put on his robe, and he'd stay in his robe for months at a time and just roam the halls of his house. And that was it. You wouldn't see or hear anything of him for a while. Until. Until one day he'd say, give me that guitar over there. And then he'd start playing a song and the process would start again. But this time he was really. He had a lot of stuff that he wanted to do and that he was going to get around to doing and producing some records and doing some other stuff. And then he. He died. He was gone.

Yeah.

And. And, and it was. It was more where's our friend gone? Than it was where's our job gone. Yeah, it was like, what, what was that all about? Where did he go?

Right. Yeah. And.

And so I've spent the last 2017. So five years now, the last five years, I don't live very far away from Van Nuys airport. And I would drive by Van Nuys airport with my fiance, with Julia, and I'd say, I guess those days are gone. Those days are done. No more private jets, no more five star hotels. And she said, don't be silly. Got a lot of life in here. What are you talking about? And seven. And now 70, 71 years old. You know what's going to happen? Yeah, 71 year old rock drummer. What's going to happen? And so I had little. I do little projects. I record at home. That's where I got my pension. That'll be about it for me. And I. And the phone rings and it's Pino Palladino. And he says to me, you interested in going on the road? And I'm like, well, what is it? And he says, you want to go on the road? John Mayer love for you to come play with him. Yeah, but that would be nice. Yeah, I think that would be cool. And a week ago I was on a private jet flying, flying to the east coast. And today I'm sitting in the Four Seasons Hotel with COVID you know, you know, there's a wonderful world we're given. I think, you know, if you're a musician and you're listening to this to get something, to get a lot of people come in and say, wait, do you have an agent? Who's the agent? Who's an agent? You know, it's funny, I was given this gift, this amazing gift that I've been given to playing music and being able to play the drums pretty well, I guess. People seem to think that I play people, they think I play very well. So absolutely. And I've been given this gift and I don't think God's ready for me not to have it yet. When he's ready for that, it's just not going to happen.

But you've seen insecurities in band members cause meltdowns that didn't need to happen where like the same kind of thing we all have. I think Steve, everybody, when we all walk into a party that we don't know the people there we think everybody else knows, everybody else is having a great time. They all know each other. I don't know anybody. What am I doing here? And then you find out half the room feels the same way. And you're not the only one, you know. And then you start meeting some people all of a sudden, you know, the barriers are down. But people go through life and the first tendency is to feel like, you know, I've offended someone, you know, or they're offending me or what did they mean by that?

That's what I said. That's what I said before is like when, when my phone didn't ring, I would sit down with a bottle of 151, and 151 rum and sit there and feel sorry for myself and say, what have I done? Who have I offended? And the fact I had.

Yeah. And now you find and go on vacation instead of just enjoying the time off. I mean, everyone, everyone has a tendency to fall into the racked with insecurities. You know, my over my age, either too young, too old, or I don't, you know, the people that I was counting on, you know, the manager is no longer in the business. I don't know these people. You know, the industries changed, you know, the music, nobody. How do you make it in the music business now? And there's all kind of ways to feel paranoid and insecure if you fall into that. What do you tell the people you know? You say you go into the Alcoholics Anonymous and counsel people. What are things that you find really helps people when they're going through their recovery?

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Well, I mean, you know, I think what you have to have is an. You have to have experience. You have to be able to be honest enough to talk about what's going on with you.

Yeah.

You know what we were talking about just now when. When I said I. When I didn't. When my phone didn't ring, I got scared and I used to get Butler 151.

Yeah.

And wonder what I'd done to people who I'd offended. Right. You related to that right away.

Right.

When I'm talking to somebody. When I'm talking to somebody that's. That's just found out that they got this massive problem with drinking and can't imagine life without doing that. When they talk to somebody who, who's felt the way that they felt, maybe not had the same experience, but have been in that place of that feeling of being lost and, and, and they. All of a sudden, man, this guy knows. This guy's talking about how I. He knows how I feel.

Yeah.

Then that, that, that. That seems to be able to convince them. I know it worked for me because. Did it to me. And, and, and I thought that I was unique. And then I found out that there's other people that have been through the same sort of stuff. There was the other side. I mean, for me, my life was over, finished. People was like, no, it's just something that you got to go through and you'll come out the other side. You'll be fine.

Well, when you, you know, one of the things I talk to people about is, you know, you can read books and tapes and this, that and the other, but at some point and this. And I think helps is part of. Goes behind what you're doing with the other. When you go talk to people in AA or Alcoholic Anonymous is like you're teaching them how to evaluate the situation for themselves rather than fall apart. And it, to me, it comes in you. At some point, you got to get to where you can be your own best self coach because you know how you react and you know how this. Does that resonate with you?

I'm sitting there talking to a guy. I'm sitting there talking to a guy that has everything going on with him that went on with me and continue to go on with me if I don't work at not doing it right.

Yeah.

So the guy said. So you had all these troubles too? Yes, I How did you do it? I had to change. And when I changed, the situation changed.

When.

Let me go back and ask you about giants. What did you, what do you think distinguished those guys in New York that you notice of? These guys are giants, you know, and it was a transformative experience for you to be around them. What you looking back on that now, what do you think were the ingredients of them becoming that way?

Okay. You've been around the Heartbreakers, right?

Yeah.

Did you ever stand near the Heartbreakers when they were playing?

I was off state.