A YouTube presentation titled "The Dangers of Over-Achieving" (May 2016) describing two archetypes: the over-responsible leader and the overachieving leader. For each it lists strengths (e.g., care, commitment, passion, goal-orientation), distorted beliefs (e.g., others' needs > own, self-worth tied to achievement), reflective questions (self-care, accountability, meaning of success/failure, team impact), and key transformations (prioritizing needs, shifting from achievement to relationships and meaning). The speaker also references audience scoring ("about 5" scored over 70% on over-responsibility) and notes risks such as burnout and caretaking behaviors.
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How many scored over 70% on over responsibility. So about 5. So strengths of an over responsible leader. Enormous care, commitment, responsibility. Distorted beliefs. Needs of others more important than their own. Confronting people should be avoided. Everyone and everything depends on me. So they just take the whole world on themselves. Questions to consider. How do you take care of yourself with all the stress? Do you tend to meet others needs before yours? What does accountability look like on your team? Do you ever feel taken advantage of? And key transformations? Trying to spare others discomfort is you avoiding it. Realizing your needs must come first and stop caretaking behaviors. How many overachievers? This one's as much as everyone's like yeah, overachiever until I go through the next slide. This one's almost as much as distraction. So strengths, obviously overachiever. It's passion drive. Your goal orientation. You're efficient, you're focused. Distorted beliefs. Outer success creates inner fulfillment. So right. I mean we're really about just the balancing the holistic approach to all of this. Your self worth comes from achievement. So if you're truly driving all the time, there's a of part. Part of you that needs that in order to feel good about yourself and extreme difficulty with failure. I'm definitely an overachiever. So questions to consider. Do you feel fulfilled when you achieve your goals? I think John, you and I were having a conversation about just the meaning behind your goals when you shifted towards impact and serving the families on your team. And it just takes on a different meaning than like, yeah, like you're just on this treadmill and you're like why the f am I on this treadmill? Like I don't even know why. What do you really want your life to look like? So truly, truly a life by design. How do you do you define success? What is failure like for you? How is your team impacted by your drive to succeed? And that's a key one. I mean not everyone is going to show up in your business as an overachiever. So if you're an overachiever and you only want to be surrounded by overachievers, you know, it could be exhausting if the person can't keep up with your pace. I mean you may be sort of leading the pace there and there's a big chance of burnout. Key transformations. Achievement becomes secondary to self awareness, realization that life is about people and relationships and the realization of the importance of meaning and beauty.
