The Secret to Manifesting Abundance: Shift, Heal & Align Masterclass | Leilah Mirza Day 3

Hello everyone. So I know there's going to be people joining later from cars and children playground car parks, and that's also very, very sunny day in England today. So I just want to ask you, how are you doing? Put it in the chat box if you have watched, um, all of the day one and day 2. So if you watch day 1 and day 2, let me know whether you watched it back or whether you're still in the process of finishing it. And let me know how you've been feeling and if there's been any changes since day 1 and day 2. Okay, and then we'll get straight into it in a moment. We are a few minutes early. Amazing, lovely Chrissy, wonderful. Okay, word entering. Heidi. Welcome to day 3. Your presence was missed yesterday. Okay, so there's going to be people joining. I've got 2 cameras on in front of me. I've got one over here which I'll be speaking to and one over here which I'll be reading your messages and seeing who's entering the waiting room. Okay, so I'm just going to give a brief, um, a brief summary of what we covered over the past 2 days. So day 1 was all about my story, which I've explained to everybody, where I came from, okay, where I was stuck in my life and what brought me to where I am today. So I spoke about my stuck era coming from nothing and becoming a single mother, living in an apartment with no windows, no car, manifesting my own home, then manifesting a great husband, a great business that thrives, and children. So I come from a point where I've had nothing and struggle and living in lack. My mindset was all about, "I need, I need this and I need that," to being in a place where I am shifting that energy into, "I create." Okay, because Need comes from lack. Need is an energy of struggle. When you say, "I need," that actually creates more fear and more resistance. And those things are conditioned to us through our childhood, right? Through our childhood. Maybe it's something that we saw growing up as children. Maybe you have witnessed, um, things on TV or in your social life where you have taken that on as your belief. And this is why, if you picture one rotten apple in a bowl of fruit, the chances are they're all gonna rot. Because the first 5 people that you hang around with is essentially what you become. Also, the people that you attract in your inner circle is people that will show you aspects of yourself, of where you are in your life essentially, and where you're stuck in your life. Right? So if you are attract— if you attract someone, for example, who meditates a lot, you're going to end up meditating a lot. If you end up walking with, um, Fitness Moms a lot, you're going to end up wanting to have stronger fitness goals. If you end up with people who are healing, um, you're also likely going to want to end up healing on your journey. So over the past few days, you have been witnessed to So seeing everybody's on the same and everyone probably has same beliefs, and this is why you're here. So the first 5 people really represents who you are in your life. It's very important that we look at the people that we are attracting, right? Because the people that we attract in our life tells us about our story. Do you attract people who have the same energy as you or struggling? Do you attract people more in the masculine energy? Maybe they don't feel safe in their feminine self, and maybe this goes back to their childhood. Maybe it's a conditioning of not feeling safe to be a woman, whatever that looks like. So your surroundings really represent you, right? So that's why it's important to be in a community where you feel that you're being encouraged to be better, where you're pushed to see the bigger picture. So when I work with women, and I work in my coaching programs, I tell people, dream bigger for me. Show me something bigger. If someone goes away and tells me, you know what, I, I've written my, my vision board, or I've created a goal, and the goal is perhaps I'm going to travel in 3 months, I would be like, okay, I need you to grow bigger than that. Do something that is going to push you out of your comfort zone. In a moment, we have Chrissy who will come up and she's going to share her amazing journey because she's been on, on this, um, 3-day program. And I've seen her on this 3-day program and I want to hand over her— hand my speech over to her— no, hand her over to be a host for a few moments just so Chrissy can share her journey of where she started and how she transformed, so you can understand that everything I'm speaking about is doable, and it all starts in the mind. So if you have any questions in the chat box, I want you to drop it in the chat box. Today is day 3, it's our last day. We're also going to bring 2 people online today who we're going to be laser coaching, um, a short 10-minute laser coaching. And if you're feeling brave and comfortable, you have you're welcome to turn your, um, camera on. If you don't have the courage within you right now, I completely understand, um, and I will accept or allow you— I'll honour the fact that you want to turn that camera off. So that's completely okay. I'm human, I get my words muddled up, as you can see as well. So I'm sure that we all within us have something that we become conscious about here and there. So today I want to speak to you about shifting that paradigm. So just a bit of a recap Right? We have the story, so we're all aware that we have a story. We're all aware that our story is the narrator of our life, and we see this in everything. This is called— our story is called our paradigm. Okay, so everything that we manifest in our life, good and bad, rich and poor, success and lack, is all things within us that we are in harmony with. Right? So if you have manifested a business, your business isn't running in alignment, that's because you are in harmony with that vibration. If you are manifesting clients who comes from struggle or can't afford to pay you for your services, that's because you are running in alignment with that energy. You are in harmony with that, right? And that harmony, that alignment comes from your story, right? So you would have a story which I would call the belief systems, which narrates where your story goes. This could be that, am I enough? Do I feel lovable? Right? These stories really truly create the paradigm, right? And the paradigm is held in a subconscious part of the brain. Our paradigm controls where we're gonna go, how fast we're going to move in our life, what we're going to tolerate, and what we're going to accept. So remember, your brain really doesn't know anything. Your brain is actually neutral, but you inform the brain and the brain reacts, right? And this is the, you know, the law of vibration that I spoke about, cause and effect. So whatever we throw up has to come down, right? If you're going to consistently, um, every day focus on I need to heal, I need to heal, you're going to create that, that struggle to heal because it's coming from a place of disempowerment. It's coming from a space where you feel powerlessness within you. So that's one thing that I wanted to cover today. One thing that I wanted to cover today was how thinking positively alone is not going to help you to manifest and it's not going to help you to create abundance. Right? So I think someone mentioned affirmations. If they can, they find this very, very effective. But if they can use affirmations, how affirmations will change the life. Affirmations alone is not going to bring you the abundance, right? Because thinking positively alone just becomes a dream. When we apply action, it becomes a goal. So over this 3 days, I've given you a lot of content and a lot of knowledge or pearls of wisdom, or let's say golden nuggets of what you can apply in your life, right? By releasing the story, not holding on to the story, not becoming attached to the story, right? So yep, we have childhood trauma. Perhaps mommy didn't show up for us, perhaps daddy left, who knows? But we can't hold on to the story. Because the moment we hold on to that attachment, we create secondary gains. Secondary gains basically means we use the story as leverage in our life, and when we do that, we are then becoming a victim, okay? Because we're going to say, I need the story because the story is going to save me. The story is not going to save you. It's going to keep you in lack because you're still needing And remember, need comes from struggle. So, if you listen to people around you, and I want you now to focus on people who you may be aware of, your inner circle, perhaps your outer circle, perhaps people you've met in a store or wherever that is. Listen to the language, because when my clients speak to me, I pay attention very deeply to the words that they're using, right? And if someone goes, "I need, I need to do this." I need to. There's a desperation that comes from, and this desperation is because we are not feeling safe within us and we are not allowing ourselves to trust. So yesterday I asked you, what does trust look like? What, what does it feel like to trust? What does trust mean to you? What does trust look like? Okay, and a lot of people are probably unaware of how much they can trust themselves. So we have trust and we have faith. These things are called intrinsic goals. Intrinsic goals are values within us that we need to become in-aligned with in order to create the extrinsic goal. Extrinsic goals are things on the outside. In order for us to create what we want on the outside, we need to make sure that we're coming from a solid alignment. So that's where we are today, right? So it's creating those— the trust that I trust myself enough to receive that. So was it on Wednesday? On Wednesday, the day 1, I asked you to write a big vision, right? Because we need to become crystal clear of what we want. If you're going to come to me and tell me, "I want a business," I would need to know more. If you're asking the universe to create you a business, for example, because I know a lot of people that I manifest are all in aligned with wanting to create a business, right? So if you want to create a business, you have to become really clear of the goal, okay? Or if you want to create a love in your life, perhaps a man, you need to become clear. And this is what the list could look like: In order for me to attract love in my life, I need a man who's emotionally available, right? I could get a very attractive man who's just not emotionally there for me, right? I need to attract a man who's perhaps financially stable, right, and has a healthy relationship with money. Because as I shift my paradigm shift, the man has to hold his own container, otherwise the relationship may be out of harmony. So I'm just, just making an example of how clear and concise we need to be. Because usually when I ask people, what is it that you really want to become? What does your future self look like? What does your future business look like? A lot of people don't know. And why is that? It's because people don't actually think, you know. A lot of humans don't actually sit and think, what do I want my future to look like? What is the end result, right? Some people might tell me, I just want to get a house, I just want to get a car. And then you're going to get there, is it going to stop, right? What do you want to achieve in your lifetime? Is it fulfillment? Is it joy? Is it freedom? If people tell me, like I said yesterday, if people say to me, I want to be able to manifest 'a lot of money.' Money is not really the manifestation, it's the outcome of money, right? It's the freedom that they want the money, what the money should do for them, that's what they're trying to manifest. And what you have to do then is to release the story, right? Because if you're going to put your vision board out and go, 'This is my vision board,' holidays, business, love, children, good food, yoga, whatever that is, all good. But if you keep walking away from your vision board, and this is exactly why people stay stuck and get stuck, if you walk away from that vision board, right, and you keep going, I need to do this, I need that, or perhaps I'm struggling to tap into my masculine energy, perhaps I'm struggling to tap into my feminine energy. Your vision is not going to be in aligned because your vibration is out of alignment, right? So your vision that you have, you have to feel in aligned to hold that vision. Otherwise, these are just your dreams, right? So we have to take the action. And what is the action that we're gonna take? The action is becoming, right? So a few, a few weeks ago I was coaching, I had a great opportunity to coach someone abroad and the coaching session was all about becoming, right? Learning to become and this is essentially, this is what I do in my coaching programs. I teach people becoming, the art of truly becoming, which basically means I'm not changing you and I'm not shifting your paradigm, but what I'm doing is I am peeling off the layers from you of what people told you to become. I'm opening you up layer by layer to who you are authentically, your purpose, what you're meant to do here and how you're meant to serve, right? So I'm peeling back layers of you that's not true and I'm putting you back alignment. So you are becoming who you're meant to be because you were not born in— to be lack. You're not born to struggle, right? Everything we have in life is our program we are running based on our experiences, okay? Just for example, your money story. Your money story is based on your childhood experiences of everything that you have experienced as a child. It's learnt behavior. So don't forget, the true programming starts from learnt behavior. Your paradigm that you are living in is a learnt paradigm, and this is where you need to shift that energy to elevate into a new paradigm. Okay, so I needed to elevate, and in order for me to elevate, I needed to become the woman that I wanted to become, and then I could grow. And in order for me to do that, I set myself a really big goal and I took action. That's all I done, right? I knew I had a story, was one. The story is, yep, I had trauma as a child. We all did, right? At different levels, at different perceptions, we have trauma on some level. I knew I needed to fix my people pleasing, right? People pleasing is not going to make you successful because you're too worried what people's going to think of you, right? If you're a people pleaser, it's, I can't show myself up, I have to hide, I have to be invisible. What are people going to think if I become successful? What are people going to say, right? So in South Africa, where I come from, there's a belief that runs around this, right? And the belief is, oh, She thinks she's going up there, and they would say, um, get back to the ground. But in Afrikaans, it would be keep yourself down, bring yourself back down to earth, right? Which is very fascinating. It's a very fascinating belief that basically means unconsciously, who do you think you are to grow so big, right? And then we take it on that in life we have to have the good girl syndrome, otherwise people won't love us. Otherwise you won't be accepted, right? Or perhaps you may be running a belief that you're being greedy because you like things, right? Or you, you're greedy. But these are all beliefs and programs that holds you in your paradigm where you are right now, and this is exactly why you're stuck at where you are. Maybe you want to grow bigger, maybe you want to get a bigger business, Maybe the business isn't doing well. It's been running and you're doing all the hard work. Maybe you have a belief, and the belief is, I have to work hard for money, right? That's a belief, darling, because you don't. You don't have to work hard. I work 2, 3 days a week, right? I mean, I still work behind my business at some point, but essentially I show up 2 days a week, and I probably do more than what an average person makes a month, right? Because I had to clear those beliefs. Everything that you're living right now is based on a program you are running. So that program is your paradigm, and we need to shift the paradigm. So today I want to show you where you are, how you are thinking the way you do, and what happens when you release a story. Okay, so I'm gonna bring on Chrissy in a moment, and then I'm gonna bring on my two other ladies through hot seating, um, hot laser coaching, which could— which is going to be very exciting for me. Um, but I want you to, if you have any questions, put it down in the box below, and I will answer your questions afterwards or a bit later. So what is really interesting moving forward is a lot of people chooses intellect over awareness, right? So when I'm working with people, people feel that they need the labels, they need to invest more in intellectual than the awareness. But the truth is awareness is higher than intellect because if you're self-aware, there's more power in the mind than what you're learning to create, right? The mind is more powerful because the mind can drive you to your goals. Now, have you ever seen this before, right? If you have been speaking about a red car, or for example, you're speaking about a Ford or a, or a Porsche, whatever that is, and all of a sudden you see red cars or Porsches right? Or if you saw a jacket you really like and all of a sudden other people are wearing this jacket. There's a word for this, right? There's a certain word. This is Rettinal Analysis Activating System. That basically means that the, the mind is showing you where your thoughts are, right? So the mind is creating the scenario for you and highlighting where you are. So the mind can co-create alongside you. Your mind is incredibly powerful. Honestly, your mind is incredibly powerful. Your mind can either service you, be your servant and control you, or you can control your mind. But we need to change our language to "I choose to," because "choose" comes from abundance. "Choose" comes from "I have choices," right? So Listen to this. We're going to a restaurant and I'm gonna tell you, tonight I choose to go there. That energy alone speaks about I have choice, I have freedom, this is abundance. But if I say, oh, we need to go somewhere, you know, I need— once again, I need to find a place— it comes from struggle. So then everything in our mind that we focus on will struggle. So it's very important to understand the activating system in our head, right? That's why they say if you focus on a negative, whatever you focus magnifies, right? So whatever you look at, if you look at drama, it magnifies. This is why I always say, and I say to my husband, if it's negative and drama, please don't tell me because I don't have energy for drama. Drama does not pay rent in my brain. Because I'm too focused on creating right now. I don't have any space for drama or negativity because that holds us from creating, right? So we have to choose what we listen to and what we want to become. Okay, so if anyone is looking to create abundance or success after today, I want you to live from that moment, not live from the moment as a goal. I want you to live from that moment because so within as without, so within as on the outside. So whatever is happening on the inside will also show on the outside. So I want you to feel that you are there and what that feels like. And there's science behind this. This is called neuroplasticity. Oh my gosh, my tongue tied today. Okay, so this is all to do with the way our energy and the way everything vibrates around us, okay? Because when we are starting to live in harmony, what's actually happening is we are engaging in an emotional reaction, right? Emotional reaction governs the law of vibration. You can't visualize— visualizing means nothing if you don't know what that feels like. Okay, so if you follow me on Instagram at @leilahmirzacoachingandhealing.com, I posted a post a few days ago, and the post is 3 questions I ask my clients: how does it serve you? What are you learning from this? Okay, and what does this feel like for you? Because feelings create the attachment. If we don't feel anything We don't create that vibe. Do you know if you go out and you buy, you try something on and you like it, you start having that feeling, "Oh, this feels so good." You start having that visualisation, "Oh, I can see myself wearing that," right? If you go out and you see a nice car, you go, "Oh, I like that car. I can see myself driving that." What happens? There's an exchange that happens, right? This exchange is called a transaction, a transaction of emotion. So when we're emotionally engaging, we've married that feeling, and that's when things happen around us, right? And that's how we're manifesting. So everything that you're wearing, where you're living right now, you chose to create that. You manifested everything around you, right? You can create the life that you want. You're a co-creator. But we have to understand to use our emotions in a very, very, very powerful way, right? So we have to choose where we're putting our emotional energy into. If we're putting our emotional energy into our childhood the whole time, that is going to carry on. We're going to keep on journey. The quicker way to heal your journey and to become in alignment is just become it, right? Say, I'm not— I'm learning to heal, I'm healing, right? If you want to say that, um, I want my body to look good, you say, my body's starting to look good, right? So we have to change our language because spelling— there's a word called spelling. Spelling is spell, spells, right? The words we use are very important, right? Our body language. So how I'm talking to you right now may even start to make you feel really safe, really powerful, right? Because words are really, really powerful. So remember, in order for us to heal quicker, or perhaps manifest whatever that is we want faster, we need to be able to shift our paradigm. And to shift our paradigm is we need to have awareness, we need to become conscious of what is going on around us. Once we have that awareness of what's going on and we can see a bigger picture of who we are and what is happening in our world, and what we want, we need to release the story, okay? And we have to then become. So it's really easy if you follow the steps. But remember, after this workshop, that's 3 days, because if you imply these powerful steps, you will really become it because the mind will create the scenario. So over there I have a board, and I could show you that board easily. It's a value board. It's a lot of numbers on there. It was my goal. My goal was actually by the end of the year, I'm going to manifest this amount of money. I did it within 2 months. I don't know why and how, because I didn't need to know the how. I just need to trust myself, right? So you don't need to think of the strategy. You need to be able to know what it feels like to trust that you are there already, that that's going to happen. And this is called faith, right? You need to have the faith that I know I can do this, I'm doing this already, I'm just going to get bigger at this, right? You need to have that faith. And if you struggle doing it because right now evidently you feel like I just don't have the money, you need to find something that's going to shift your awareness to where you feel good, right? Where you feel like I do have the money for this right now. And this is shifting the awareness. And humans do this in a very unhealthy way. They're shifting when they don't— they're not responsible for something and someone calls them up for it and holds the mirror of truth in front of them, they turn it around to them and they say, but you did this. That's called shifting, right? So I need you to become clever about this and use it in your power, shifting into manifesting. Into, I'm going to create this from here, from the now. So I'm going to find something that I'm truly grateful and truly in aligned with right now, and I'm going to become bigger in this area, right? And that's how you're going to grow into your alignment. It's actually really simple, but humans complicated. And the reason why humans complicate that is because the brain is more likely to look at the story of how you cannot right? And this is why we are creatures of habit, right? We are creatures of habit. We, we carry on by our habitual thinking. Habitual thinking means our everyday program— wake up, take the kids to school, do this, do that. We are so in habit every day that we don't think, okay? But if we shift into our higher awareness and go, actually, I need to release the story right? This story doesn't serve me. This is who I'm going to become. That there, the becoming, is the action that you're going to take. When you write it down and become clear and have clarity— otherwise, your goals will not come to you without clarity. There's always a gift in clarity. And what happens when you write your goals down? You'll have fear. The fear that will come up. Sometimes the fear looks like imposter syndrome, and if you haven't heard of imposter syndrome, imposter syndrome will tell you why you cannot do it or why you're not good enough. So something that's an innate, an innate belief in many humans— many humans have self-worth issues, not just you. A lot of people have self-worth issues, and this I studied in psychodynamic therapy as well. It's a natural response to humans because we are conditioned by the outside world that no matter what we're doing, it's not enough. Okay, so when the fear comes up, you need to feel it and rise. You need to feel it and face everything. You have to feel the fear and move through the fear. You don't feel the fear and get stuck in fear. You feel the fear and then you carry through. Okay, you still have to take action. But whatever you do, you need to remember these words. You need to listen to this 3-day program over and over until you understand this, because this is real tools that I work with with my clients that really show results. So now I'm going to bring over Chrissie. So Chrissie, I'm going to bring the light over to you right now, and I'm going to put you in spotlight. And you can share. Chrissy will share her journey.

Thank you, Leilah.

You're welcome.

Thank you. Hi everybody. Um, yeah, so nice to meet you all. Uh, so from my perspective, I started working with Leilah, um, about a year ago now. Um, I came to her very stuck. I was very stuck. I was living in the past. Um, I was very much lost, not able to see any kind of future, just kind of day to day going through the process. I was working in— well, still am working in a high-powered, um, uh, you know, corporate company as a finance manager. So I'd been very successful in my career, but I wasn't getting any kind of satisfaction from, from, from that job. Um, to me, it— I was kind of pleasing everybody else. That's what was expected of me. Um, so started working, um, with and it became very apparent that I had a lot of limiting beliefs from my childhood. I was living in a bit of a victim complex from trauma that I'd experienced, and I'd just been on a bit of a roller coaster the last 10 years, and I was just flailing and didn't really know which direction to go in. Fast forwards, um, a year down the line, and we are now fully manifesting a whole new career for me. Uh, so I've now stepped into my power. I'm, um, You know, feeling that I can actually take this challenge on. I feel empowered, you know, and just being able to grasp my soul purpose. So, you know, we identified that although I was doing this job and I was very successful at it, it was not making me happy and it was not my sole purpose in life. So I've always wanted to help people. But when we got down to the nitty-gritty of it, one of the biggest things I wanted was freedom. And I wanted to be able to be free. I wanted to be able to, you know, be flexible and, and do whatever I wanted. And to be able to enable to do that, I needed to be my own boss. I needed to be able to have a life that I wanted helping people. And that's what I'm doing. And in the last 3 months things have really escalated since that shift in my mindset, since all the work that we did last year on my limiting beliefs, on my victim complex, on, you know, all of the trauma that I went through. I've come out the other side of it, and I'm no longer living in the, in the past, and I'm really stepping into the future and stepping into, into my future, and I can actually see it, which is something that I never thought I'd be able to say a year ago. And although a year seems like a really long time, it has flown by. It really has. And if you put me now compared to me last year side by side, two completely very different people. But it's— Leilah's given me the tools to be able to challenge those, those negative voices, those negative voice thoughts in my head and, and challenge those beliefs because those beliefs never truly go away. But it's how you deal with them and you challenge them. And, you know, you think, you know what, no, I— this is what I want to do. And, and I'm— I feel so much more empowered and excited for the future. Um, and, you know, I've still got so much more to do and so much more work to do with, with Leilah that I, I can't wait to, to see what the next 12 months has in store for me, to be honest.

That's amazing. Oh my God, Chrissy, I— you know what, when I listen to Chrissy's journey And when I remember seeing Chrissy for the first time and all I knew, I looked at her and I said, okay, Chrissy, I think we had one question. It was what your future looked like. And at that point you couldn't see your future. And within 12 months, your transformation has just been amazing. Amazing. I'm truly proud of you.

Yeah, I never, I never thought I would be here a year ago. Not a, not a chance.

Well, what happened in a year? You changed your career, you started doing coaching, you started to implement all your tools, you're traveling a lot more, you're living in freedom, you're traveling. How many countries have you traveled in the last few, few months?

Uh, well, I'll be on my— probably in the, in the last 6 months, I'll be on my 5th holiday, 5th, 5th country in the last 6 months.

Oh my God, that's, that's amazing. Well, uh, Deesha said, thank you so much for sharing your story, Chrissy. You had me smiling the entire time, and energy is very contagious. Oh, that's amazing. Thank you so much. Amazing. Thank you for sharing, Chrissy. Thank you. So now I am going to, um, just for you to feel, right, everything that Chrissy has said there for a moment. I just want you to feel into possibility, right? That nothing's impossible. Chrissy came, and if I asked Chrissy a few years ago, Chrissy, where do you see yourself in 5 years? Chrissy couldn't see that far. She could just see in the now, right? But if you go deeper into really what you want to become without the world, you'll start to be able to see yourself much, much, much deeper and much bigger. So that's amazing, and thank you so much. And Alice says, yes, really inspiring, absolutely. Yes, absolutely, really very inspiring. So thank you so much, Chrissy. I told you the other day, you're so confident, you're so brave. I love that. And you are impetuous. Okay, so I'm gonna bring on now— I'm gonna turn over to do laser coaching with one of you. Two of you have already offered to do laser coaching with with. So if you type in the box, whoever wants to go first— I think it was Ali or Simone— if you are ready to come on now, just let me know. I'll go second. Okay, Ali, are you ready? Oh, hi, Ali!

Hello! Apologies, I'm very warm.

I know.

Well, you must be even hotter because you are pregnant as well.

I am, yeah.

The hormones are kicking in, I know, I know. Okay, okay, amazing, Ali. I'm so excited that you're here today, and I'm so excited to work with you right now. Okay, so what can I do for you?

Um, I am struggling to— I'm very, very nervous, if you couldn't tell. Um, Kontao? I— part of me, and you, I know you'll pick up on this like straight away, but part of me feels almost like a bit of a fraud in the sense that I have so much good and so much joy and things are, um, falling into place for me, things that I have manifested, things that I've, um, you know, kind of cultivated for myself, which is amazing. And I think about, like, when I hear other people's stories, like, in terms of, like, my career, which is something I've worked really hard for. I really love what I do, genuinely love my job, very passionate about it. It's just, I think what is on my mind is, like, that feeling of, I suppose, like, a desire for more financial security, I think, especially becoming a mum. And yeah, there's stuff like that. And it just— I think yesterday really resonated with me, the way you said you need to stop focusing on the how you get to these places. Because though I am very, you know, emotional and spiritually connected and stuff, I am also a massive overthinker. Um, so yeah, I don't know how to describe it really.

Okay, I understand. I'm just, I'm, I'm trying to feel into your energy. As you know, as you're talking, I'm just trying to get into your energy and understand what's going on around you. Um, first thing I'm feeling, there's, there's no trust. You're not trusting, right? Um, because what you said, what I heard was, I don't trust myself. And how you said this is the language you were using. You were saying that I feel almost like an imposter. Imposter. Okay, so yeah, we're using imposter, um, and that's, that's something that's came up for me, so I've written that down. Um, you're saying that I have joy, I have, you know, I have all of these things, but at the same time I feel like a fraud, which means that there's the trust that's coming up for you, that you're not trusting, but also that you can't allow yourself to receive fully without something going wrong, right? Yeah, almost like you've set yourself a ceiling limit, or what I usually talk with my clients and I'll tell them, it's a thermostat. So you put yourself a thermostat, this is what I can have. If it's too much, I don't really deserve it.

Yeah.

Okay. And there's that disconnect there. So you're obviously tapping into a lot of— I'm just, I'm just putting this down here for you. I'm just going to write this down so I can summarize it for you. There's a trust you're not trusting because you have the energy of imposter. I feel like a fraud. Imposter syndrome is what you have. Um, I do have joy, but then you have some form of guilt for feeling that joy, right? Or some form of limitation for feeling that, right? It's almost like it's a belief that you have. And I've had this with a client who told me, in order for me to have everything it might come at a high price, right? But you can have things in life without the high price. That's a belief that you've taken on there. What I wanted to, to ask you is, you speak about freedom. Where in your life don't you feel free right now?

I would probably financially. In that, um, like, again, I, I, when I say I feel like a fraud, I mean to almost want more because I have so much good. I almost have that, like you said, it's that guilt of like, why do I feel that need or want for more? Because, you know, I'm very, very blessed to have financial security and all of this. But it is, um, it could be better. And like I said, I think, like, you know, obviously being pregnant— I'm 5 months pregnant— maternity leave is looming, and, you know, the impact that will have on my financial situation is, um, worrying me. And again, very— that's like the practical side of my brain.

Okay.

And I'm— it's things like that, and I think, oh, like, this is a worry.

Okay, okay, okay. So the— again, this fear, and I'll tell you how the fear comes up there. You are using the left side of the brain quite a lot, which is the logic. So we spoke about this yesterday. The logic part of the brain is the one that's trying to be logical about everything, right? That I need to create a system and a strategy. But if we over— if we do this too much, we're actually— what we're doing Being too logical could be a trauma response in some way because we don't feel safe, right?

Yeah. Okay.

When we don't feel safe in our space and in our energy, we need to put things in place and strategies to, to almost anchor us, to ground us so we can feel safe. Okay, so there's, there's an element. So there's things coming up here for you. If you can quickly see this, one is that I don't trust myself because it all comes back to you not trusting yourself and trusting what's gonna happen. You're not trusting the journey and the process. Where you are, you're too focused in worry. Like, you're pregnant, you're creating. This is a space where you're at. You've just created the baby, right? It's a powerful creator energy within you already. So trusting, it's all about growing and trusting in that process, okay? So you're focusing on the strategy, you're focusing on the plan, and when you do that, fear happens. Because the moment you tap into the logic for too long and you try to go into strategy too long, there's a moment that the ego— ego, which is part of our human psyche, which could also stand for edging God out— will step in and tell you why you can't do it, why it's gonna fall, why your family's gonna fall apart, why you're gonna struggle, right? I'm not asking you to reject your ego. I'm just asking you to listen, to hear it, and then go, but I can do this, or I'm doing this. And just to redirect that information because you are in control. But what's going on is that the big thing for you is that you have guilt. So two things I would work with you on this is: A, learn to trust yourself, okay? Learn, because that's the foundation for you. Your foundation is trusting, needing to learn to trust and honor the journey, whatever's going to happen. Have a clear picture. This is what me— what I'm going to look like. I'm going to be on maternity leave with my baby. Maybe my baby's gonna have a few hours away with Daddy or wherever, and I can work. Have a goal, what you want to create, and don't focus on the process. Allow your trust to unfold, right? Because when you become attached to that outcome and that story, that's when you set your trajectory for everything else. Okay, that's when you sit your self-sabotage archetype. Okay, so that's one thing— this trust, this lack of you trusting you're on the journey. The trust is inherent, it's an intrinsic goal. Okay, and then perhaps we can take it deeper. We can say, what would be the worst thing of you not getting there? Right, we can tap deeper. Into that. I could ask you on a deeper level, what would be the worst thing of happening if everything fell apart?

I mean, yeah, disaster.

Disaster. And, and if it became a disaster, what will that make you?

I guess a failure.

A failure. Okay, so what you're telling me is one of your core beliefs is you are afraid of failing.

Yeah, yeah.

And do you understand why? It's because you're not trusting yourself. Yeah, because if you trusted yourself, you wouldn't fail. You would be okay because you trust yourself enough. So that's one thing there that's come up. Okay, you also have guilt around receiving. This is an energy of guilt around receiving. So you set yourself almost a limit of what you can, although you want more. Okay, so what I want to ask you is to tell me, tell me a little bit more about the skills.

Um, so I think by my nature I'm someone who, um, I, I want the best for everyone, you know. I want like equality and I want people to have the same opportunities and things like that, and You know, I know that we don't live in a world like that, and a big part of my career is working with people who are vulnerable, who are in very difficult situations. And I think, you know, I was drawn to that type of work because I wanted to make a difference to people. And, you know, I'm pleased to say that I do make a difference to people, and I have done for a long time now. But I think it almost sometimes can be quite jarring, although, you know, I'm good at compartmentalizing and things like that, and I know, you know, I feel satisfied with, like, the work I do and my circle of influence. It can be quite jarring to see, yeah, people struggle so much. And have so little. Um, and it's almost like— and I know it's not my responsibility, like, and I'm allowed to have nice things and a good life, but I guess it's just— it almost feels wrong to me that there's such imbalance.

Okay, so what I'm hearing is that you have almost— almost you have a belief, almost this injustice around money. Yeah, there's a lot of beliefs around, you know, money related to the greed and good and right. So I'm— I slowly have— it's almost like you have a belief. What I'm hearing is that I need to be humble. Yeah, I need to have just enough, although I want more, but this guilt. Yeah, more, because I feel like there's an injustice.

Yeah, yeah, you've hit the nail on the head.

How does it make you feel? What comes up for you when you think about this?

Um, part of me feels slightly embarrassed because I feel like I'm smart enough to know better. Like, you know, I'm very self-aware, and I'm also— I'm aware that what I've just said doesn't really make sense because, you know, it's not solely on me to, like, make the entire world a more equal place. And, um, you know, that these people aren't suffering because of my actions. I know that. So I think I feel a little bit embarrassed and, um, kind of frustrated because again it's like I know that this isn't for me, it, you know, to be so concerned about, and I know that it doesn't really make sense. Yeah, I still feel that way and I find that to be quite frustrating.

Okay, when you think of Injust and you think of the embarrassment that you feel, I want you to I want you to take this memory a little bit deeper for me and tell me about this memory on a little bit, on a level that's slightly deeper. And I just want to explore that feeling with you for a moment, because really, Ali, the truth is there's a lot of money in this world. There's so much money in the world, and there's enough money for everybody, because remember, the brain has no difference between £1 and £100. The brain doesn't see a difference, but you see the difference. Because you associate money with value. Okay, so just to take it a little bit deeper right now, what is the earliest memory that you had in your life? I just want you to feel that, allow that to run through your body. What is that earliest memory of you feeling that this isn't fair in life?

Um, I don't know. I don't know. Sorry, that's really not what you want to hear. I think I suppose from quite a young age I knew that there were people in the world that had less, in that, um, okay, so I think growing up, um, I was very lucky, you know, and, um, really like loving environment and stuff. And around Christmas and things like that, my mum and I would sit and we'd go through like my toys, for example, and, um, you know, things that I hadn't played with so much, it'd be like, maybe we should donate them to like a charity shop, and we'd do that, especially before Christmas and things. And I used to really love doing it. It used to make me feel really good. And I remember, I suppose, being told like, you know, there's some children that aren't as lucky as you, and it's a really nice thing to be able to like give, you know, what you can. And I used to be really motivated by it, and I actually used to look forward to it a little bit. Okay, I think So I guess that's quite early to be aware of that kind of thing.

Okay, so this is a part of you that feels like you need to fix the world and save the world.

Yeah.

Can you see there's a part of you that's also created the narrative in this world that if other people can't have it, I may not be entitled to that feeling?

Yes.

I have that fix, right? So this is now essentially what's happened here is it's become a new story. Because you have taken that story on and made that story true. Because really, these are beliefs. You know that there's enough money in the world. And think about if you had loads of money, Ellie, that you could be a philanthropist, you could be donating, you could be sending money to people, you know, offering money to charities, right?

I give.

My love language is giving. So I love to give, I love to share. So when you— when for birthdays and Christmases, I buy extravagant extravagant gifts, you know. So you can always have that belief that if I have a lot of money, I could open up a charity, you know. So you can reprogram. But what you need to first become aware of right now, you have to become aware that you're running these programs, right? And in order for you to get to your goal, you need to understand and have awareness and then be able to shift that. Okay, so what I would do— obviously I might not be able to do this with you now because, you know, in a session with me and you, it usually takes an hour and a half, an average session, right? Or an hour, right? So what I would really do with you, I would dig on 3 things. What I would do is I would look where you form the belief around not trusting yourself, okay? Not when you form the belief, but I would explore trust a lot, like, or what trusting looks like. What does trusting look like for you? Understanding what is trust. Okay, so, so these could be journal prompts because journal opens up a whole lot of stuff if you start to journal. Okay, so if you ask yourself, what does trust look like for me? What does trust feel like? Because Trust will— you will be able to see in your other parts of your relationships as well.

Yeah.

Okay, how do you trust people? How do you feel? Okay. And trusting yourself— what is a disconnect? Because the thing is, with you being in a logician energy, which is you, you use the left part of your brain, you're quite logical.

Yeah.

If you stay there too long, you become disconnected from your mind your body and your soul because you're too— you're trying to control too much.

Yeah.

Okay, so try being logical. Overly logical is the Logician archetype, and when you step into that Logician archetype, you're trying to control things too much, which means you're not going in rhythm with your harmony, with trust.

That makes sense. Thank you.

That's okay. How does it feel for you right now?

Really vulnerable.

Yeah, my gosh, I know. I think you are incredible for being vulnerable on the camera. Thank you so much.

Thank you.

Um, and I'm sure that people can really relate to that story. Um, Chrissy says over there, thank you for sharing your vulnerability over there. Um, Yeah, thank you so much for sharing your vulnerability there, Ali. So yeah, um, I hope that today you've learned to move and shift out of your logician, that energy, because logic doesn't create. Remember this, right? Because when we become logic, we are focused and fixated on getting the plan and strategy right. And if you remember what I said yesterday, I said in order to create and to live in abundance, right, you have to have an aligned mindset, which is 80% of your life, and then the rest of it is 30%. But right now you're in the opposite, right? You're too much in the logic and very in the action.

Okay.

Yeah.

So you have to, you have to shift that around a little bit. Feel what it feels like to be, to be trusting. Vulnerability is a beautiful thing. Being vulnerable is beautiful. And where you are right now, I love your vulnerable energy. I always felt the femininity around you. That is a beautiful energy to create from, because we create from emotion, because emotions are driven. Now, the most powerful people who create abundance and empires are people who are driven by the emotion, because they have vision. Okay, and the next thing I want, uh, would like to work with you on is guilt, right? This guilt around injustice, because we can't heal the world. We can allow space and open the door for people to heal, but there's nothing we can do. And even as a healer, a coach, a therapist, and a mother, sometimes it's not in my power to fully heal people because people still have to walk through the door, right? Yeah, so it's not in your power and control. There's definitely a money belief that you have. The monetary belief is there, and that's around guilt on receiving. Okay, so there's a money belief, and I'll send you a voice note over for you to work on this, or perhaps a journal, right? I would definitely work on, um, I need to save the world and there needs to be justice. I feel injustice in this world. It's a belief that's come up there around injustice and the world. Um, also, it's my job to save the world. I can't take money because there needs to be money going around. There's a lot of money going around. So I'm gonna get you just to journal on that.

Okay, thank you very much.

Amazing, Annie. Thank you so much. I can't wait to see your baby.

Me too.

I know. Amazing. Okay, and now I will bring on Simone. Simone, are you ready?

I'm ready.

Oh wow, how exciting! How do you feel?

Uncomfortable. We had this discussion early on. Very uncomfortable and nervous.

Are you? Oh, don't worry, I'm sure the others shared that with you. Amazing. Tell me what— where I can help you.

So, um, My husband and I— sorry, I've got a bit of a cough— my husband and I started our own business about a year ago. And I think, Leilah, we've been speaking quite a bit in the past year.

Yeah.

And my thing to you is always, we are stuck. So there's, um, work coming in, but the work is basically just enough, you know? Okay. I want, um, I would love there to be abundance. I'm putting in my all on a daily basis, looking for contracts online, doing everything I can, but it's just not— it's just not happening.

Okay, immediately things has come up. Okay, two beliefs there. Um, everything is just— it's coming in and it's just enough. So there's a belief there that you're running that actually what, what your work is— your work, um, Simone, is an extension of you. This is your business. The way you operate your business says a lot about you, right? And about the energy that you're creating, because someone else could have the exact same business and have abundance, right? And do really well and successfully. But then you come in and you step, and then the business is in alignment because what you're doing, you've transferred your energy into that business. So somewhere you're saying, okay, in life we have everything's just enough. It's a belief that's going on. So the first thing I pick up is that whatever we have, it's always just enough for us. So maybe you made that vow to your husband, we'll be fine, we always will have enough, just have enough. This language that I can pick up. And, and obviously, um, Simone is in, in South Africa. There is those beliefs around money because there's a lot of lack around there too. And that's the belief of you'll be fine, you just need enough. Okay, yeah, this is one, that's a belief that's going on there. And two, what I heard by you speaking, I heard I'm overworking, I'm overgiving to what I'm actually receiving, right? That overwork, that I'm overgiving, I'm doing everything I can. This is tiredness, this is struggle, this is I have to push, I have to push. What I'm feeling actually, there's a lot of resistance you're receiving. Because your door of abundance— there's a lot of people who want your business. There's a lot of people who want your business, but you have to switch over that mindset. This is, this is good. This is going to sound like the hard job for you, and the hard job for you is to create the abundance, okay? So you have to become very clear of your goal. So let me ask you over here, because this is fascinating for you. You're obviously getting your toe into this type of work, so this is going to be quite, quite, you know, you're going to have to really implement these tools over the next 90 days because habits take 90 days to form. So this one, we just have enough, that's a belief. Two is I have to overwork in my life. So you're running a monetary belief that money is hard we have to work hard to make money.

That's true.

Because you don't, you don't. You, you are a mother of two lovely children, and then you have a boy and a girl. I don't feel like you do. You need to work yourself. You don't. You could work one day a week and you can employ someone to do the rest of it, and you can spend time with your children, just plan your holidays, right? That's what I love. That you would love that. Yes, exactly. What do you think? I want you to— I want to ask you, what would your vision look like?

Your goal, uh, business-wise or personally?

Just your personal goal, your life goal, your business goal. What would you really love that to look like?

Uh, freedom, financial freedom, flexibility, just to be able to do whatever I want without having to check the bank account or see when I have time off. You know, just total freedom.

And if you had total freedom, what would this mean for you?

I would be able to travel more, do the things that I love to do, not overwork myself and constantly be tired.

How does this make you feel?

Quite emotional, actually.

I feel that. I can feel that for you. I feel that. I mean, I don't know if anyone could feel that, but I feel that there's a lot of tiredness, there's a lot of like— I can feel that. You're doing incredibly well, and I really, I have, I have true empathy for what you're feeling right now because I'm a mother and I can relate to that experience where you feel— What do you think, Simone? I'm, I know this is going to be vulnerable, and I'm going to try to limit this vulnerability right now because I don't want to seen you in an emotional pool on the last day. But what do you think would happen if you got to this point? I just want you to envision you got to this amazing point that you looked at your bank account, and I, I feel that because I can see you're looking at your bank account and you're seeing this 10,000 pounds, um, 10,000 rand, or well, not 10,000, I don't know the currency, maybe 100,000 or 200,000 rand. How would that make you feel? Good, right? Okay, I want you to feel that money increasing in your energy right now. I want you to feel more money coming through. Don't, don't worry about the lack or this is impossible. Don't worry about the ego and the fear. Just feel more money coming through. And then I want you to tell me, what is the worst feeling that comes up with all this joy? What could go wrong?

So, um, yeah, I don't think there's anything that can go wrong if I'm financially— if I have the freedom. So yeah, it's just good feelings.

It's just good feelings.

Yeah.

But do you feel like if, if you guys had a lot of money, that you could outgrow someone? Is there— is this something that, that happens in your energy?

Yes, I'm a people pleaser as well, so I care a lot about what other people think. And like you say, in South Africa, it's about, oh, you're a snob, you high and mighty. Being, you know, things like that.

Okay, okay. So there's a— there's a— this is what we call a hidden belief. There's a belief that Simone is running there, and that belief is, if I grow really well, people might not like who I become, right? So what I have to do, I have to play safe. So Simone, you're incredibly brave and courageous, and I love the fact that you just came on, and that shows that you're ready to quit this people pleasing for you, for your children, for your husband, and push yourself out and become visible, right? So it shows that that is within you already. It just needs to be consistent. Um, healing and therapy is all good, but we have to take action as well to become that. So there are things there that we have to work on, or essentially you have to work on. One is the belief that I have to work hard for money. Right? And, and clearly, Simone, I can see that, um, it's not a good feeling for you where you are. It doesn't feel good for you being where you are. But I don't— what I don't want you to do is to become paralyzed by what's actually happening right now, because this discomfort that you're feeling is trying to show you there is a way out. You at that point where you know that there is a way out. And it's a doorway, okay? So there's discomfort there, and through the discomfort you're going to have to grow, and you will grow, and I believe you will grow. Because money doesn't just need to have to come through the business. You can get money gifted, um, you could work for someone. And for some reason, actually, Simone, even though you're telling me that you are working with your husband, I actually feel that there's a lot more to you. I feel like you— there's something more that you are here to give. And I know I haven't done this with anyone else, I just feel very inspired to tell Simone this right now, and I think maybe she needs to hear this. I feel like you are someone who is an acts of service. You like doing things for people regardless of the people pleasing. There's a part of you that you're here in this world to lift humanity. And I feel like you need to kind of live in that role as well. And through doing what you love, it's going to bring you the abundance. It will. Because when you find your true path, you will have reaped the gates of heaven. You will reap, uh, reap everything that you put into. Okay, because there's even a little, um, there's a little saying: everything that you plant becomes a seed, and that seed then grows. You may not see that, but beneath the soil, that seed's activating and starts to germinate. Okay, so it does start to grow. So that plant, that seed you have to plant— I just wanted to tell you, I feel there's a lot more to you what you're actually doing in your life right now. I, I feel like you're not following where, where you're actually meant to be going. I feel like a year to create something for people there.

I, I also have this feeling like there's more to me. I know there's something I'm supposed to be doing, I just can't figure out what it is.

Simone, you are meant to be doing work like I'm doing, like, you know, like the people here in this group almost. You are meant to be working with people directly, hands-on. What you're doing right now, you're playing too small. And that's why you're not satisfied. That's why it doesn't work for you. It's not working. So that's another thing that I really just want to share with you. You, you're not living in your harmony, in your paradigm. You're living in a paradigm to get through survival, right? And that survival was like, me and my husband, we need to create a business that we know will be good. So it's systematic, it will be good. But that's not who you are. And I feel that for you. I feel like there's so much more to this. There's so much more. And I feel like there's a push. You're being pushed to do more. And when you follow through and you do it, that money will come. You will live your freedom. You can, you can absolutely do this, Simone. You can absolutely do this. I'm, I'm almost 100% sure if you do it, you're going to do so well. Okay, I'll take that, definitely. But one thing it is, I want you to really truly work, and I will send you some voice notes. As you've been saying, we've been talking, and one of, one of it is I don't want you to feel it, you have to overwork to get somewhere. Have you ever, have you ever seen when you really want something so bad, it doesn't happen. And the moment you let go, it happens naturally. Because what happens is you're fighting against resistance, which is that struggle, that lack— I need, I need. So you're not in that creative mode, right? There's, there's an energy of I need to overwork to prove myself, to get the money, the validation, right? And it's also another thing that It's just enough. And the reason why is because in this world you are playing safe of that, that people pleasing, right? There's that people pleasing energy there, and that's something we need to get, get through. The financial freedom will come because financial freedom is just— it's a tool. Finance, money is a tool. But what you need to start living in is freedom. What I would love for you, I would love for you to create your version who you are, not, not what the business is, what your purpose is. So when I ask you to create your goal, create the goal what you're here to do, not what the business is here to do, because you are the goal. The business comes through you. The reason why it could not be working right now in that way you want to is because you're not in alignment with where you want to go.

100%.

Does that make sense to you? It does, it does. Okay, amazing. Um, okay, I'll just read back the messages. D says this has been so empowering. Thank you, ladies, for sharing. Thank you, Leilah, um, and Abel, creating safe space. Um, and Christina says thank you for being so brave, Simone, and sharing with us. And that is true. Do you see, Simone? That it's safe for you to be visible. You'll be supported in that space.

I see that.

How do you feel right now?

I've got relief that I got that off, off my chest, and I'm gonna try and focus on the positive.

Yeah, so I would, I would shift my perspective from you is freedom, not financial freedom, because the more you focus on financial freedom the more you're going to feel there's a struggle. So I want you to shift on what freedom feels like. What is this going to feel like, you getting the money, right? So even say you look at your bank account and you see, oh, there's R10,000 tonight to R2,000 tonight. I want you to feel, oh, what does this R2,000 feel like, right? You're gonna have to create that paradigm there because your brain doesn't know any different from R2,000 to R20,000, for example. So it's you You're starting to create a new paradigm here. And also make sure that you teach your children this, Simone, that they don't— they are not raised thinking that money is struggle, that my parents had to work hard, right? And this is really to take you out of your comfort zone because you're then going to become very careful of what you're trying to put into your children, okay? So, um, that's it. Um, I hope you have, you have got some of that, uh, information there, Simone, that you just have enough, that, that is, that's a belief that you created, and, um, you have to overwork for money because you don't need to overwork for money. You really don't. You really don't. You can— someone could employ you, or you could run a business, and you just have to find what's the right thing to do. And you could say, I'm only going to work 2 days a week and I'm going to run 2 programs and they're going to be R20,000 or R30,000, and that's it, right? So you will become smarter, but you just have to follow your alignment. So I really would think— I would go away and I would really think, what, what lights my soul up? What makes me happy? What am I here to do? Because I definitely feel, Simone, you're playing small. You're playing small in this world. You're not showing up, and you're not getting what you're meant to get here. You, you're too safe. Something's too safe in your paradigm. You need to expand, become expansive, come out and live what you want to live, because you're not old. You're not old, you know. There's nothing stopping you. I'll be in touch, and I hope you're feeling— you're feeling better.

Thank you so much, Leilah.

That's okay, you're welcome. So anyone, do you all have questions? Thank you for Simone for sharing us for sharing her story and her vulnerability, which is amazing, beautiful. I'm truly grateful. And Ali for also going into a deep story. And I'd love to thank Chrissy. And Chrissy, your journey is beautiful and inspiring, and it makes me giggle with joy to see what you're going to go through. So thank you for sharing your story. If anybody has any questions or want to have a chat, let me know in the DM box. I'll allow a few moments But otherwise, it's been amazing to share this 3-day Shift, Heal, and Align space. And if you did want to, to look what my programs look like and working, there are programs that can suit everybody, right? So there are programs that's really low cost at £195, yeah, £195, and then there's personalized programs later. So you can have a look, you would receive an email if you wanted to work with me and just get into what it will feel like to shift your mindset, working for 6 weeks every week together and in a group, so building a community. But otherwise, thank you so much for coming, ladies, and I truly hope that you have taken something away from this. Okay, thank you so much. Thank you.

Thank you.

Thank you. I hope you enjoy the weekend wherever you are in the world right now. Take care.