3 Secrets to Make Him Want More with You (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

My name is Matthew Hussey and I give advice and stuff. Three secrets to make him want more. Jameson, are you ready to change some lives? The other week we did a video where we talked about the importance of warmth. And what we said was, warmth creates opportunity. When we're cold and distant and aloof and we make people feel like they can't come over to us, we deprive ourselves of all the opportunities of people who would actually like to come over and approach us and start something. Warmth opens doors. It begins conversations. In a program I have called How to Talk to Men, there is a chapter, chapter 20, that talks about the things that create a conversation that he doesn't want to end. And if you think about it, what is a relationship? What is marriage? But a commitment to a conversation we don't want to end. Sort of why we get down on one knee, isn't it? we really were saying to someone, hey, this conversation I'm having with you, I don't want it to end. I want it to keep going forever. It's quite beautiful. So if being warm and open invites and begins conversations, secret number two is what makes someone never want that conversation to end. And secret number two is connection. First let's consider what a good conversation that creates connection actually looks like. It doesn't look like tennis. So this is American tennis.

This is it, we invented it.

So you've seen any good movies lately?

Toy Story, are you?

Yes, or what do you think?

Good, what do you think?

It was pretty good. You up to anything this weekend?

Watch a movie.

Yeah, me too. You don't want it to be that, where essentially the entire conversation is about trying to get the ball out of your side of the court. Conversation is more like a game of soccer. Consider a friendly game of kick-ups between friends.

So it wasn't so much that I wanted to become an astronaut, I just wanted to explore, you know?

That's cool, man. I love exploring. That's what I love about travel, you know? Like it's the food, the culture, the whole experience.

Oh, sick. You gone anywhere cool?

I actually lived in China once and that was amazing, you know? It was like when I was there, I kind of got homesick. But then when I got home, I missed it, you know?

Oh, sweet. I know that feeling. It's so weird feeling homesick for the first time and then feeling homesick for a distant place. You know what I mean?

Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. That's how conversation should be done. It's not about getting rid of the ball as quickly as possible. It's about saying something when you have the ball and then giving the other person the generosity of the space, for them to say something. The third thing, the third secret, you have to be real careful of. Because if you take this and this and then you do the third thing as well, then you might just end up married like Jameson. Third secret is tension. Jameson, how impressed are you with my chili pepper?

I'm very impressed with the chili pepper.

Pretty good chili pepper. That was my first attempt at that and that's what I did. So another dimension to me, isn't it? Tension is what takes this warmth that makes someone go, oh, I want to be close to you because you've got an energy that just is like you're just a sweet lovely person that I want to be around. And then the connection that says you're not just sweet and lovely but you, I want to get to know you. I want to know more about you. I want to spend a long time getting to know you. I want to have conversations with you. with you. Tension is the thing that takes that conversation that's already interesting but sends a bolt of lightning through it. Makes it exciting. The program I was talking about, How to Talk to Men, where chapter 20 came from about how to create a conversation that you never want to end, also has a chapter on creating tension, flirting, injecting all of that charged energy into your conversations. And I am giving you that chapter on flirting today at this link, getthefreechapter.com, when you go there you will download that chapter for free, Jameson. And when you're in there, you'll be able to have all these practical things you can say to create tension. So between the video I did on warmth a couple of weeks ago, the connection video we did today, and this free chapter on tension, you might just rock your entire goddamn love life. Go to getthefreechapter.com, I'll see you over there.