Matthew Hussey breaks down how to move past dating limbo and get commitment. He outlines three practical steps to shift a relationship from uncertainty into a clear commitment, with specific techniques you can use right now.
LIMBO, LIMBO, keep it simple, simple. Hi, we made a video last week, a music video. Correction, a musical video.
LIMBO, LIMBO, keep it simple, simple.
We made a video about that extraordinarily common scenario where one person wants a relationship, but they are being kept by the other person in a state of limbo.
I just had this really early business thing. I'm really, really sorry.
Bye. This might have been the hardest video we've ever made. It took a bigger team. It took more investment. It took more creative energy. We had Jameson producing and overseeing the whole thing. We had our friend Ryan Turner direct this incredible shoot. We had Hope playing our high value woman. We had the writer, actor, singer Jesse Pepe, who has the awesome music video YouTube channel, JP go subscribe to that. This team is the most talented team we have ever pulled together for one shoot. And we did it because we wanted to perfectly capture what I believe to be the modern day dating equivalent of an epidemic. Someone wants a serious committed relationship and yet they are entertaining somebody else who is continuously putting them in limbo.
While my phone is blowing up, it must be my mom. Yup. Limbo, limbo. Keep it simple, simple.
So now let's talk about how you can stop entertaining that guy in your life who's not giving you what you want and finally escape limbo. Number one, understand that the chances of him committing by you staying in limbo are close to zero. It's literally the worst plan of action you can have because all it does is reward his behaviour. It teaches him consciously or unconsciously that when he keeps you in this no man's land of not quite a relationship but not quite single, it will actually pay off for him. He can pick you up and drop you whenever he wants. He can have his cake and eat it. And now he doesn't ever learn that there are real consequences, real stakes to keeping you in this place because you're not going anywhere. Number two, listen to your training, not his logic. And what is your training? Hopefully, the years you've been watching this channel. Your training is valuing investment over his logic. Some men will try to get around giving you genuine investment by providing you with logic. They'll convince you that you're crazy for wanting what you want, and they'll try to have it as easy as they can simply by persuading you with their words. The truth test is always how much is someone actually investing and not investing simply with their words because investment is about more than words. Not investing by buying you things because that's too easy. Not even investing with the odd grand gesture that shows you how much he cares. Real investment needs to be measured on how much time and energy and thought someone puts into your relationship together. Number three, do what Stacy did at the end of that musical when she had a ruthless and kind conversation with Jessie.
Jessie, okay, stop, stop. I think we need to talk. Jessie, I really like you. We've got chemistry, it's true, but you won't invest in me and I've got better things to do.
Think of those words that Stacy says to Jessie. They were picked very, very carefully for this song. Jesse, I really like you. We've got chemistry, it's true. But you won't invest in me and I've got better things to do. Everything you need to have the conversation with a man who's keeping you in limbo is in that verse. Because you can tell someone, I really like you. That's the truth. We've got chemistry. That's the truth too. But you not investing in me and that meaning that I need to move on, that's also a truth. And when someone understands those two truths together, man, this person really likes me and has a connection with me, but they're also not sticking around. That's not enough. They're not gonna be around here tomorrow if I don't step up my game. That is a point of action. That makes it a decision moment for them to have to do something about it or risk really losing you. And when they realize you're not bluffing, that you actually are moving on, just like Stacy did in the video, that's what makes someone feel real stakes to their actions. And when someone feels real stakes, it moves them to either do something or show you that they were never going to in the first place. Either is a form of massive progress for you. Now, if you're enjoying this advice and you know it's relevant to you right now because there's a guy you have that's pulling away or not giving you what you want, I have a free guide for you today that details the five reasons that men pull away and what you can do about it. you can click here for the guide. It's completely free and you can start getting the information right now. And for the love of God, escape limbo today because time is too precious, your life is too important. It's time you start getting what you actually want. Download the free guide and I will see you on the inside.
