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3 Things to Master BEFORE You Meet Someone | Matthew Hussey

10 Mar 2022 · 1 min

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In this concise monologue, Matthew Hussey outlines three essential components for achieving a state of "happy enough" before entering a romantic relationship. He argues that true happiness comes from mastering (1) communication—clearly expressing one’s value, needs, standards, and expectations to a potential partner; (2) confidence—recognizing personal worth, treating oneself well, and allowing others to treat you accordingly; and (3) an independent, fulfilling life—having a rich personal life to share rather than expecting a partner to create it. When these three areas are solid, you can confidently walk away from a relationship that turns toxic, because you are already content and whole on your own.

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You want to be happy enough that if you find the right thing, but that person ends up treating you badly, you can walk away from it. Here are the three components to being happy enough. One part is your communication. How do you, with the person you're trying to attract, communicate your value? How do you communicate your needs? And how do you communicate your standards and expectations? The next one is confidence. What do you see as your value? How do you treat yourself? And how do you allow others to treat you? The third circle is your life. You're not looking to someone to create a life for you. You have an amazing life to share with another person. These three things are extremely important because when you have all three, you create a situation where you are Happy enough.