5 First-Date Moves That Make Him Want More (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

Every single one of us wants to make an impact when we're on a date. So here are five simple things that you can do to stay in his mind long after you've said goodnight. Number one, give him an early compliment. I know so many guys, and I've been in this position before too, where you get to the end of a date and you don't even necessarily know if someone's actually attracted to you. And that's because you go on a date and two people were playing this poker game where neither one of them wants to reveal their hand. We want to break that nonsense. It's not like you have to start over investing on a date, but we should show someone that we're attracted. So early on in the date, tell him you like his shirt or something you were attracted to in his profile picture when you saw him on the app. Give him something that shows that you are attracted, because that way it opens up the date to more possibilities. It makes everyone feel more comfortable. It makes it more likely he'll show his interest in you. And at the end of the date, he will not be questioning whether there's a spark. Number two, be friendly to the people around you. When a guy on a date sees you being nice to people that you don't need to be nice to, it shows your true character. So, whether it's being nice to the person serving you or whether there's a woman next to you at the bar who has to shuffle over so that you two can sit down and you say to her, I love your jacket by the way, or you have great style, it shows him your warm nature. It also has the added bonus that when you interact with someone else for a few seconds, he gets to observe you without the pressure of interacting with you. And it's in the moment where we get to observe someone that we start to really build attraction because we're not in our heads thinking of things to say. We just get to fully take them in. Number three, don't be afraid of the date interlude. Now, look, it's nice when a guy has a plan for a date and you don't necessarily want to disrupt the plans that he's got, but if you happen to be doing something where nearby is something you want to do, don't be afraid to say it. It can be playful, it can be fun, it can actually show confidence for you to state something that you're interested in doing. It could be a walk in the daytime where all of a sudden you realize that you're really near to a coffee shop you love and you say, okay, wait, we have to get coffee here. This place does amazing coffee. The great thing for him is that this is a pressure valve. Not only does he realize he's not solely responsible for creating a great time together, it also removes some of the guesswork of figuring out what what you'd like to do. Number four, order the chocolate cake. I always think of that moment at dinner where the dessert menu comes up and everyone's really polite and is like, Do you want dessert? Should we get dessert? I love when someone's just like, We should share the chocolate cake, shouldn't we? Because in that moment, you know what to do. So in whatever form it takes on your date, say yes to the metaphorical chocolate cake. It will give him permission to let go and have fun too. Number five, defer the nightcap. Now, I know the temptation when a date is going well is to drag it out as long as possible because you're enjoying being with that person. But that's not always productive. Think of the best concert you've ever been to. It probably didn't end at 2 a.m. when you were getting tired. It ended on a high and we want our dates to do the same. So when someone says to you after you've already had a great time, Hey, you want to get like one more drink over here? Don't be afraid to be like, you know what? It's 11 o'clock, it's getting a little late. I'm gonna get to bed, but we should do something tomorrow or sometime this week. What I like about deferring the night cap is it almost gives you a license to see the person sooner. I'd rather cut this date a little short on a first date and see them tomorrow than have a really long protracted date now and not see someone or feel like I'm not entitled to ask them to see them for five more days. So there it is. Five things you can do to be memorable on a first date. Now, if you want to take this up a notch and not just have five things you can do to be memorable, but have five things you can say to a guy to be memorable on a first date, I have a free guide for you that gives you exactly that. Five exact phrases that you can say to a guy that keep you in his mind long after the night is over. All you need to do to get it is go to saythis to him.com is completely free and you can be reading them right now. I will see you there.