Matthew Hussey argues that strong friendships are the second engine keeping your love life stable when romance hits turbulence. Call old contacts, grab coffee, join gym classes, send supportive texts. He also promotes his six-day retreat as a way to build deep bonds and boost confidence.
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There are many indirect factors that contribute to having a successful love life. Perhaps one of the biggest ones is the friendships we have in our lives. If you're single, friendships are the thing that get you out of the house. They're the people that you get to invite to places with you or who will invite you to places with them. If you're in a relationship, friendships are really important because they're the second engine on the plane that if something's happening in your relationship, there's this other engine that's still keeping the plane in the air. Too many people get into a relationship and their point of view is, well, don't need my friends anymore, don't need these people around anymore. They don't do it consciously necessarily, but in every action they're showing that now my relationship is the only thing I need. and of course that's not true. We want that human connection outside of our relationship. We want those people that we can go to to help make us strong and God forbid anything happened to the relationship, you want that safety net of people that keep that plane in the air, the second engine that you can go to, those people who make you realize who you are and how valuable you are and how much you bring to the world. So here's what I want you to do. Call someone up and have a conversation, maybe someone you haven't spoken to a while. Take someone for coffee. Just get to know someone a little better. Join a class. I think that one of the most valuable thing about gym membership is being able to go to a class because you can actually go and interact with other human beings. So many of us haven't got that interaction in our lives anymore. Do little things for people. Text someone a moment of support, a moment of gratitude, or if you know they've got a problem, ask them how they're doing. Those little things, just the tiniest actions are like Little deposits you make in the bank of that relationship. And over time they amount to a deeper, greater bond, something that you might need to draw on for strength at some point in the future. And while we're at it, mix in different groups. Don't just stick to all of the same people you know, because that ends up stifling our opinions on things. We only get fed one narrative from the people we already know. We should go wider. Go to groups of people that you don't normally hang out with. get different perspectives on life, people who have been through different things. I have a thing that people come to where they make lots of new friends and it's called My Retreat. Now people come to My Retreat because it's genuinely life changing. If you read any of the comments that we had from the last retreat alone, from people who had just been, you will see this changes people's lives, it changes their confidence, it changes their ability to manage their emotions, it changes their ability to enjoy life, It shows them how to overcome even the most difficult things that they're facing in their lives right now. It genuinely changes the game for people. But what's interesting is that when people finish that program, days after, months after, and even years after, they'll tell me one of their favorite things about the program was the community of incredible women that they got from it. That they built new, lifelong relationships. People to hold them accountable. People they could hold accountable. People to support them. People to be on the journey of life with them. people they never would have met if they hadn't stepped outside their comfort zone and come to attend something like this, where it's not just a coffee with someone, it's a six day immersion experience where you do years of bonding with someone in the space of six days because of what you go through together. So I want this for you too. If you know that you're in a place in your life where you want big life change, there are things that you want to overcome in your life. There are pathways you want to go down, but you don't have the courage or the strategy or the know how right now to do it, but you also want that amazing community with it, I want you to apply. It's at matthewhusseryretreat.com you can apply right now. The retreat process is not something that just anyone can come to. You have to apply to it. You have to speak to one of my team on the phone to determine if you are a right fit for the program, but if you are, it will be a game changer. Click the link now. I hope you get your place and I look forward to seeing you soon.
