Matthew Hussey explains how small breaks from habits spiral into anxiety that keeps you stuck. The fix: just show up, even imperfectly. Consistency builds confidence faster than waiting to do it right.
Is there something in your life that you know would contribute to the quality of your life, bring you more of what you want, give you more opportunity, make you feel happier, but you're not doing it? Things that if we simply did them and did them every day would be normalized as processes in our lives, but the longer we leave it, the more it kind of takes on this ominous dark cloud of fear that no longer bespeaks how difficult it would actually be to do it. I know this feeling, for example, when I take time off from the gym. Physical training of any kind is really important to me. It's part of my daily routine. And one of the things I know is that taking a day off, fine. Taking two days off, fine. Taking a week off, be careful. Taking three weeks off. Now we're into a zone where going back to training feels like a big deal. The most important thing to me in that moment is that you simply get there. You don't have to do the workout of your life, you just need to get there. Because getting there makes you realize, oh okay, I did something. I can come back tomorrow. Come back tomorrow, do a bit more of a difficult workout. Come back the next day, do a bit more of a difficult workout. Within a week, you've normalized it again. You're back into the swimming pool. But as long as you're standing on the edge going, oh god, that water looks really cold and I want to get in, it takes on this difficulty level that isn't real. If In your love life right now, there are habits that you know would make a difference, whether it's leaving the house, going out, talking to people, messaging people on an app if that's what you want to do. It doesn't matter what it is, but if you're not being proactive right now and you're building up too much the thought of being proactive, it doesn't matter that you go out today and have some amazing interaction with a beautiful, attractive member of the opposite sex. What matters today is that you go out and say something. You go out and have a conversation that just in the smallest way, you put your foot back in the shallow end of that pool that gradually allows you to start moving towards the deep end because you become a stronger swimmer in that area. My retreat, by the way, is where we do this on steroids, not literally on steroids, we don't bring drugs to the retreat. But it is a place where I give you the systems for actually doing those things that are gonna radically transform the quality of your life. And that's why people who come on the retreat three months after or six months after find that their love life has transformed, or their health has transformed, or their social life or their career has transformed. Because all the things that they thought before would transform those areas but weren't doing, they suddenly start doing because they have the confidence and the systems to actually take action on all of those things. If you want to check out the retreat, I'll leave a link here. I hope you do. It's the best thing I've ever created. And if you like these videos, I promise you, you ain't seen nothing until you've been to a retreat. And no matter what you do, please, today, that thing you've been putting off, do it.
