Matthew AI argues that if you haven't stopped a destructive habit yet, it's because it's hard, not because you're weak. The first step is self-compassion: pause, acknowledge the struggle, then ask yourself what could actually help.
I think it's important for us to recognize even if something is easy to someone else, if it's challenging to us, then we need to give ourselves compassion because if it was easy, we would have changed it already. If something that's causing us pain and yet we keep doing it, then this is not an easy thing for us to change. In fact, it's probably very difficult. So let's give ourselves compassion for how difficult this is. Okay, wow, this is hard. This is a difficult one. Then we start to think about, well, what would I need to do to start to help myself in this area?
