Loneliness can make you need a partner to fix your aloneness and spark attraction at once. That double pressure creates vulnerability that kills the attraction itself. You either cling immediately or rush forward, both from the same unmet need.
If you are that lonely and you go on a date and you hope to experience attraction when at the same time you're also hoping that the person will help you transcend your aloneness, then you will feel so vulnerable that you will often not allow yourself to be attracted. The attraction becomes too vulnerable because with the attraction come all the needs that I bring to you, of everything that I hope you will be able to.
Bring to me, or that vulnerability causes them to cling immediately, try to move so fast without ever really assessing whether there's the right kind of attraction.
Correct? Correct. Do you get both on the extremes? You get both? Yes.
