Become Instantly Likable Using These TV Charisma Secrets (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

So many of you come to this channel for more than just love advice. You like applying these principles on human dynamics to your relationships in general. Many of you want to just become better with people or more confident. And so today I thought I'd do something a little different. I want to take five secrets for charisma that I have learned over the last decade of being on TV and apply them to your everyday life. And by the way, stay till the end of this video because I have something extra special to tell you about. Let's get started. So number one, be in the room. Before I go and do a TV segment, I'll often think about what I want to say. I'll think about some stories or some answers to questions so that when I get there, I know what I have locked and loaded and ready to say. But the problem with being too focused on that plan is that you miss sometimes what's actually going on in the room. And it's the same way when you're on a date or when you're in a conversation. if you are so focused on what you want to say next that you're not actually listening to what they're saying, the tone, the inflection, you might actually miss the most important part. You might miss the moment, the throwaway line in the middle of a sentence where they alluded to something they were particularly passionate about and you only know that because their eyes lit up in that moment. That's a signal for you to focus on that thing. But if you're thinking about what you're going to say next, you miss that moment. Number two, talk about what you care about. The greatest way to make up for a lack of eloquence or fluidity in what you're saying is simply to talk about something you're actually passionate about. When I go on TV, I think of what is the heart of this that I really care about? Forget the logical point I'm trying to make. What's the heart of it? Because if I understand what the emotional core of it is, if I understand why it's important to me, now I'm gonna talk with a different energy. I think that's what's lacking sometimes when we speak at a dinner party or when we're at a social event or on a date, is that we spend so much time worrying about small talk that we don't actually spend time thinking about what we want to talk about, what actually matters to us. And if we do that, a different level of passion and energy is gonna come across. Number three, find a way to relate. When I'm on TV, I'm often speaking with people who are from different worlds, who have vastly different jobs to me. And I may know nothing about their world or their experience. But I might know something about the feelings they experience because feelings are universal and this is true in life in general. We're sometimes on a date with someone whose job we don't understand or we don't have any experience of or who likes a sport that we're not into. I may not be interested in the sport you play but if I understand what your relationship with that sport is, why you love it, what feeling it gives you or why you're energized by it, I might actually find that there's something that, wow, that's the same as the way I relate to this thing in my life. Number four, disagree with poise. I am often put in a situation on TV where the whole idea is for me to disagree with someone. These two relationship experts are about to go head to head in a battle of the art of dating. They'll put me on a panel with someone they know is gonna have a different point of view to me. I've always learned from some of the best debaters in the world that the ones that have the most power are the ones that can disagree with a level of charm, with a level of wit. They had this way of disagreeing with someone and making their point, but also giving you the impression that they weren't about to lose sleep over it that night. And we all know these people at a dinner party who can't affectionately or charmingly disagree on anything or debate on things. Instead, they'll ruin the whole dinner party over a conversation. where they get heated and they lose their cool and now it's awkward. If you wanna have real charisma, have the ability to charmingly disagree with someone without investing all of your emotional self into the game. Number five, there is no substitute for stage time. Part of my comfort in the media world comes from the fact that I've done it before many times. If you wanna be good on a date, going on dates and getting some practice dates in, helps. If you want to tell better stories, tell more stories or tell the same story more times. If you want to be great in conversation, have more conversations. There is no substitute for getting out there and doing the thing that you want to practice when it comes to human dynamics. Now you may be watching this thinking you want to have more charisma, you want to get out there and get your stage time. Well, I have something really cool for you today because I'm a big believer in not just telling you something but showing it to you as well because that's when you really get it. So allow me to show you this. I have a recording of me on a major radio show, Z100's Elvis Duran Show, and on that show, in the first five minutes, I applied everything I know about making a charismatic impact. I want you to listen to that interview and hear what I did. And just in case you miss any of the nuance of what I do in that interview, my brother Stephen. Hey, guys. Has written a free guide called the First Five, where he breaks down step by step. everything I do so that you can take those things and apply them to everyday situations with people in your life. So download the guide. It is absolutely free. And by the way, it's also one of my most popular guides I've ever released because I think it's so universal. People can use it everywhere. And I think people like seeing me practicing what I preach and actually doing all of the things that I'm talking about. So check it out, download the guide, and I will see you on the inside. --.