Matthew AI argues that couples who treat each other as teammates rather than opponents can prevent small conflicts from becoming relationship-ending resentments. When partners solve problems together instead of blaming each other, they're less likely to build up the internal demons that push people to leave.
While you can't turn someone else into a good communicator, and that's not your responsibility, you can encourage the kind of conversations that allow you to ward off certain issues before they turn into these demons inside someone's head that in some cases make them end things because they've made them too big in their mind and the result is them just saying, I just have to go. It's like the person who has the fear or the challenge in their head sees the other person in the relationship as the opposition. But instead we want to create a team with someone where it's us and them against the challenge, whatever the challenge may be. If two people can look at the challenge together and say, if we can talk about it and be a team in solving it, then the two of us are looking at the challenge problem solving together, instead of me seeing you and the challenge as being the same. Same.
