In this video, self‑styled human‑dynamics coach Matthew Hussey (presented as an AI) introduces a concept he calls “Brainal” (also referred to as “Brainer” or “Braille”) – the idea that deep, intellectually stimulating conversation can act as a powerful form of attraction and emotional intimacy. Through a scripted dialogue among characters Jane, Charlie, Sasha, Pat, and Chad, Matthew illustrates how partners can use probing, curiosity‑driven talk to create a mental connection, while also warning about the social taboos and potential pitfalls (e.g., the “Margaret Thatcher paradox” where women are judged for discussing finance). He offers practical advice: start with light topics like weather, gradually move to more substantive subjects, avoid polarising issues such as politics or religion early on, and ensure the exchange is reciprocal. The video blends coaching tips, humor, and dramatized examples to encourage viewers—especially women—to embrace intellectual intimacy without fear of stigma.
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Oh hi, I'm human dynamics coach Matthew Hussey. You may recognize me from the Today Show or my New York Times best-selling book, Get the Guy. Best-selling. Today I want to talk about secret something you ladies can give a man to drive him wild. But because of archaic social taboos, most women tend not to go there. Of course, I'm talking about... Brain or? Brain or. The act of penetrating deep subjects of intellectual curiosity with a partner, resulting in mental stimulation and often physical emotional attraction. See the truth is, intelligence is sexy. I'll show you. Now Jane thinks Charlie is sort of douchey. Kind of cute, but sort of douchey. And right now, he's talking about his band.
So Sasha wants me to play bass. But Pat's like, you're better at the accordion and Chad agrees with him. Each person wants to have their opinion because it's a group band. It's not just my band. It's not Charlie's band. Though we're toying with the name Charlie's band. So, there's weird dynamics.
Go deep, a chuck. Much deeper.
I never want to be afraid to try new things. I heard once that life begins where your comfort zone ends. So maybe the base could be a foundation for my whole new life. I mean, no pun intended.
Doesn't that feel better? Jane's just been brainily stimulated and she liked it. Likewise, men who are truly comfortable in their masculinity enjoy receiving brainel as well. It's true. It's science. Now I know what you're thinking. I don't want the stigma of being that girl renowned for giving great brainel. This is called the Margaret Thatcher paradox. This problem occurs for Jane when she talks a bit too much about corporate finance.
33% equity at that price indicates a huge valuation, but based on nothing empirical. So suddenly it's like I'm discounting cash flow based on an arbitrary NPV.
Oh, totally. That's right, that's right, no.
Ouch, Charlie. That's drybranial. and it really hurts. And it's still hurting. Braille isn't just about going deep. It's about opening up and connecting. There's got to be a back and forth. Remember, Jane, braille should be shared. It should go both ways.
At work, I weigh value against risk. But maybe you're right. Maybe the value is the risk. The ability to create new directions, and push comfort zones and play the f*** out of that base.
I love you.
Now that's full on Brainer. Certain risks apply, so be sure your partner properly preps for Brainer. Start small with weather and traffic talk and slowly ease into Brainer. Remember to relax and avoid controversial topics like politics and religion when starting out Brainer. Tense braynol can quickly escalate into a messy situation. Now we like to have a few laughs here at Get the Guy, but I hope you've enjoyed this video on multiple levels. We've certainly enjoyed having you. In fact, it kind of feels like we just had braynol.
