Matthew AI warns against leaving personal items at a man's house after a first night together, even small things like a cheap ring, because it creates unconscious obligation rather than genuine desire. Instead, use a memorable scent he'll associate with you, or leave a brief, confident note that shows appreciation without neediness.
Just to tell me when you're ready. No, we actually rolling. America has taken away tea from me, which is very upsetting, but it has given me thin mint Girl Scout cookies. We should get this video started. I don't. I feel like we're gonna get in trouble for this video. I'm just gonna say it. Stop leaving things at guys' houses. I don't mean, you know, six months into a relationship, then, you know, leave your toothbrush, whatever. After being there for a night, when you first met them, don't leave stuff there. This is sometimes done unconsciously, but many times done quite consciously. as a way to both remind him of said lady or to get him to want to return it so that she can see him again. It's never like a really good piece of jewelry. It's never like your grandmother's engagement ring with the diamond ring in that you now have to frantically run back to get. It's always like something that doesn't, like you can leave there for four days and not really worry about it. It's like a two dollar H&M Ring. Some people say, oh, I just left a ring and I forgot. It really wasn't conscious. Fine. But for many people, it is conscious. They leave something behind so that he has a reason to get in touch and to see her again, or she has a reason to get in touch and say, Hey, I left my ring at your house. I need to come and get it. And, you know, if we happen to have a date that same time, that would be great, too. It suggests to him on an unconscious level that you weren't good enough to just for him to just decide he wanted to see you again. You needed to leave something behind that made him obligated to see you again. And no one wants to feel obligated. The moment there's something at his house he knows he has to return, it becomes an obligation to see you. You don't want that feeling in him. You want him to feel like he's selling himself. on the idea of seeing you again. Now you might be thinking, oh it worked for Cinderella, she leaves a glass slipper behind. He has to, you know, he picks it up and he finds it. Yeah, but he didn't have Cinderella's number, you know, it's different. I hope, I hope as I'm saying this that I haven't said anything to the contrary anywhere. I was trying to think, have I anywhere ever recommended leaving something behind like this? I possibly have, but there's an improvement on it. Because, by the way, the psychology kind of works. The idea of, let me leave something behind that's going to remind him of me. But there are better ways of doing that. Of course, by the way, one is scent. If you have a certain fragrance on that he associates with you and he smells that on his pillow later, that's an incredible way of him remembering you without feeling obligated to see you again. And smell, of course, is an extraordinarily powerful mechanism. the smell receptors in the nose are directly linked to the parts of our brain responsible for memory formation and emotion. So smell is a gateway to emotion. If you want him to get the emotion of the date again or being with you, smell is a great way to do that. But there's another great way to do that and that's leaving a note. Leave him a little note on his desk, wherever, that just nothing too long, something that says I had an amazing time with you last night. You are so much fun to be around and you really are an incredible man, whatever you want to say. I'll see you soon, handsome. Kiss. That's it. By the way, not we should see each other soon or, you know, I would love to see you soon, call me, question mark, none of that stuff. Nothing that shows uncertainty. Like complete certainty. I'll see you soon, handsome. Your name, kiss, that's it. Leave the note, get out. That shows no desperation or neediness. It shows sweetness. It shows even a hint of vulnerability, like you're prepared to put your feelings out there and you're not afraid to communicate them, which interestingly and ironically almost also shows massive confidence. But it doesn't give you a reason to see him again in the way that leaving something behind does and create that unconscious obligation, which now makes him feel like he's having to do something before he's even started. You never want to make a guy feel like he has to do something You want him to feel like he wants to, like he sold himself. So that's it. That was pretty good, Jameson. That was better than I thought it was gonna be, dare I say. I don't know. Originally I felt like the premise was a little thin. But, I don't know. She was a sweet one. If you're a Girl Scout, however, don't come to my front door. You are the great enablers. I hate you. Such sweet, sweet hatred.
