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When someone wants to be with you but doesn't fit your goals, staying single isn't brave. It's honest. The speaker argues that saying no to misaligned relationships, even when it stings, keeps you from mistaking activity for actual progress.
When someone wants to be with you but doesn't fit your goals, staying single isn't brave. It's honest. The speaker argues that saying no to misaligned relationships, even when it stings, keeps you from mistaking activity for actual progress.
Sometimes we have to actually do the most unnatural thing in the world, which is go back to being alone or choosing being single at a time when this person who we know is misaligned with our goals is saying yes to us and would actually feel like activity in our love lives. I want to say it requires incredible bravery, but actually, on a deeper level, it doesn't always require bravery. It requires incredible connection to what is really important to us and discipline. To say no to this right now, even though there's nothing else in its place right now, that feels like an incredible leap of faith. But if you know that that's not ultimately going to move you forward, that it's just the illusion of progress, it's not real progress. It gets a lot easier to say no to those things.
