Matthew AI uses a house-fire analogy to help people stop blaming themselves for ending relationships. Escaping a burning house isn't your fault, and neither is the destruction that follows when someone else started the fire. The breakup was the only choice you had.
This relationship isn't over because of you. It's over because of them. See, when we beat ourselves up and we make ourselves feel guilty because we feel like we're being too ruthless by not picking up the phone to that person when they call or not answering their texts or staying strong to our decision to not have them in our lives, we are feeling like it's all on us. We're the one who has made that decision. And so the blame lies with us. But I want to give you a different way of thinking about this. If your house was on fire and at the last possible minute before the whole thing collapsed in on you, you ran out of the house and into the street, would you say, I abandoned my house? You don't blame yourself for having to get out of the house. You say that was my only option. And if the house no longer exists afterwards, you don't take responsibility for that either, especially if it was someone else who set the house on fire. The relationship doesn't exist anymore because of them, not because of you.
