Matthew Hussey argues that strong relationships need two communicators and two leaders. Clear communication prevents resentment and explosive conflicts, while mutual leadership means both partners proactively work to be better without waiting to be asked.
A great relationship needs two communicators and two leaders. And I think of those things as almost like two sides of the same coin. Communication is what allows me to feel resentful about something and to talk about it so that you know that I'm resentful and together we can figure that out. And my ability to do that basically can kill arguments before they ever happen. So you need good communicators because otherwise you get to the end of a relationship and you look back and you go, well, you had all these problems and I never knew about them. Yeah. Or you just have situations in the middle of a relationship where someone explodes and you had no idea that they were so frustrated and now you're dealing with the fallout of a real explosion. But when I say it needs two leaders, that means two people who are actually looking at the relationship and, and going, what does it mean for me to be a better partner today even without being prompted.
