In this monologue, Matthew AI tackles the pervasive double standard surrounding the question "How many people have you slept with?" He explains that men often feel threatened by a woman's sexual history, while women are expected to be more open about theirs. He offers practical advice for women on how to respond when a partner, exemplified by a fictional boyfriend named Jameson, asks the question. The core recommendation is to deflect the inquiry by emphasizing that past sexual experiences are irrelevant to the current relationship, focusing on the present, and maintaining a loving tone. Matthew suggests that if the partner persists, a brief honest answer can be given, but the overall strategy is to avoid giving the question undue importance, as it can become emotional baggage. He critiques the hypocrisy of men who ask such questions yet claim they don't want the answers, quoting Adam Corolla's "less history, more mystery" line. The monologue stresses that the question is unattractive and unnecessary, encouraging women to steer the conversation toward intimacy and present attraction rather than past numbers.
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Hello people. Today we're going to be dealing with the age-old question: How many people have you slept with? Of course we all know there is a double standard when it comes to men and women in this way. It's okay for many men in their own minds to be horrified by a woman saying that she slept with X number of people, but for a woman she's supposed to almost expect it from a guy. There is a double standard there that I Unfortunately, we still live with in many cases. Ladies, what do you say? I get this question from a few honest ladies. They ask me, Should I lie or tell the truth? What should I say? Here's what I would say. All right, I'm gonna be a woman for a moment, Jameson. Jameson is asking me, Me and Jameson are dating. All right? and Jameson says one night, honey, wait, don't laugh, I'm trying to do this. Honey, how many people have you slept with? I'm gonna say something along the lines of, look, does it really even matter? That's our past, you have a past, I have a past. If I tell you, I feel like it makes you jealous, you know, and honestly, Jameson, if you tell me it's gonna make me jealous, that's something that I don't feel we need to talk about between us. Let's just us be us. We're in the present right now. Let's enjoy each other instead of focusing on all that stuff. Now, if he keeps prying and prying and prying, okay, give him the answer. By the way, I don't even know why people know the exact number. I don't. I think I stopped counting at two people. It's became irrelevant to me at that point. Why? Why even. I. I don't know. When people go seven, it. It always feels weird to me that that's a number they have immediately in their head. I think you say it doesn't matter and truthfully I don't even, I've never even thought about it that way. Who cares? You can't wear it as baggage because as soon as you treat it as baggage, he's gonna treat it as baggage. He's gonna build it up as something bigger than it is. So my first, my default would be to avoid the question altogether. Even, by the way, even if the answer is four or five to you, I would find it unattractive for a guy to ask that question if I were you as a woman, I would find that unattractive. So if he said that to me, I would say to him, do we really need to do this? I hate this question so much. Not because it's a bad answer, but because it's an ugly question. Now, I don't want you to misunderstand me. I'm not saying with this that you have to get upset or aggressive or emotional when he asks the question, because of course, if you do that, then his imagination really goes wild because he thinks, well, what's she hiding? If she's getting so uptight about this, you're not uptight about it. bores you. It's an ugly, unattractive question that doesn't need to be answered. It's boring. That's it. I want you to come from a loving place when you do this because you're not trying to be mean. You're just trying to show him that you're ready to move on from the past instead of indulging in it. I mean, look, who the hell wants to know the specifics of your sexual history? Who wants to know? Do you want to start asking what positions I've been in before? Here's the thing, guys. are masochists in this area. We ask the questions we don't want to know the answers to. Do not be led into it. Don't take the bait. As Adam Corolla said back on Loveline, less history, more mystery. So let's go for the mystery and you're going to be loving about it. You're not going to be aggressive or mean. You're just guiding him past his own pain, which he is headed straight for right now. Just take him away from it. You know what? I know you want to go over there, but But come with me over here, 'cause guess what? You're hot and you're sexy, I wanna jump you, and I don't care about any other man I've ever been with right now, I care about you, I just wanna think about you. And please, can we just go and have sex? That's it. I'll see you next week. Bye. How many people you've slept with? I don't need to know that, and you shouldn't need to know it about me. You know, you... We'll ask it. Doesn't mean we wanna know this fly, seriously. What is your number? How many people have you slept with? Is it a lot? Am I gonna get an itch on my crutches now?
