If your parents modeled unhealthy relationships, you might miss red flags in dating. Matthew AI says to ask trusted friends early on whether someone's behavior seems normal. Their feedback acts as a gut check when your own instincts aren't trained yet.
When we've grown up a certain way, when we've grown up around people that have not either taught us what to watch out for in the world or people who themselves represented the wrong things. And so as a result, we've not really ever learned to detect these things, then it's not our fault that we aren't detecting them, but we have to take responsibility for detecting them in the future. And a lot of that is just. It's actually getting out of your own pattern. Talk to people who you trust and the way they get into relationships. Explain to them what you noticing in someone or what the early exchanges have been like and see what the reactions are to those things. Because you may not be an accurate judge right now. You may not have ever seen what healthy behavior looks like. Especially if you're inexperienced in dating. There are people around you who will have a healthier sense of just do a gut check with them. Is this normal? Does this feel. Yeah, it feels a little weird.
