Matthew Hussey explains how couples stuck at home during quarantine can keep their relationship alive. He recommends carving out personal space within your shared home and scheduling intentional date nights with themes, dressing up, or cooking together instead of letting chores take over.
Matthew, did you ever think you would be giving relationship advice during a global pandemic? As a number of coronavirus cases soars above 3,000, elected officials taking unprecedented measures to keep people safe.
Cafes, pubs, bars and restaurants to close. We direct a statewide order for people to stay at home.
I'm in a couple in the quarantine, but I have to tell you, I've been a little bit surprised by how this has taken tested us. So if someone is in a relationship and decided to quarantine together, what advice would you give to them to maintaining the relationship? I would love if you could share some of your thoughts on how to get through this time. If you are in a relationship, we.
Have people who are in relationships who some of whom are being driven crazy right now being in the house all the time with someone. Normally we'd go apart and have all these different activities apart. Now they're together. If you're stuck under the same roof with someone right now, there are going to be times in the middle of the day where you're going to get sick of them you're gonna be like, oh my God, I need my space now. In order to create desire, you need to create space. And if you live under the same roof as someone 24/7, you're gonna have to find ways to engineer space. In the middle of the day, you can have your day to go and focus on the projects that are important to you, and they can go and focus on the projects that are important to them. Your space could be you putting in your headphones and going into your own world. Now, the flip side to that is you also have to go to your partner and arrange Mindful time together. Dating shouldn't go out of the window just because you're in the same house the whole time. Be really intentional about saying to your partner, Hey, what about, why don't we do like a proper movie night tonight? I'm gonna cook you dinner tonight. Make it a beautiful themed movie night. Turn the living room into a theater. Go get groomed. Go like, put on your nice clothes. Like, do get dolled up. Like, feel good for that date and make an effort. Go hard on the detail. Detail is romantic. Detail shows you care. Detail shows that you have an imagination. When you could take your partner into a world, that's magic. You're creating magic. That's really important. You can't allow working and doing chores and cleaning out cupboards and whatever the hell else you're passing your time with. You can't allow that to essentially blind you to the fact that you're living under the same roof but not actually having mindful conscious time together.
