Matthew Hussey offers a two-part script for signaling attraction to someone you've met casually. Call him cute rather than hot, then suggest getting to know each other better. Men respond to this "maybe" moment because uncertainty makes them curious.
Matthew Hussie here with Love Life. We have another question coming in today. This one's a written question from Kathleen. I volunteer with a guy and I like him and want to get to know him better. What should I do to take the next step? Okay, so you volunteer with this guy. What did you say? Did you say you speak to him? Oh, you say you do speak to him. You just want to get to know him better. What you're gonna do next. So look, I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna give you something to go and say to him. We're gonna keep this nice and simple. You're gonna go and say this to him, and it's gonna do two things. It's gonna get you talking to him and actually engaging properly and getting to know him, but it's also gonna create a little spark by showing him that you're a little bit attracted in a really easy way. So the way that you're gonna do this, first you're gonna say, where'd you next see him? Say, we don't, we really don't know each other that well, do we? I feel like we need to know more about each other and allow that to begin the conversation. Okay? But you can say something else after that. You can say, I'm I'm Kate. Let's start. Why don't we just start again? Me and you, we're going to start again. All right, I'm Kate. And then you start that way. Okay? So he's going to say, I'm Adam. And then you're going to have a conversation. But you can say somewhere in that you can say, you know, it's like I keep seeing this cute guy over there and I realize I know nothing about you. and then keep talking. The nice thing about this is, firstly, you're not saying, I keep seeing this hot guy over there, which is a little more forward. You're saying, I keep seeing this cute guy over there. I realize I know nothing about you. I feel like every guy wishes that more women would just say that when they think they're hot. Because if every woman that thought you were hot just said, I, I saw you over there. You look cute. I realize I know nothing about you. That would at least make us feel like, oh, we can talk to this person. And they do think that that we're attractive and this could go somewhere. Okay, that's it. I told you this in a previous episode, men live for the maybe. They live for the maybe. So this is a little maybe moment. Okay, so that's all you're gonna do. We don't know each other very well, do we? I'm Kate. I keep thinking there's this one, there's this cute guy over there I know nothing about and let him carry on from there. He now has it firmly in his mind that you think he's cute. He now has every incentive to pursue you and you really didn't do very much at all. So that's it. I will speak to you soon. This is Matthew Hussey from Love Life. Go follow me on Facebook, facebook.com/matthewhussey and I look forward to speaking to you in the next episode.
