Matthew Hussey argues that trying to win someone over is pointless if they don't need what you offer. Instead of seeking approval, find someone whose needs match the value you bring. If they don't recognize and want that specific value, they're not the right match.
I can't control whether what I have to give is the solution to your problem. And me presenting what I have to offer won't work on the wrong people. The secret is to stop focusing on getting mass approval of our worth, our value, and instead seeing the holy grail of relationships as value fit. In other words, finding a person who sees our value as exactly the kind of value they are looking for. Anyone who doesn't isn't our person.
