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How to Tell a Guy You Like Him (Matthew Hussey)

20 Dec 2020 · 2 min

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In this short monologue, Matthew Hussey (presented as “MATTHEW AI”) challenges the cultural belief that women lose power by openly expressing romantic interest. He argues that the ‘hard‑to‑get’ myth forces women to stay passive, leaving them at the mercy of the loudest men and stripping them of agency in their love lives. Hussey explains that true power comes from deciding who you like and communicating that interest confidently, without placing the other person on a pedestal. He contrasts a weak, static approach—standing still and appearing desperate—with a strong, dynamic approach—acknowledging attraction and then moving forward. He notes that appearing static causes men to lose motivation and eventually disappear, hinting at five additional reasons for male disengagement, which he directs listeners to his website whyhesgone.com for the full list.

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Society has taught us that if we tell someone we like them, we have lost power, especially women. Women are taught from a very young age, if you go over there and communicate interest, you're in some way being needy or desperate or doing the man's job for him. Don't do his job for him. Hold back. Let him come to you. It's the hard to get myth that if I just hang back and do nothing, then I'll attract someone, then I'll keep my power. But hard to get doesn't give you any power. Hard to get puts you at the mercy of fate, of the guys who are the loudest men in the room who decide to come up to you. It doesn't give you choice, it doesn't give you agency over your love life. True power is in deciding who you like and letting them know, but doing it the right way. See, when we go up to someone and communicate we like them from a place of strength, it's like walking up to them and saying, hey, I think you're attractive. I like you. And then moving on with our lives. The weak way of communicating interest is walking up to someone like they're on a giant pedestal, looking up at them and saying, I really like you. And I'm just gonna stay here liking you. Be the train that is leaving the station. not the train that has reached its destination. As soon as somebody thinks you're static, that's when they take their foot off the pedal. That's when they think you'll always be there. That's when they stop chasing. That's when they start disappearing. So that is one reason men disappear. There are five more big reasons why men disappear. I have put them all in one place for you. It's at whyhesgone.com.