Someone ghosted you after two months of texting and three dates, then texted "everything's okay with you?" Don't get excited. There's no apology, no accountability. Not responding is the move. If you need closure, keep it brief. Otherwise move on.
I was seeing someone a few months ago. We talked a lot via text for two months and met only three times. And then he disappeared. I thought we had a great connection. Yesterday he texted me out of the blue, everything is okay with you. How should I respond? Don't we all, when we read that text, go, what the f. Firstly, if you'd never responded to that message again, I would be happy because I feel like you dodged a bullet. But we think it's so important. I'm not making light of the fact that you've been suffering these past months because you've been suffering. That's real. But you're suffering at the disappointment of him. Shouldn't make you excited about his reappearance. It should make you look at that and go, God, this is even more disappointing. Like, he didn't come back and say, God, I'm so sorry I disappeared. I realized, blah, blah, blah, like, I just had to figure some stuff out. I'd love to reconnect. He said, everything's okay with you. What are you talking about?
