Matthew Hussey says filtered dating photos create impossible standards. When real people show up looking like actual humans, daters feel disappointed and keep searching for someone flawless instead of committing to who's in front of them.
Why do you think commitment has become such a big issue? I think it would be remiss not to point out that there is a the general standard that Online Pictures and Profiles has set is bananas. Like, it's so unattainable, but it creates massive entitlement. So we go on a date wanting someone who looks like all these pictures of people we've seen, and then when an actual person shows up with imperfect complexion and, you know, they don't look that way, and everything doesn't have that soft filter on it, and we're like, I've seen what's out there. I've seen what's. I've seen the standard that's out there. I feel like we're judging each other and ourselves by this crazy standard. And it does create a level of entitlement that has us always looking over someone's shoulder.
