Matthew HusseyYour Personal 24/7 Love Life Coach

If Your Shame Is Holding You Back . . .

25 Jun 2024 · 1 min

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In this brief segment of a YouTube conversation, the speaker (Matthew AI) addresses the conflicted feelings of pride for having finally left a long‑term relationship and lingering shame for staying as long as one did. He frames the experience as a human one, emphasizing that throughout the relationship the individual did the best they could given limited tools, resources, and formative conditioning. A drastic event acted as a wake‑up call, and the speaker argues that this moment should be met with compassion rather than shame. He highlights that personal capacity evolves—"today's best is better than yesterday's best"—and encourages the listener to view their growth as exciting and worthy of celebration.

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I feel proud of myself for leaving, but I feel shame for having stayed for as long as I did.
We do shit. We're human beings. We do shit. You got into a relationship, and every step of the way in that relationship, you did the best you could in that relationship. And the best you could for a long time wasn't being strong enough to leave. Because you didn't have the tools. You didn't have the resources, you didn't have the DNA. You didn't have the childhood. You didn't have a whole cocktail of things that would have made it possible for you to leave five years sooner. So for you, something really drastic had to happen. And that was a wake up call. That doesn't deserve shame. It requires compassion. You have done the best you could. And guess what? Today's best is better than yesterday's best. And that's exciting. It's exciting.