Unresolved feelings for someone occupy mental space even when they're gone, preventing you from fully investing in your life and relationships. Holding onto stories about past people can block you from finding a partner.
People say, oh, they're not. They're not stopping me. I still am going out and blah, blah, blah, and doing my thing and whatever. But someone doesn't have to be taking up physical space in your life for them to be taking up mental and emotional space in your life. And as long as you're still holding a candle for someone, there's still that part of you that doesn't go all in on your life on other people is. It's like a story that doesn't end. And those stories can become really, really dangerous.
