A short monologue (YouTube video) arguing that people undervalue kindness in partners, often prioritizing excitement, attractiveness, or accomplishment instead. The speaker warns that an unkind partner may appear fine while things go well but will cause serious harm when stressed, jealous, or insecure, and defines real toxicity as prioritizing personal desires/insecurities over the relationship's well-being.
And I think that too often we value how spicy you are, how exciting you are, how attractive you are, how accomplished you are. And none of us are going, how kind is my partner? Because an unkind person is fine as long as everything's going right. But when something's going wrong or when they feel jealous or when they feel insecure or when they feel threatened or they don't feel like the most important thing that day or whatever, they will F*ck you up. You have to be so aware of that. And I think the toxic people, when we talk about real toxicity, it's someone who really, consciously or unconsciously, is always putting what they, you know, their desires, their needs, their insecurities ahead of what is good for the relationship itself. So good.
