My #1 Tip for Getting Your Dream Love Life (HINT: Resolutions Will Fail You)

Hey guys, it's Matthew. I am here right now on my retreat in Fort Lauderdale, Florida. We're on day three right now of a five and a half day program and I wanted to make a new year message for you to really get you kick started for this year and give you a different level of energy and intensity. January is an important month. I feel like January is like a Monday morning in a week. How we do Monday morning sets us up for the rest of the week. So how we do January 2nd sets us up for the rest of the year. So what's one of the crucial mistakes people make when they first start a year? Well, firstly, they make resolutions and they think that those resolutions are the things that are going to make them successful. If I just have an idea of what I really want to achieve this year, that will make me successful. So they come up with things like I want to lose weight this year or they say, I want to lose 20 pounds. By the way, one is better than the other. If you say I want to lose weight, it's already a very vague goal. If you say I want to lose 20 pounds, at least you have a specific goal. But a goal isn't the same thing as actually having the strategy to get there and putting in place the actions. I wish that people's resolutions would be based more around the action steps they actually have to take. Some people's resolutions are I want to be more sociable this year or I want to find love this year. And you think, well, okay, that's great, but what does that actually mean you're going to do in January? See, there's a phrase that I keep saying to myself and my team, which is resolutions aren't rituals. A ritual is something you do every single day towards your goal. It knows exactly what it is. It's incredibly specific. You know when it's gonna happen. It's not like a habit where it's vague and it's unconscious. A ritual is something that knows what it is. So at the beginning of this year, if we really want to achieve something, we have to start designing rituals that are going to transform our lives. So me and Jameson decided we put together a little clip from past retreat on rituals so that you could understand a bit more about this and what a ritual actually looks like. Check it out.

Actually, it kind of ties in all together. So it's gonna be creating my family unit. I want to go to bed as early as I can because I work every single night pretty late before I go to bed. Someone actually suggested this to Me, I should lay out the clothes for my kids so that I can actually have time with them in the morning while they're showering, I can make breakfast to fulfill our time together at the table every single day. I'm going to be sending my son off to school every day on the bus at 7:30. And then from that, me and my daughter, we can go on a walk together and we can talk and that's where I get my physical activity from. After we walk for at least half an hour, I can read a book that makes me think about myself so I can expand my knowledge and keep feeding my want for understanding and knowledge, which will fulfill my leisure time. Because I'm going to be reading a book every month, at least or around a month. I could choose a parenting book which will expand my mind on how to be a better parent. This will also help my daughter have structure because my son's at school, which will help me feel more accomplished because I feel like she has the opportunity to actually be together with me and be successful in life.

Wow. So you see what I'm talking about about rituals. They're not vague. They're very specific action steps that you do frequently and consistently to get the result you want in life. They're about the 1% shift you make every single day. That may seem small today, but when you actually extrapolate it out over a month, two months, three months, this is where you would have ended up and this is your destination now. All because of a 1% shift today. That's the difference with a ritual. They land you in a completely different destination. That's what we have to have in our lives. That's why I spend half of day two of my retreat is just focused on designing the rituals that people need to be successful. And they're different for each of us. But there are some very common rituals of the successful, both in finances, in love, in health, in their bodies, in friendships that absolutely transform people's results. See, the thing about rituals is that just one great ritual can make your life unrecognizable in three months time. If you had a ritual that said, I'm going to speak to three guys a day from now on in my life. Three new guys a day at the end of two months, at the end of a month, you might have already met the man of your dreams because you spoke to someone that you never would have spoken to had you not had that very specific ritual that you do every single day this January, this month. I want you to design rituals that are Going to take your love life forward. So for a moment, yes, I know you've got goals, but we need to design the rituals that are going to get us there. No vague resolutions. Resolutions aren't rituals. Remember, let's design rituals that are going to make the difference in our love life. This month, I want to make January Action Month. That's the that, Jameson, let's do this. Let's make this month about actually taking action. All of January. Now, I know, like, Valentine's Day is coming up, and that's going to be a time where a lot of other people are going to be thinking, oh, my love life isn't where I want it to be. I need to start taking action in this. And then they're going to feel lonely and somber and depressed and feel like, I need to do something. I need to make a big change. I want to make it our mission that by Valentine's Day, we can just rest easy knowing that we've done what we need to do in our love lives and we're not thinking that, oh, my God, it's Valentine's Day. Woe is me. I need to start taking action. January is Action Month. That means, by the way, if you're not on my mailing list right now, now is the time to get on it. Because over the course of this month, even if you have a ritual that says, I'm going to speak to three new guys a day, that could be your ritual, but you're still going to need to know how to do that. And over the course of this month, I'll mail you certain programs I have that can help you with the actual strategy of how to accomplish your rituals so that you're not just designing rituals, but you also know how to fulfill them. And by the way, around Valentine's Day, I'm going to be doing something very, very special and unique for you guys. I've never done anything like this before. It's a little bit of a social experiment, but I think it's going to go terrifically well. In order to hear about it, first, make sure that you're signed up to my mailing list, because I'm not just going to be mailing you with programs that can help you this month, but I'm also going to be letting you know what I'm doing around Valentine's Day. And it's not going to be to do with anything you have to do. It's not going to be more challenges and more things for you to go out. And actually, my little treat to you this is a reward. So January is Action Month. Valentine's Day is going to be the reward. Stay tuned. Sign up to the mailing list and I'll see you in the next video. And there's one last thing I'd like you to do. When you've thought of the ritual that you're going to implement this month, the thing that you're going to do every single day to contribute towards your dream love life, I want you to write it in the comments. If we can crowdsource all different rituals from different people, we're going to have a ton that we could use ourselves that are going to make the difference. So I think we've got so many intelligent people watching these videos. Let's make the most of that. Write your ritual for your love life in the comments now and sign up to the mailing list and I'll see you in the next video.