Ryan Seacrest And My Crappy T-Shirt

Many of you know that a couple of weeks ago I went on Ryan Seacrest's show, his radio show Kiss FM 8 till 9, I was there. Now I'm not gonna lie to you, I was a little nervous. It's Ryan Seacrest, the man's achieved a hell of a lot, he's built an empire, I really look up to the guy, I look up to anyone who's able to create that. I also know that he's incredibly good at his job, you know, he didn't get where he is for nothing, he got where he is because he got practiced and he got good at doing what he does. The night before my producer said to me, look, we have some questions that we think we might wanna bring in during the show and we'd love you to start thinking about what you wanna say. She also said, by the way, tomorrow we're gonna have a film crew come in and they're gonna film you with Ryan. They're also gonna take some pictures of you and we're gonna publicize them, so make sure you look good. Really look the part, look smart and spiffy. Make sure you're ready. I wake up the next morning, I'm thinking about some of the things that I might wanna say to these questions. I put on my best clothes, I put on a nice jacket, nice shirt, I'm ready. Just as I'm about to leave the house, I get a call from my producer. Changing plan, Ryan can't make it into the studio today. But come in anyway and record your show, Love Life, because we were gonna do that anyway after his taping. I put down the phone, I'm like a little frustrated, I've been thinking about this and preparing some answers and then it's not gonna happen. I'm like, okay, get myself out of that mindset, it'll happen another week. I get all of my clothes off and I go, I put on like this shitty pair of jeans and this old beaten up t-shirt. I'm like, I'm just gonna go casual. Just gonna be me there and my producer, it doesn't matter. We do maybe three or four episodes before I see through the window in front of me in the other booth, people are running around like crazy. Someone runs into the studio and says, Ryan's here. He's here, we didn't know he was gonna be here, he's here now, and he's ready to record the show. I'm thinking, I have to record this show now. This is actually happening. And of course, when something like that happens, we immediately get kind of resentful, we worry that we're not ready, we get panicked, we start making excuses for ourselves. I can't suddenly change the schedule. I can't say, you know what, I know Ryan's here now, but let's do it tomorrow. I can't do that. I have to be ready for this situation. There's no choice. So I have to do something to my internal dialogue. And I want to tell you exactly what I did, because I know it's going to help you in situations where your internal dialogue takes over in a negative way. I made three decisions about my focus in this moment. The first decision I made was get grateful. This is an opportunity. No matter what form it comes in, this is an opportunity. It may have come at a time when I didn't know it was going to come. I may not be completely ready for it, but it's a great opportunity. so grateful to have it in the first place. Second decision I made was get back to basics. Look, if I communicate from a place of meaningful intention and authenticity, if I know what I want to communicate, then I can overcome imperfections in the way I communicate it. I may not have every answer polished in the exact right way. I may not know everything I'm going to say, but if I communicate from my heart and I'm authentic, then I can get through this and the audience is going to feel it and they're going to forgive anything that's not eloquent about what I say or any stuttering because they're gonna feel my passion. And the third decision I made was, this is a learning experience. This is a great moment for me to try performing under pressure in a way where I'm not ready for it, where there are parts of me that wish it would have been at a different time. I now get to perform in a way that is spontaneous and unanticipated, and I know there are gonna be times in my future where I'm gonna have to do this, so I might as well learn now what better way to learn than in a high stakes environment like this. One of the greatest ways to change your state in any given moment is to change your focus. What am I focusing on right now? Is what I'm focusing on empowering me and making me excited or making me feel like I'm in a growth state? Or is what I'm focusing on detrimental to my state? Is it making me feel resentful, frustrated, angry or scared? If you determine your focus, you'll determine how you feel. And of course, when you know you can determine how you feel, you can bring a completely different game to any situation. You can check it out. I've included the videos below on this blog. If you're on YouTube watching this, click through under this video and you'll go through to my blog and you can watch the videos of and Ryan Seacrest. You can watch me go through this process after having faced all of that, which I know you didn't know about before, and you'll see me in my beaten up t-shirt and my jeans going through an interview that I really wasn't ready for or prepared for. And maybe it'll help you learn something too for the next situation you're in that throws you off guard. Take care, my friends. I will see you soon.