In this YouTube monologue, Matthew Hussey (presented as āMATTHEW AIā) explains why good conversation alone rarely secures subsequent dates. He argues that successful earlyāstage dating requires two elements: a genuine connection and a clear sense that each person feels desired. Hussey critiques the common mistake of focusing solely on conversation without expressing sexual attraction. He proposes an indirect yet explicit technique: compliment the personās passion while slipping in a remark about physical attraction (e.g., āI thought your passion was endearingā¦ I also sent you a message because I thought you were really handsomeā). This phrasing signals sexual interest without being overt, thereby turning connection into chemistry. He emphasizes that even a small statement can ignite chemistry and move the relationship forward. At the end, he promotes his paid program āHow to Talk to Men,ā which claims to provide 59 specific lines to create massive attraction, and invites viewers to check the link.
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We can go on a date and have a great chat with someone, have a great connection, feel like, oh wow, this was fun. We got on really well. But that doesn't secure the next date. Simply having good conversation on a date isn't necessarily enough to create a second date or a third date. Because when we see someone romantically, There are two things that are really necessary. One is the connection that we often feel when we have great conversation with someone, when we feel like time just flew by. And the other one is the sense that we actually feel desired by that person. And I really believe one of the things that people do wrong in the early stages of dating is that they don't actually show any desire for the other person. They have great conversation. They can talk and talk and talk. Oh my god, three hours passed and we're still talking. But I still don't know if you find me attractive on that level. So how do you do this? Are you ready? It's revolutionary. Tell them. Tell them that you find them desirable. There's an indirect way to do this. Let's say there was someone that you were particularly attracted to because of their passion about what they do. You could say to someone, When I first met you, I thought your passion was really endearing, like I really enjoyed that about you. I mean, of course, I also sent you a message because I thought you were really handsome. But your passion for what you do, I just found really intriguing. I'm slipping it in there as if it's a side note, but what I'm really telling you is I am sexually attracted to you, and thereby I'm communicating that A, I am a sexual being, understated in its importance by the way, and B it shows that I have it towards you. I really believe that so often things don't progress because people might have a kind of connection but they don't have chemistry and even a tiny thing like this can fuel chemistry where before there was only connection. By the way, if you like this kind of content where I give you very specific things that you can say to a person to create attraction, I have a program called How to Talk to Men, which literally gives you 59 different things you can say to create massive attraction with the person that you like. That is me though, yeah. Go check that out at this link and otherwise I will see you next week.
