Matthew AI describes attraction as a dance where you move forward, then watch how they respond. Text after a date to show interest, treat it as a small experiment, and let their reaction tell you what they're willing to give. Healthy relationships teach the other person how to love you through how you love them.
Attraction is a dance. Attraction is I take one step forward, and then I take a step back. And you step into my lane here. Now I take another step forward. And now I take another step back. When I take a step forward, you take a step back. When I take a step back, you take a step forward. But we're here, we're dancing. It's not chase, chase, chase, chase, chase. So invest and then test. If I give a little. If I take a step forward. Do you now take a step forward? Invest, then test. And I also think about this in terms of modeling the behavior that we want to see instead of mirroring the behavior that someone else is giving us. Let me give you an example of that. You go on a date with someone and they don't text you. People ask me, can I text them? Of course you can text them. That's just taking a step forward. And what you're doing is you're modeling what you want to see from them, and that's okay. That's how we get the relationships we want, is we teach people how to love us by the way that we love them. We teach them how to invest in us by the way that we invest in them. But we don't. We only do it in small mini experiments. That's how we safeguard our own energy.
