In this motivational talk, Matthew Hussey distinguishes between routine rejections—such as being turned down for a phone number or encountering someone already in a relationship—and a deeper, more painful form of rejection that occurs when a person we have grown close to, and whose opinion we value, decides not to pursue a relationship with us. He emphasizes that this type of rejection can happen to anyone, regardless of status or background, and warns against internalizing it as a personal flaw. Hussey reminds listeners that we also reject great people and that the person who truly belongs with us is the one who actively chooses us, not merely someone who checks all the boxes of desirable qualities. He encourages continuous self‑improvement and the pursuit of a partner who both possesses admirable traits and genuinely wants to be with us. The talk concludes with a call to join his community on Facebook.
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Matthew Hussey here with Love Life. I want to talk today about a sensitive subject, rejection and a particular type of rejection, because there's a, there's a kind of rejection that in a way we become accustomed to if we're in the business of going out there and, and putting ourselves up for that kind of rejection. In other words, if we go out a lot and we're keen on meeting someone, we know that we're going to get rejected a few times along the way. We know we're going to go and talk to someone in a bar. They're gonna decide that they don't want to give us out their number. We're gonna meet someone who already has a partner. Those types of rejections are kind of common. And if you're actually the type of person that follows my advice and does go out there and do it, you've probably become used to that kind of moment. But there's a type of rejection that hurts a lot more. And that's when we've gotten to know someone and maybe we've been dating them for a little while. Doesn't mean we've been in a relationship with them, although you may have been, but just someone we've we've gotten a little close to and whose opinion has come to matter to us. When this person that we hold in high esteem rejects us, it can be really painful. And it's really painful because we really do think that this person has smart views on life and on people, and they have made a decision that they do not want to be with us. There are a couple of things that I want you to remember about this type of rejection. The first thing is that it can happen to anybody. It does not matter who you are. It does not matter where you are from. It does not matter how much you have. This type of rejection can happen to anybody on this planet. Sometimes we make it very personal. We make it about ourselves. And that is when we start saying, well, if someone that great didn't want me, then there must be something wrong with me. I must not be as great as that person. Everyone gets rejected at some point. And sometimes the hardest thing in the world is when we think we're pretty great and someone that we also think is pretty great tells us that they don't want us. It's a really tough thing to have to go through it. It tremendously can bruise our egos and leave us wondering if we're as great as we thought we were. But always remember this, there are times in our lives where we've rejected great people. There are times in our lives where we've let go of a great thing or where we've overlooked a great thing. Just because someone is great, it doesn't mean they don't have the potential to be wrong. It can be even more complex. It can be that someone else may have come along in their lives right now that is like a shiny object that seems to be saying and doing all of the right things in the short term, but actually on closer inspection won't turn out to have all of the great qualities you do. But unfortunately, you're losing out right now because they seem like they have it all in the moment. Sometimes in life, people make bad decisions or Maybe it was the right decision for them, and maybe there's someone even better for us than this person that we don't even know about yet. Maybe this person we hold in such high esteem isn't the person for us. Maybe they have qualities we like. That's important. But the person we're ultimately going to be with has not only those qualities that we like, but has more that we didn't even know we like yet. the important thing is that we continue to work on ourselves. We continue to make ourselves the most incredible version of ourselves. And we keep searching for that person who not only has great qualities, but also wants to shine their light on us and say, yes, you're the person for me. Remember, always the right person is the person that chooses you, not just the person that has all of the great qualities that you like. Thank you so much for listening, guys. Come join me on Facebook if you haven't already. It's facebook.com/coachmatthewhussy and I'll speak to you soon.
